Relocation consent for minor child to the Netherlands – Advocate Muhammad Abduroaf
How does one get divorced in South Africa? Adv. Muhammad Abduroaf unpacks the legal process in a simplified manner.
Written by Adv. Muhammad Abduroaf – LL.B LL.M Advocate of the High Court of South AfricaLegal Advice on getting divorced
If you want to get divorced from your spouse, I strongly advise that you approach a legal practitioner, or an attorney to attend to it on your behalf. This I would implore even more under the following circumstances: – There will be a dispute over care and visitation rights over the child/children; – One of the parties will be applying for forfeiture of patrimonial benefits from a marriage in community of property; – The joint estate is huge or complicated; or – The other party will be making use of legal representation. 
If, however, you would like to know the general procedures on how to go about in obtaining a divorce decree; they are listed summarily below. Many rules regulate divorce processes and the summary below does exclude some of them. These include exceptions, strikeouts, compelling compliance, service addresses etc. Other matters incidental to divorce proceedings, e.g. interim arrangements pending the divorce regarding maintenance for you or your children and care and contact regarding children are not dealt with. Therefore, please consult a legal practitioner or the divorce court throughout your divorce process should you decide to do the divorce yourself.Summons and Particulars of Claim
A summons needs to be drafted which should be issued by the divorce court to commence the divorce process. It should have on it the details of the court you will be issuing the divorce from, details of the parties, e.g. names, occupation, and address, etc. Every High Court in the area where you live has the authority to attend to a divorce. You may also approach the Magistrate’s Court. Each court has its own rules and procedures. You should then draft a document called “particulars of claim” outlining relevant matters concerning the marriage, children, reasons for wanting a divorce and what do you want the court to grant you in a divorce order. This particulars of claim you attach to the summons. Once you have your summons and particulars of claim in order, you have to have the summons issued. To do this, make three (3) copies of your set of documents (summons and particulars of Claim) and have it issued at court. Other documents may have to be attached as well.Issuing and Service of the Divorce Summons
Once you are at the court, go to the clerk/registrar of the court and have your documents issued. The clerk/registrar will sign the summons and provide a case number and write it on the summons. You should then take the original and a copy (both must be signed and stamped by the clerk/registrar of the court) and take it to the sheriff which serves documents where your spouse works or lives. You can ask the clerk/registrar of the court for those details. The extra—copy of the summons and particulars of claim you keep for your file and records.Notice of intention to defend the divorce
Once the sheriff served the documents, your spouse has two weeks to inform you whether he or she will be defending the divorce. This information is outlined in the summons. If your spouse decided not to defend the divorce action, then after two weeks has elapsed, you may set the matter down as an undefended divorce. If your spouse intends to defend the divorce, he or she would then have to do as outlined next.Plea to particulars of claim in divorces
Once you received notice of your spouse’s intention to defend the divorce, about a month later, your spouse or his or attorney should serve and file a plea. The plea should outline which parts of your particulars of claim your spouse agree (or disagree) with which would give everyone an indication of what to prove at court.Counter Claim in Divorce Actions
Your spouse might want to file a counter-claim. In the same way, which you outlined your case as to what you want from the court and the reasons therefore in your particulars of claim, your spouse can file on you as well a counter-claim. A counter-claim might still be filed if your spouse agrees to a divorce, but maybe wants primary care of the children, but in your particulars of claim, you asked for primary care. You should then within 10 (ten) days plead to the counter-claim in the same manner in which your spouse pleaded to your particulars of claim.Discovery in divorce cases
While you are waiting for a trial date, and way before the trial, you may ask, or may be asked to provide under oath a schedule of books and documents in your possession and under your control relating to the divorce. This could be policy documents, deeds etc, and which you or your spouse might want to make use of at trial. Once you received these schedules you may inspect and request copies of the documents.Obtaining a trial date for the divorce
Once you received the plea, without a counter-claim, or have pleaded to your spouses counter-claim, you should then approach the clerk/registrar of the court for a trial date. This you or your spouse may do. Please note that certain courts may have other procedures that need to first be adhered to before obtaining a trial date. For example pre-trial conferences before a judicial officer etc.Divorce day / Trial date (Finalising the Divorce)
If your spouse does not defend the divorce within the period mentioned above, go back to court and ask for an unopposed divorce date and attend to your divorce on that date. If however your divorce is defended, a trial should ensure. During the trial, each party will prove his or her case. Witnesses will be called and at the end, the Magistrate or Judge will deliver the judgment. Best of luck, and please, don’t take my word, contact a legal practitioner should you decide to get divorced. Advocate Muhammad Abduroaf (Cape Town | Western Cape LL.B & LL.M (Master of Laws) Constitutional Litigation – Advocate of the High Court of South Africa – Member of the Legal Practice Council of South Africa We are certain that you found the above article useful and interesting. Please consider sharing it on the share buttons below. They include Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, WhatsApp, Gmail and more. Someone may find it useful as well. Should you require business advice or services, feel free to click on these links: Business SA | Private Legal | Envirolaws
How to get urgent Access to your Children without the services of a Lawyer (Attorney or Advocate)
Are you a father or mother of a child and the other parent refuses you access/contact to that child? If that is the case, you have a right to relief from the Court for Urgent Access. A couple would bring a child into this world. Whilst the relationship is ongoing, they can see eye to eye on what is best for the child and both parties form a productive part of the child’s life. Even if the couple is not living together, the father would see the child regularly and bond with the child as is needed. However, once the relationship has severed, it often happens that the parties cannot see eye to eye on what is best for the child regarding regular contact by the father. The mother would either blatantly refuse the father access or would place strict measures on when and how the father can see the child. Should the mother refuse access or prescribe access to the child, which is not in the child’s best interest, the father, in this case, would have grounds to urgently approach the Court for relief. Court procedure is very complicated. It is therefore strongly advised that you approach an attorney with knowledge and experience with these urgent applications. Furthermore, the attorney should have an advocate at hand to move the Application with or without opposition at Court. However, if you wish to do it yourself, read further should you wish to make the Application in the High Court.The Procedure
Your application is urgent and therefore it is done on affidavit and not orally in Court. You may, however, be called to give oral evidence if the Judge so wishes. This is to clarify certain issues. However, this can mostly be avoided if your papers are properly drafted. You should firstly draft a document called a Notice of Motion and a founding affidavit. I shall explain these documents next. Although reference below may be made to an attorney or advocate, you may attend to the process yourself. Lastly, for the sake of simplicity, the term contact and access is used, as opposed to care and contact.Notice of Motion
In this document, you state exactly what you want the Judge to grant you. It is similar to the prayers in a summons. Of course, you want the Judge to grant you urgent access to your child. You are making the application urgently and sidestepping some rules of Court regarding time periods and procedure. The first thing you should, therefore, ask the Court is to condone non-compliance with its Rules. You will then ask the Court what relief you want, usually in the form of an interim order to be finalised later. Usually, you will ask for a rule nisi. An example of the prayers in an urgent access application in the High Court are as follows:- Condoning the Applicant’s non-compliance with forms and service and time periods provided in the Uniform Rules of this Honourable Court and permitting this Application to be entertained as a matter of urgency in terms of Rule 6(12) of the Rules of Court;
- That a Rule Nisi be issued, calling upon the Respondent to appear before Court on ____________________ 2026 at 10:00, in order to show cause why an Interim Order should not be confirmed in the following terms:-
- That the Applicant shall have unsupervised contact to the minor child as follows:
- Every alternative weekend commencing from Friday 18:00 to Sunday at 18:00.
- That the provisions above shall operate as an Interim Order, with immediate effect, pending the return date of the Rule Nisi;
This document is signed by your attorney, or by you if, you are acting in person.
Founding Affidavit
In your Founding Affidavit, you provide relevant information under oath. Here you would provide details of you, the mother and the child. You would also need to provide information on a few or more of the following matters:- Background information about your relationship with the mother of the child;
- Past access to the child;
- Past involvement in the child’s life;
- When access to the child seized/lessened and the circumstances surrounding it;
- Past maintenance or attempts to maintain the child;
- Why the application is urgent and substantive redress in due course would not be afforded to you; and
- Any other relevant information.
Issue and Service of the Application
Once the Notice of Motion and Founding Affidavit is in order, your attorney would make the necessary copies. Thereafter he would have the application issued at Court. A case number would be provided. If possible, you would have the application served on the mother of the child timeously. The Office of the Family Advocate should also be served. Here you may make use of the office of the Sheriff or your attorney would serve the papers on the mother.Opposition
If the mother of the child opposes the relief sort after being served with the Application, she should file an opposing affidavit to which you would have to reply. The parties would then have to argue the matter before the Judge.Urgent Hearing at the High Court
If your matter has been set down on the Motion Court Roll, the Judge would have already read over the papers filed. You would then wait for your matter to be called up. Should your matter is to be heard before the Urgent Judge on duty that day, you or your Advocate would have to take the file to the Judge beforehand to read. If the mother or her Advocate is present at Court, and the parties cannot settle the matter, they would then have to argue the matter before the Judge. If, however, the mother after having been duly served does not appear at court, then the process is a bit faster.After the judge decided on the matter, the following might happen:
- The Judge would grant the urgent access requested;
- Grant you urgent access but not on the terms as requested;
- Refuse to grant you any relief without a family advocate report;
- Dismiss your application for lack of merits and/or urgency.
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- That the Applicant shall have unsupervised contact to the minor child as follows:
- Every alternative weekend commencing from Friday 18:00 to Sunday at 18:00.