Top tips from a Senior Family Law Advocate on how to deal with your Child Custody matter in the Stellenbosch Children’s Court

 

Family law legal matters can be very stressful. This is so whether you live in Stellenbosch or any other city in South Africa. Especially so if you have no idea how the legal processes work. It is one thing to know that you are entitled to child support, but it is a totally different matter to know the law and procedure on how to claim child support. Luckily in child maintenance matters, the maintenance court is there to assist you in completing the application form. However, many times that is not enough. Especially so if the other parent has a lawyer and knows how to present the case for his or her client.

This article, however, deals with some top tips in care and contact or custody matters in the Children’s Court in Stellenbosch. It would explain the processes involved and advise on how to be best prepared for your matter. This advice is applicable whether you live in Stellenbosch or any other city in South Africa.

What to do before visiting the Stellenbosch Children’s Court

Before you approach the Children’s Court in Stellenbosch, first try to resolve the issues with the other parent. Therefore, if you want more contact with your child and the other parent is refusing, try to resolve the matter first with that parent. If that does not work, try mediation. The mediator can be anyone, from a trusted mutual friend, priest, or other religious leaders, or a professional like an attorney, psychologist, or the office of the Family Advocate. Stellenbosch has many professionals that can assist you in this regard. If resolving the matter by yourselves is not possible, or mediation fails, then we suggest you approach the Stellenbosch Children’s Court for assistance.

TIP: Focus on getting someone neutral to assist in mediating your matter. Organisations like FAMSA and FAMAC can be of assistance. Google them.

Approaching the Stellenbosch Children’s Court

The Stellenbosch Children’s Court should be approached if it is the closest Children’s Court to you. You need to verify with the Stellenbosch Children’s Court that you fall under their area of jurisdiction. If not, they would direct you to which Children’s Court is applicable to you.

Once you arrive at the Stellenbosch Children’s Court, they will provide you with a form headed “Bringing Matter to Court in Terms of Section 53 Children’s Act, 2005 (Act no. 38 of 2005) Regulation Relating to Children’s Court and International Child Abduction, 2008 [Regulation 6]. This form is also called Form 2.

In this form, you will provide all your particulars and that of the child or children and the other parent. The sections in the form are as follows:

  • PART A: PARTICULARS OF CHILD(REN)
  • PART B: PARTICULARS OF *CHILD WHO IS AFFECTED BY OR INVOLVED IN THE MATTER/PERSON *ACTING IN THE INTEREST OF THE CHILD/*ON BEHALF OF THE CHILD WHO CANNOT ACT IN HIS/HER OWN NAME/ *MEMBER OF A GROUP OF CLASS OF CHILDREN/*IN THE PUBLIC INTEREST (SECTION 53(2)
  • PART C: PARTICULARS OF PERSONS HAVING AN INTEREST IN THE MATTER
  • PART D: PARTICULARS OF MATTER

In part D, the following is stated which you need to provide in the form:

  • Nature of matter brought to Court: (Please give full details of the matter e.g., registration/amendment of parenting plans, removal of child to safe care, children in need of care and protection, placement in youth care centers, adoption etc.
  • Documents: Are there any documents relating to the matter? (If so please attach)

Once you have completed the form and attached the relevant documents to it, you must take it to a commissioner of Oaths to have it commissioned. It does not have to be in Stellenbosch.

TIP: Draft a separate affidavit explaining your case. Outline some background information and reasons why the Court should give you what you request. Attach it to Form 2.

Processing your Application at the Stellenbosch Children’s Court

Once you complete the Form A and submit it to the Clerk of the Stellenbosch Children’s Court, they will process it and allocate it a case number or reference number. The Clerk of the Court would then allocate a date to the matter and advise the parties accordingly when the court date is. Please note that some courts follow a different process for processing the application and informing the parties of the court date. Please enquire from the Court when making the application what process they follow.

TIP: Obtain the contact details of the Court for you to contact them to obtain the Court date or other information. Ask for their contact number and email address.

Appearing in the Stellenbosch Children’s Court

When notified of the Court date, both you and the other parent should attend. If you are making use of a lawyer (Advocate or Attorney), inform them timeously of the date. Depending on the Court, you may first see the Clerk or go directly to the Magistrate. The Children’s Court would do its best to try to resolve the matter. If the parents cannot come to an agreement, the Children’s Court may postpone the matter for either of the following:

  • Get a social worker involved in the matter;
  • Appoint a legal representative for the minor child;
  • Implement interim care and contact arrangements;
  • Having the parties attempt to agree on a parenting plan;
  •  

In serious matters, the Court may remove the minor child from both parents and place the child in foster care. The powers of the Children’s Court are extensive. It will, however, focus on what is in the child’s best interests.

TIP: Be as vocal as possible. Do not expect the Court to be understanding of your case or be on your side. It is your duty to explain your case and provide the Court with all the relevant information they require for them to make a fair decision.

Finalising the matter in the Stellenbosch Children’s Court

Once the Stellenbosch Children’s Court has enough information to make a final decision, it will do so. Depending on the facts of the matter, that could either be making a Parenting Plan, an Order of the Court or a final care and contact Order. The Court may even make further interim orders, where the parties are to return to Court after a few months, or a year later.

TIP: Do not agree to something just because the social worker, a lawyer, or the Court suggest it. You need to be happy with what is decided.

The above Stellenbosch Children’s Court Application tips should apply to the following provinces and cities:

Eastern Cape:

Alice, Butterworth, East London, Graaff-Reinet, Grahamstown, King William’s Town, Mthatha

Port Elizabeth, Queenstown, Uitenhage, Zwelitsha

Free State:

Bethlehem. Bloemfontein, Jagersfontein, Kroonstad, Odendaalsrus, Parys, Phuthaditjhaba, Sasolburg, Virginia, Welkom

Gauteng:

Benoni, Boksburg, Brakpan, Carletonville, Germiston, Johannesburg, Krugersdorp, Pretoria, Randburg, Randfontein, Roodepoort, Soweto, Springs, Vanderbijlpark, Vereeniging

KwaZulu-Natal:

Durban, Empangeni, Ladysmith, Newcastle, Pietermaritzburg, Pinetown, Ulundi, Umlazi

Limpopo:

Giyani, Lebowakgomo, Musina, Phalaborwa, Polokwane, Seshego, Sibasa, Thabazimbi

Mpumalanga:

Emalahleni, Nelspruit, Secunda, North West, Klerksdorp, Mahikeng, Mmabatho, Potchefstroom, Rustenburg, Northern Cape, Kimberley, Kuruman, Port Nolloth

Western Cape:

Bellville, Stellenbosch, Constantia, George, Hopefield, Oudtshoorn, Paarl, Simon’s Town, Stellenbosch, Swellendam, Worcester

Top tips from a Senior Family Law Advocate on how to deal with your Child Custody matter in the Stellenbosch Children’s Court

 

Family law legal matters can be very stressful. This is so whether you live in Stellenbosch or any other city in South Africa. Especially so if you have no idea how the legal processes work. It is one thing to know that you are entitled to child support, but it is a totally different matter to know the law and procedure on how to claim child support. Luckily in child maintenance matters, the maintenance court is there to assist you in completing the application form. However, many times that is not enough. Especially so if the other parent has a lawyer and knows how to present the case for his or her client.

This article, however, deals with some top tips in care and contact or custody matters in the Children’s Court in Stellenbosch. It would explain the processes involved and advise on how to be best prepared for your matter. This advice is applicable whether you live in Stellenbosch or any other city in South Africa.

What to do before visiting the Stellenbosch Children’s Court

Before you approach the Children’s Court in Stellenbosch, first try to resolve the issues with the other parent. Therefore, if you want more contact with your child and the other parent is refusing, try to resolve the matter first with that parent. If that does not work, try mediation. The mediator can be anyone, from a trusted mutual friend, priest, or other religious leaders, or a professional like an attorney, psychologist, or the office of the Family Advocate. Stellenbosch has many professionals that can assist you in this regard. If resolving the matter by yourselves is not possible, or mediation fails, then we suggest you approach the Stellenbosch Children’s Court for assistance.

TIP: Focus on getting someone neutral to assist in mediating your matter. Organisations like FAMSA and FAMAC can be of assistance. Google them.

Approaching the Stellenbosch Children’s Court

The Stellenbosch Children’s Court should be approached if it is the closest Children’s Court to you. You need to verify with the Stellenbosch Children’s Court that you fall under their area of jurisdiction. If not, they would direct you to which Children’s Court is applicable to you.

Once you arrive at the Stellenbosch Children’s Court, they will provide you with a form headed “Bringing Matter to Court in Terms of Section 53 Children’s Act, 2005 (Act no. 38 of 2005) Regulation Relating to Children’s Court and International Child Abduction, 2008 [Regulation 6]. This form is also called Form 2.

In this form, you will provide all your particulars and that of the child or children and the other parent. The sections in the form are as follows:

  • PART A: PARTICULARS OF CHILD(REN)
  • PART B: PARTICULARS OF *CHILD WHO IS AFFECTED BY OR INVOLVED IN THE MATTER/PERSON *ACTING IN THE INTEREST OF THE CHILD/*ON BEHALF OF THE CHILD WHO CANNOT ACT IN HIS/HER OWN NAME/ *MEMBER OF A GROUP OF CLASS OF CHILDREN/*IN THE PUBLIC INTEREST (SECTION 53(2)
  • PART C: PARTICULARS OF PERSONS HAVING AN INTEREST IN THE MATTER
  • PART D: PARTICULARS OF MATTER

In part D, the following is stated which you need to provide in the form:

  • Nature of matter brought to Court: (Please give full details of the matter e.g., registration/amendment of parenting plans, removal of child to safe care, children in need of care and protection, placement in youth care centers, adoption etc.
  • Documents: Are there any documents relating to the matter? (If so please attach)

Once you have completed the form and attached the relevant documents to it, you must take it to a commissioner of Oaths to have it commissioned. It does not have to be in Stellenbosch.

TIP: Draft a separate affidavit explaining your case. Outline some background information and reasons why the Court should give you what you request. Attach it to Form 2.

Processing your Application at the Stellenbosch Children’s Court

Once you complete the Form A and submit it to the Clerk of the Stellenbosch Children’s Court, they will process it and allocate it a case number or reference number. The Clerk of the Court would then allocate a date to the matter and advise the parties accordingly when the court date is. Please note that some courts follow a different process for processing the application and informing the parties of the court date. Please enquire from the Court when making the application what process they follow.

TIP: Obtain the contact details of the Court for you to contact them to obtain the Court date or other information. Ask for their contact number and email address.

Appearing in the Stellenbosch Children’s Court

When notified of the Court date, both you and the other parent should attend. If you are making use of a lawyer (Advocate or Attorney), inform them timeously of the date. Depending on the Court, you may first see the Clerk or go directly to the Magistrate. The Children’s Court would do its best to try to resolve the matter. If the parents cannot come to an agreement, the Children’s Court may postpone the matter for either of the following:

  • Get a social worker involved in the matter;
  • Appoint a legal representative for the minor child;
  • Implement interim care and contact arrangements;
  • Having the parties attempt to agree on a parenting plan;
  •  

In serious matters, the Court may remove the minor child from both parents and place the child in foster care. The powers of the Children’s Court are extensive. It will, however, focus on what is in the child’s best interests.

TIP: Be as vocal as possible. Do not expect the Court to be understanding of your case or be on your side. It is your duty to explain your case and provide the Court with all the relevant information they require for them to make a fair decision.

Finalising the matter in the Stellenbosch Children’s Court

Once the Stellenbosch Children’s Court has enough information to make a final decision, it will do so. Depending on the facts of the matter, that could either be making a Parenting Plan, an Order of the Court or a final care and contact Order. The Court may even make further interim orders, where the parties are to return to Court after a few months, or a year later.

TIP: Do not agree to something just because the social worker, a lawyer, or the Court suggest it. You need to be happy with what is decided.

The above Stellenbosch Children’s Court Application tips should apply to the following provinces and cities:

Eastern Cape:

Alice, Butterworth, East London, Graaff-Reinet, Grahamstown, King William’s Town, Mthatha

Port Elizabeth, Queenstown, Uitenhage, Zwelitsha

Free State:

Bethlehem. Bloemfontein, Jagersfontein, Kroonstad, Odendaalsrus, Parys, Phuthaditjhaba, Sasolburg, Virginia, Welkom

Gauteng:

Benoni, Boksburg, Brakpan, Carletonville, Germiston, Johannesburg, Krugersdorp, Pretoria, Randburg, Randfontein, Roodepoort, Soweto, Springs, Vanderbijlpark, Vereeniging

KwaZulu-Natal:

Durban, Empangeni, Ladysmith, Newcastle, Pietermaritzburg, Pinetown, Ulundi, Umlazi

Limpopo:

Giyani, Lebowakgomo, Musina, Phalaborwa, Polokwane, Seshego, Sibasa, Thabazimbi

Mpumalanga:

Emalahleni, Nelspruit, Secunda, North West, Klerksdorp, Mahikeng, Mmabatho, Potchefstroom, Rustenburg, Northern Cape, Kimberley, Kuruman, Port Nolloth

Western Cape:

Bellville, Stellenbosch, Constantia, George, Hopefield, Oudtshoorn, Paarl, Simon’s Town, Stellenbosch, Swellendam, Worcester

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Finding the right lawyer (Attorney or Advocate) to fight for you in your contractual dispute in Polokwane. Read further below about a “Bulldog Lawyer”)

Contract law is the bedrock of business and day-to-day transactions, providing a framework for parties to define their rights, obligations, and expectations. However, disputes can arise when one or more parties feel that the terms of the contract have been violated. This can apply to an employment contract, lease agreement, marriage contract, or one where you lent someone money. Even buying groceries at your local grocery is a contractual transaction. You pay, and he provides you with the goods. The list is endless.

All is good until someone violates the terms of the contract. This is where you may want to use an attorney or advocate in Polokwane. Read further below about what is referred to as a “bulldog lawyer”. If the other side is playing hardball or has a bulldog lawyer, then having a tough lawyer who takes no-nonsense is something that you must consider. Please note that the law on contractual disputes would be the same whether you live in Polokwane or any other city in South Africa.

Let us get into the theory. Navigating the complexities of contract law disputes requires a clear understanding of the legal principles and practical strategies for resolution.

Critical Elements of Contract Law are as follows:

Formation of Contract:

Before delving into disputes, it’s essential to understand how contracts are formed. A valid contract typically requires an offer, acceptance, consideration, legal capacity, and legality of purpose. Disputes may arise if any of these elements are in question. If you are entering into a high value contact, it may be best to consult with an advocate or attorney beforehand.

Types of Contracts:

Contracts can take various forms, such as express, implied, unilateral, and bilateral. Understanding the nature of the contract is crucial in determining the rights and obligations of the parties involved.

Common Contract Disputes:

Breach of Contract:

The most prevalent type of contract dispute arises from a breach. This occurs when one party fails to fulfil its obligations outlined in the contract. It could involve non-payment, incomplete performance, or failure to deliver goods or services.

Misrepresentation:

If one party makes false statements that induce another to enter a contract, it may lead to a dispute. Misrepresentation can be innocent, negligent, or fraudulent, each carrying different legal consequences.

Duress and Undue Influence:

Contracts entered under duress or undue influence may be deemed voidable. If one party was coerced or pressured into an agreement, it could lead to a dispute over the contract’s validity.

What follows are resolution strategies when it comes to contract disputes.

Negotiation:

Often, disputes can be resolved through negotiation. Parties can discuss the issues, explore compromises, and reach a mutually acceptable resolution without legal action. You should use a tough lawyer to represent you if the other side is unreasonable.

Mediation:

Mediation involves a neutral third-party facilitating discussions between the parties to help them resolve. It is a voluntary and confidential process that can be less adversarial than litigation.

Arbitration:

Arbitration is a more formal process where an arbitrator or a panel makes a binding decision after hearing both sides. It provides a faster and more private resolution compared to traditional court proceedings.

Litigation:

If all else fails, parties may resort to litigation. This involves taking the dispute to court, presenting evidence, and having a judge decide. Litigation can be time-consuming and costly, but it provides a definitive resolution.

Conclusion:

Contract law disputes are an inherent risk in business transactions, but understanding the principles and available resolution strategies can mitigate potential damage. Whether through negotiation, mediation, arbitration, or litigation, the goal is to find a fair and just resolution that upholds the integrity of the contractual relationship. As businesses continue to engage in complex transactions, a comprehensive understanding of contract law and dispute resolution mechanisms is essential for navigating the legal landscape successfully. When meeting with an advocate or attorney to assist you in your contractual dispute, discuss the above issues or factors with him or her to find out if they know what they are talking about.

What is a bulldog lawyer?

A “bulldog lawyer” is a colloquial term used to describe a lawyer (attorney or advocate) known for their aggressive and tenacious approach to legal representation. The term draws an analogy between the lawyer’s characteristics and those of a bulldog, known for its solid and determined demeanour. Bulldog lawyers are often associated with being assertive, persistent, and unwavering in pursuing their client’s interests.

Key characteristics of a bulldog lawyer may include:

Aggressiveness: Bulldog lawyers are known for their assertive and forceful advocacy on behalf of their clients. They are unafraid to challenge opponents and vigorously pursue their client’s objectives.

Tenacity:

Bulldog lawyers are persistent and determined in their legal pursuits. They may be willing to go to great lengths to achieve their client’s goals and are known for not easily giving up in the face of challenges.

Fearlessness:

Bulldog lawyers are often unafraid to take on tough cases or confront powerful adversaries. They may be known for their willingness to face complex legal battles head-on.

Advocacy Skills: Bulldog lawyers possess strong advocacy skills, including effective communication, negotiation, and litigation abilities. They can passionately argue their client’s case in court or during negotiations.

Strategic Thinking:

While aggressive, bulldog lawyers are also strategic in their approach. They carefully plan their legal strategies and tactics to achieve the best possible outcome for their clients.

It’s important to note that “bulldog lawyer” can have positive and negative connotations. On the positive side, it highlights an attorney’s dedication and commitment to their clients. On the negative side, it may suggest an overly aggressive or abrasive style that may not be suitable for all legal matters or personalities.

 

 

How do I strategies my child maintenance case? I am struggling to grasp how to approach my maintenance matter. Please give me some advice?

As with any legal matter where you have a dispute, you need to have a strategy or a plan to be successful. Without a strategy or plan, you are just hoping for the best. However, hope does not steer a boat to shore. There are some, and in most cases, a lot of work, planning and thinking. Let’s face it, the other party or parent in your legal matter also has a plan or strategy. Suppose they put the necessary energy into executing it for the intended results, or at least more than what you are putting into it; their results will favour them much more. That is so, despite all the hope you put into it.

Understand the maintenance laws and how it works

But before we move on, with any plan or strategy, comes knowledge. It would do little good if you did not research how child maintenance works, the legal process, and what outcomes are possible. With all the information online, it is expected that you would watch some online videos on child maintenance and read some of the many articles on the topic. Knowledge is key, and that is what is going to get you through your case.

What are the basic principles in a child maintenance matter?

We would not say child maintenance matters are simple. Very few, if any, legal matters are simple. But anyone can learn. However, if you are guided by the principle that the maintenance amount payable is based on what the child costs, you are getting somewhere. That is your starting point and stay focused on that. Not what the parents earn or what they own. That is secondary. It does not mean that if a parent earns R 50 000 – 00 a month, that they should pay R 10 000 – 00 a month, despite the child costing R 1 000 – 00 a month. At best, the most the parent would pay is R 1 000 – 00. It would help if you worked from the ground up.

You need to focus on two words, “reasonable”, and “necessary.”

The child’s expenses must be reasonable and necessary for you to convince a Court to allow those expenses. In other words, force a parent to contribute towards it. In determining what is reasonable and necessary, one would look at what the child needs for daily living and whether that falls within the standard of living of the parents and the child. For example, if the parents are modest salary earners, living in humble homes, and were brought up in the same way, then that would be what the minor child would be entitled to when calculating child maintenance. If the parents never had ponies as pets, then a pony would not amount to a reasonable and necessary expense for the minor child. However, it is up to you to explain to the court why an expense is “reasonable” and “necessary”. If you can do so for a pony, then you did a good job.

Look at the means or money available in the maintenance equation

The principle one must move towards is that parents have to contribute towards the minor child based on their means. Remember, their contribution is firstly based on what the child costs and not what the earnings and wealth of the parents are. Then we need to look at what the parents can afford. Now affordability is not only based on your income, but also on your assets. If a parent does not have an income but owns expensive assets, then that has to be taken into account. Think of it this way – a parent can convert that asset into money by selling the asset.

Remember, parents have to live as well (They also have expenses)

It is not that simple just to take the gross or net salary of the parent and then work out the maintenance payable from there, based on the needs of the child. If that was the case, then maintenance matters would be resolved much quicker. Parents have expenses that need to be factored into the equation. Hold that in mind all the time because that principle applies to you. Therefore, in order for a parent to earn a salary to pay child support, he or she needs to eat at work, buy clothes for work, travel to work and so on. Circumstances need to be assessed on what they are and not what one hopes them to be. If the parents cannot afford for the child to be enrolled at a specific school, then that is what one must accept and be happy with a less expensive school for your child.

Analyse the situation from all angles

Once you have analysed the situation, take stock of the fact that all factors need to be looked at. You need to focus on what is reasonable. Reasonability applies to all aspects of the child maintenance equation. This includes the reasonable needs of the minor child, considering the income and means of the parents. When focusing on the child, determine whether or not his or her expenses are reasonable considering the standard of living and your position in life. Does the child need everything, or are there some items that you now require seeing that the child is older or circumstances have changed?

Are the parents spending reasonably?

Look at your situation and that of the other parent as well. Is it reasonable for him or her to spend R 2000 – 00 on fuel to go to work when he or she can take public transport? This is so even though this parent earns R 6000 – 00 a month. This must be considered in conjunction with what the needs of the child are. If the parent says he or she cannot afford to pay half the school fees, which is a reasonable amount, then one needs to question whether under the circumstances using up a third of your income for fuel is reasonable, where after you are unable to pay towards your child’s school fees.

Create arguments to support your point of view

Remember, you need to convince the maintenance court that what you are requesting as child support is reasonable. Reasonable based on the facts before the court or at hand, and not what one party wishes it to be. And those facts are also your income, expenses, as well as that of the other parent. Let us not forget the standard of living. This is important as we all want what is best for our children. However, not all families can afford to send their children to the most expensive schools. For many, it is not sustainable. On the other hand, parents should contribute toward their minor children, which is fair and reasonable. What is fair and reasonable is determined based on the information and facts at hand. Furthermore, what is fair and reasonable for one family will definitely not be fair and reasonable for another family. This is so despite both families having the same number of children and ages. All families and children are unique. In conclusion, if you understand the above general principles, you would find it easier to deal with and handle your child maintenance case. You will focus on what is necessary in order to be successful. Good luck with your maintenance matter.  

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