Child custody, guardianship and visitation (parental responsibilities and rights) – What do I need to know should I be going through a divorce or separation?

Although it is not ideal, it often happens that parents divorce or break up. Their romantic or spousal relationship may have come to an end, but their co-parenting relationship continues if they have a child together. They need to be the best co-parents possible for their child. This should be the case despite their failed marriage or relationship. [caption id="attachment_8203" align="alignleft" width="300"]The child in the middle The child in the middle. Child Custody disputes between parents, involving the child.[/caption] Sadly, sometimes the civility the parents had for each other does not transcend beyond their divorce or separation. Some parents in this situation have unresolved issues. It then often happens that the child becomes a victim of the conflict that ensures. They often use the child as a pawn to settle unresolved differences. This situation is not in the child’s best interest. What follows are five things that parents should know when it comes to a divorce or separation. This is especially important if there are young children involved. [caption id="attachment_8198" align="alignleft" width="300"]The child loses out. It is often the child who gets hurt the most in child custody disputes.[/caption]

Number 1: The Child’s best interests are of paramount importance.

In all matters concerning a child, his or her best interests are of paramount importance. Therefore, the law does not focus on what is best for the parents. However, the court would have to be reasonable and fair. All relevant facts must be looked at. A parent, therefore, cannot demand that he or she has custody over the child notwithstanding the fact, that the child would be prejudiced if that happens. For example, the child would have to leave his or her current school and enrol in a new school in the middle of the academic year. The same applies to child maintenance. It does not mean that because you are paying for all the child’s expenses that you can demand when and how you wish to spend time with the child. [caption id="attachment_8201" align="alignleft" width="300"]Seek professional help in child custody matters It is always best to speak to a professional lawyer or childcare expert in custody matters.[/caption] The sad reality is that when parents are embroiled in conflict, they are blinded from what is in the child’s best interests. They focus on what is seemingly best for them. Often, it is to win. Or get more than the other party. Therefore, the parent with the most money would employ the best of lawyers, just to show the other parent. Most times, the child loses out.

Number 2: Know your parental responsibilities and rights – Well

This one is mostly for fathers. Long gone are the days where it is assumed that only a mother can care for a child. Often the courts’ award custody or primary care to the father. The bottom line is; what is best for the child. Therefore, in a given scenario, if the mother is the one who worked from morning to dusk and the father was the one who took the child to school, collected her and attended to her homework, then in such a case, he may be awarded primary care or custody. If, however, the mother was the one who works but cared for the child since birth, she may be awarded custody.

Number 3: Don’t rush to the courts of law – This should be your last option

[caption id="attachment_8199" align="alignleft" width="300"]The Court should be the last resort The High Court and Children’s Court should be the last place you should find yourself in when dealing with child custody issues.[/caption] At the first sign of trouble, do not rush to the court. Here we refer to the Children’s Court or the High Court, concerning parental responsibilities and rights. First, try to mediate the issue. Both parents should try to meet with a social worker or family counsellor in trying to resolve issues. It is better for the parents to come up with a workable parenting plan than for the court to enforce one on them.

Number 4: Understand that there are now two households – The child cannot be divided into two.

When parents live together with a child, there is only one household. Therefore, parents will see the child every day. They would share in the child’s care, as well as his or her expenses. Spending the same time with the child after separation would be impossible. The child would have to live primarily in one home, and occasionally in the other. The focus must be in what is in the child’s best interest and not the parents. This is a reality the parents must accept and which the courts would impose. [caption id="attachment_8200" align="alignleft" width="300"]There is always hope if parents speak and communicate For the sake of the minor child, try hard to resolve child custody disputes when it comes to divorce or separation.[/caption] Therefore, when divorcing or separating, try to work out together a workable parenting plan. As both parents have different work schedules and commitments, it is possible to come to a workable agreement. The parents can rotate who takes and collects the child from school. They may want to do the same when it comes to extramural activities over the weekend as well. Regular telephonic and video (Skype, WhatsApp or FaceTime) contact are encouraged. This would ensure regular contact.

Number 5: Make use of a facilitator – A third party can assist the parties to see clearly for the sake of the child.

Parents don’t need to rush to court every time there is a dispute regarding the child. This practice can become very exhausting and expensive. They should appoint a facilitator to assist them in resolving the dispute. For example, should there be a wedding in the father’s family during the weekend of the mother, then if the parties cannot resolve the issue, they need to first see a professional third party [caption id="attachment_8202" align="alignleft" width="300"]The child is innocent Consider the child before considering yourself in child custody disputes.[/caption] The facilitator would usually be a social worker, psychologist or even a lawyer. However, the facilitator would have to be experienced in family law and related matters to be of much worth. Either way, having a third party assist the parents in resolving the issue is always useful. It would also help them save a lot of money by avoiding litigation. We are certain that you found the above article useful and interesting. Please consider sharing it on the share buttons below. They include Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, WhatsApp, Gmail and more. Someone may find it useful as well. [caption id="attachment_8204" align="alignleft" width="300"]There is help out there. Speak to a child custody lawyer, or legal professional to assist you in resolving your parental legal matters.[/caption] Should you require business advice or services, feel free to click on these links: Business SA | Private Legal | Envirolaws  

Child custody, guardianship and visitation (parental responsibilities and rights) – What do I need to know should I be going through a divorce or separation?

Although it is not ideal, it often happens that parents divorce or break up. Their romantic or spousal relationship may have come to an end, but their co-parenting relationship continues if they have a child together. They need to be the best co-parents possible for their child. This should be the case despite their failed marriage or relationship.

The child in the middle
The child in the middle. Child Custody disputes between parents, involving the child.

Sadly, sometimes the civility the parents had for each other does not transcend beyond their divorce or separation. Some parents in this situation have unresolved issues. It then often happens that the child becomes a victim of the conflict that ensures. They often use the child as a pawn to settle unresolved differences. This situation is not in the child’s best interest. What follows are five things that parents should know when it comes to a divorce or separation. This is especially important if there are young children involved.

The child loses out.
It is often the child who gets hurt the most in child custody disputes.

Number 1: The Child’s best interests are of paramount importance.

In all matters concerning a child, his or her best interests are of paramount importance. Therefore, the law does not focus on what is best for the parents. However, the court would have to be reasonable and fair. All relevant facts must be looked at.

A parent, therefore, cannot demand that he or she has custody over the child notwithstanding the fact, that the child would be prejudiced if that happens. For example, the child would have to leave his or her current school and enrol in a new school in the middle of the academic year. The same applies to child maintenance. It does not mean that because you are paying for all the child’s expenses that you can demand when and how you wish to spend time with the child.

Seek professional help in child custody matters
It is always best to speak to a professional lawyer or childcare expert in custody matters.

The sad reality is that when parents are embroiled in conflict, they are blinded from what is in the child’s best interests. They focus on what is seemingly best for them. Often, it is to win. Or get more than the other party. Therefore, the parent with the most money would employ the best of lawyers, just to show the other parent. Most times, the child loses out.

Number 2: Know your parental responsibilities and rights – Well

This one is mostly for fathers. Long gone are the days where it is assumed that only a mother can care for a child. Often the courts’ award custody or primary care to the father. The bottom line is; what is best for the child. Therefore, in a given scenario, if the mother is the one who worked from morning to dusk and the father was the one who took the child to school, collected her and attended to her homework, then in such a case, he may be awarded primary care or custody. If, however, the mother was the one who works but cared for the child since birth, she may be awarded custody.

Number 3: Don’t rush to the courts of law – This should be your last option

The Court should be the last resort
The High Court and Children’s Court should be the last place you should find yourself in when dealing with child custody issues.

At the first sign of trouble, do not rush to the court. Here we refer to the Children’s Court or the High Court, concerning parental responsibilities and rights. First, try to mediate the issue. Both parents should try to meet with a social worker or family counsellor in trying to resolve issues. It is better for the parents to come up with a workable parenting plan than for the court to enforce one on them.

Number 4: Understand that there are now two households – The child cannot be divided into two.

When parents live together with a child, there is only one household. Therefore, parents will see the child every day. They would share in the child’s care, as well as his or her expenses. Spending the same time with the child after separation would be impossible. The child would have to live primarily in one home, and occasionally in the other. The focus must be in what is in the child’s best interest and not the parents. This is a reality the parents must accept and which the courts would impose.

There is always hope if parents speak and communicate
For the sake of the minor child, try hard to resolve child custody disputes when it comes to divorce or separation.

Therefore, when divorcing or separating, try to work out together a workable parenting plan. As both parents have different work schedules and commitments, it is possible to come to a workable agreement. The parents can rotate who takes and collects the child from school. They may want to do the same when it comes to extramural activities over the weekend as well. Regular telephonic and video (Skype, WhatsApp or FaceTime) contact are encouraged. This would ensure regular contact.

Number 5: Make use of a facilitator – A third party can assist the parties to see clearly for the sake of the child.

Parents don’t need to rush to court every time there is a dispute regarding the child. This practice can become very exhausting and expensive. They should appoint a facilitator to assist them in resolving the dispute. For example, should there be a wedding in the father’s family during the weekend of the mother, then if the parties cannot resolve the issue, they need to first see a professional third party

The child is innocent
Consider the child before considering yourself in child custody disputes.

The facilitator would usually be a social worker, psychologist or even a lawyer. However, the facilitator would have to be experienced in family law and related matters to be of much worth. Either way, having a third party assist the parents in resolving the issue is always useful. It would also help them save a lot of money by avoiding litigation.

We are certain that you found the above article useful and interesting. Please consider sharing it on the share buttons below. They include Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, WhatsApp, Gmail and more. Someone may find it useful as well.

There is help out there.
Speak to a child custody lawyer, or legal professional to assist you in resolving your parental legal matters.

Should you require business advice or services, feel free to click on these links:

Business SA | Private Legal | Envirolaws

 

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[caption id="attachment_5575" align="alignleft" width="300"]National Water Day Cape Town South Africa - Water Crises National Water Day – Cape Town South Africa – Water Crisis[/caption]

World Water Day

Yesterday (22 March 2018) was World Water Day. A day where the focus is on the importance of water and raising awareness on the issues surrounding it. The residence of the Western Cape, South Africa all to well know of the scarcity of water, as in the last few years, water has become in less supply and expensive. Dam levels have declined compared to previous years, and at the time of writing this article, there has been no substantial amount of rainfall positively predicted for the coming winter season. What this tells us, is that both government and civil society need to work together to alleviate the water crisis in South Africa. This can be done by better water management and drilling into alternative sources of fresh water, to mention a few. Clearly some businesses have benefited from the crisis. People are purchasing bottled water in its gallons and the sale of 25 litre containers has sky rocketed. Almost every household owns a few containers. Then there is the Jojo tanks residence purchased and used to catch and store rain water, and water from water sources. All these costs money to the ratepayer. As Our Lawyer (Pty) Ltd is based in Cape Town, we felt it fitting to use our legal expertise to write something on the water crisis in celebration of World Water Day. We too are feeling the crisis in our office building where water saving measures are in place.

Cape Town Water Crisis

The water crisis in Cape Town is therefore clearly a real issue affecting not only its residents, but industry alike. Currently Cape Town is facing level 6B water restrictions, which allows its residence less than 50 litres of water usage a day. This has been the case for the past few months. Prior to that, the quota per person was in the region of 85 litres of water usage a day. With these restrictions, comes higher water costs in that, the more you use, the more you would pay as compared to periods before level 6B. This could be compared to the “polluter pays” principle when it comes to pollution. [caption id="attachment_5573" align="alignleft" width="300"]Water Quota Level 25 L Crises Water Quota at Newlands Springs Cape Town[/caption]

Water Outages and Problems

As with the electricity crisis not too long ago, Cape Town is now experiencing water outages. And in some areas, more than others. Certain areas experience blue coloured water coming from their taps, which may not be potable. Then there is the issue of the controversial water meters being installed for homes across Cape Town. In some areas, the communities opposed its installations citing faulty devices as a reason. When the device fails, residence is left without water until it is repaired, and sometimes not soon enough. This can be particularly annoying as the devices comes at a cost to the ratepayer. No matter how you look at it, water is still a vital resource on any level. We need it for our daily living. Industry requires it for their growth. And farms require it to ensure that there is food on our tables. But where does this leave us going forward? As can be seen, clearly there is a crisis, and costing us. Is there light at the end of the tunnel, or water at the bottom of the pit?

A right to water in South Africa

South Africa is an arid country with a small percentage of its rainfall available as surface water. It further has one of the lowest conversion ratios in the world. Each time we lose a water resource due to pollution or to poor conservation, we are driven closer to ‘water resource extinction’. It is therefore critically concerning that many of the Western Cape’s rivers are heavily polluted.

What does our Constitution say?

Section 24 of our country’s constitution states that “everyone has the right to an environment that is not harmful to their health or well-being.” The same section further states that “the environment is to be protected, for the benefit of present and future generations, through reasonable legislative and other measures that prevent pollution and ecological degradation; promote conservation; and secure ecologically sustainable development and use of natural resources while promoting justifiable economic and social development. Furthermore, section 27 of our Constitution states that “everyone has the right to have access to sufficient water.”

Alternative Sources of Water in Cape Town

Cape Town has now bought into the idea of desalination. There are currently three desalination plants in Cape Town, hoping to be up and running in a few weeks’ time. This however would not supply Cape Town with all its needed water should it be fully up and running. Then there is the issue of borehole water. Many residences and businesses have invested in drilling boreholes. This however comes at a cost and the water is not drinkable. It seems whatever the alternative sources are, it would cost the user a pretty penny. [caption id="attachment_5572" align="alignleft" width="300"]Water Crises Cape Town Newlands Springs Water Crisis Cape Town Newlands Springs[/caption]

Spring Water

The South African Breweries has a spring water collection point in Newlands Cape Town open to the public. Here residence may collect their water. There is also another collection point a few minutes’ walk away. With only five taps, and long queues, even being open twenty-four hours a day, would not support the entire Cape Town population. People may find it easier to just purchase water from the store. There are quite a few springs in Cape Town, but not all of them are open to the public. You will find people queuing in Muizenberg or collecting the water coming from the Mountain on Boyes Drive. Be that as it may, it would be clearly impracticable for a household of five people to collect their free water from springs, to alleviate a huge water bill. People work, and there are costs involved in transporting the water.

The way forward

[caption id="attachment_5574" align="alignleft" width="213"]Water Bottles Cape Town Crises Shortage 25 LWater Containers being filled.[/caption] Without pointing fingers, it is clear that something has gone wrong with regard to water management in the Western Cape. How can things change so quick? But we are where we are, and now with our eyes open. We cannot depend on government solely anymore to save us, we need to take positive action. If this means installing water saving devices, collecting water, or drilling boreholes; that is what we must do. In any event, our pockets will feel it. We wish the City success with their water desalination venture, and making use of groundwater, and truly wish the Winter season will fill up our dams. However, we all need to have systems and contingencies in place, as this crisis is one that may be around for some time. For environmental legal services, visit Envirolaws (Pty) Ltd. Happy World Water Day! The Our lawyer (Pty) Ltd Legal Team    

Top tips and tricks from a Senior Family Law Advocate on claiming maintenance for a five-year-old child in Uitenhage.

Child Maintenance is the right of the child, and not that of the parent. It is also not a privilege granted to parents who must pay it. It is their duty to pay child maintenance and support their children. Once the child is self-supporting (being able to care for him or herself), the obligation falls away. This can happen when the child is 18, 20, or even 30. It all depends on the circumstances of the case.

Claiming child maintenance for your child in Uitenhage

Whether you claim child maintenance in Uitenhage, or any other city in South Africa, the procedures would be the same. There are however two (2) courts that can deal with child maintenance matters. That is a divorce court, in a divorce matter, and a Child Maintenance Court. For this article, we will focus on claiming maintenance in a Maintenance Court matter in Uitenhage.

The maintenance scenario – Uitenhage South Africa

In this article, we will deal with the following fictitious scenario, in a child maintenance matter:

  1. The Child is seven years old and attends school in Uitenhage
  2. The child is cared for by the mother who works in Uitenhage
  3. The mother works and earns a Salary of R 10 000
  4. The father sees the child every second weekend. He also lives and works in Uitenhage
  5. The child’s monthly expenses are R 6000 – 00 which includes food, clothing, accommodation, education, travel etc.
  6. The father earns a reasonable salary and can afford the R 20 000 – 00 per month
  7. The mother claims R 4 000 – 00 maintenance as the father earns double her salary

What is the first step the mother must take in claiming child maintenance?

The first thing the mother must do is work out exactly what the child costs by item. She breaks down the minor child’s living expenses, starting from rent or accommodation to groceries to school fees etc. Once she has done that, she would need to determine what exactly does the minor child cost per month, seeing that she will be asking the father to contribute towards that. As best as possible, she needs to collect proof of expenses. This can be in the form of receipts.

How does she start the legal process?

The mother now needs to approach the maintenance court in the area where she lives or works to lodge a complaint for child maintenance. If she lives or works in Uitenhage, it would be the maintenance court in Uitenhage. She will complete a Form A wherein she will provide all the expenses for her and the minor child. She would also have to stipulate her income. Once she completed the form and submitted it to the maintenance court, she must then follow the next step.

What do you do while waiting for the maintenance court date?

While you wait to be informed of the court date by the Maintenance Court of Uitenhage, and up until the actual first court date, you need to ensure that you keep a record of all income and expenses for you and the child. This is very important as the court allocates maintenance based on recent income and expenses.

What happens at the first court appearance at the Uitenhage Maintenance Court?

Once you have been notified of the maintenance court date by the Uitenhage Maintenance Court, you need to ensure that you attend it. On that day, both you and the father of the child would appear before a maintenance officer. The maintenance officer would go through both your income and expenses as well as that of the father. If all the relevant information is not before the maintenance court, then the matter may be postponed in order for the parties to submit it.

The maintenance officer will try to settle the matter and have the parents come to an agreement regarding the amount of child maintenance to be paid. If they cannot come to an agreement regarding the child maintenance to be paid, the matter would have to proceed to a formal hearing or trial before a Magistrate.

How does the Maintenance Court hearing or trial work in Uitenhage?

Essentially, the maintenance court is called upon to make a fair ruling regarding what is a fair amount of child support that needs to be paid. For that to happen, the parents would have to give evidence in that regard. The mother would present to the court what the child costs, what she contributes and what she requires the other parent to pay. The Father would have a right to question the mother and to present evidence as to why he cannot afford the amount requested or why he feels it is an unfair amount. The mother can they also question him.

At the end of the day, the Uitenhage Maintenance Court would be able to properly determine what is a fair and adequate amount of child maintenance to pay after being presented will all relevant information. The Uitenhage Maintenance Court should play an active role in determining what is a fair amount of child maintenance the father should pay.

The above child maintenance application principles should apply to the following provinces and cities:

Eastern Cape:

Alice, Butterworth, East London, Graaff-Reinet, Grahamstown, King William’s Town, Mthatha

Port Elizabeth, Queenstown, Uitenhage, Zwelitsha

Free State:

Bethlehem. Bloemfontein, Jagersfontein, Kroonstad, Odendaalsrus, Parys, Phuthaditjhaba, Sasolburg, Virginia, Welkom

Gauteng:

Benoni, Boksburg, Brakpan, Carletonville, Germiston, Johannesburg, Krugersdorp, Pretoria, Randburg, Randfontein, Roodepoort, Soweto, Springs, Vanderbijlpark, Vereeniging

KwaZulu-Natal:

Durban, Empangeni, Ladysmith, Newcastle, Pietermaritzburg, Pinetown, Ulundi, Umlazi

Limpopo:

Giyani, Lebowakgomo, Musina, Phalaborwa, Polokwane, Seshego, Sibasa, Thabazimbi

Mpumalanga:

Emalahleni, Nelspruit, Secunda, North West, Klerksdorp, Mahikeng, Mmabatho, Potchefstroom, Rustenburg, Northern Cape, Kimberley, Kuruman, Port Nolloth

Western Cape:

Bellville, Uitenhage, Constantia, George, Hopefield, Oudtshoorn, Paarl, Simon’s Town, Stellenbosch, Swellendam, Worcester

 

 

 

Relocation of minor children with a parent. What does the Courts and Family Advocate look at?

Relocating with your minor child where the consent of the other parent is provided is ideal. If consent is not provided, then the Court would need to get involved. This applies to both local (example, provincial relocation) and international (moving abroad). Our High Court often hear applications for relocation of minor children. Sometimes the issues are simple, and other times, less so. However, the ultimate question is whether or not it is in the minor child’s best interest.

High Court getting involved in minor children relocation matters

In the unreported judgment of CG v NG 2015 JDR 0391 (GJ), the Applicant, being the mother, approached the Gauteng High Court for permission to relocate with her minor children from Gauteng to Cape Town. We shall not deal with the history and all the facts of the matter, save for the important principles applied to the relevant facts. In this matter, the Office of the Family Advocate was called upon to provide a report as to the intended relocation. This they did and which the Court considered. That is illustrated in the judgment below.

Extracts of a Judgemnet of the High Court in a Relocation of minor children matter

The following aspects of the judgement would be of benefit:
[22] The ruling on the postponement leaves this court to deal with the only remaining issue between the parties and that is whether or not the Applicant should relocate to Cape Town with the minor children. The law on matters of relocation is clear. The relocation must be in the best interest of the minor children as is prescribed in the Children’s Act No. 38of 2005. In addition, an applicant in the position of the Applicant is at liberty to relocate with minor children provided his or her intention is bona fide and reasonable. The test applies to both relocation within the borders of South Africa and abroad. See Jackson v Jackson 2002 SA 303 (SCA) and B v M 2006 (9) BCLR 1034 (W) to which Counsel for the Applicant referred this court. [23] Accordingly, the following two questions arise: 23.1 Is the proposed relocation in the best interest of the minor children? 23.2 Is the Applicant’s intended move bona fide and reasonable? [24] Whether or not an applicant’s proposed move is bona fide and reasonable should be a factual enquiry. Needless to state therefore that each case must be assessed on its own merits. The Applicant has been living in Johannesburg, xxx, while married to the Respondent and to date she continues to do so. [25] Her relationship with the Respondent has become estranged a result of which she now holds the view that it will benefit her to be next to her family, mother, father brother and sister-in-law all of whom are in the area of Cape Town, xxx. [26] Her family will give her the emotional support that she cannot get in Johannesburg. Furthermore, once the minor children are settled, her mother will give her support by fetching them from school such that she could start looking for employment. [27] As the primary custodian parent of the minor children, her move to Cape Town will of necessity be in their best interest. She does not see herself being separated from them as that will prejudice her relationship with them. Her proposed move to Cape Town is supported by her psychologists, Ms Becker and, Ms Chelvers. [28] The Applicant asserts further that the Respondent whom she describes as ‘exceedingly wealthy’ can still exercise his rights as per the orders of Van Oosten and Victor JJ. She does not foresee any problems whether financially or otherwise for The Respondent to fly to Cape Town to see the children as he does presently in Johannesburg. [29] In response to the Applicant’s averments, the respondent alleges that it will not be possible for him to travel to Cape Town on a weekly or monthly basis as this will necessarily involve increased costs for him. Moreover, it will take him away from his only source of income, his work. [30] The relocation of the minor children means that he will have to seek accommodation in Cape Town, transport and time off work in order to exercise his rights. His ability to generate income will be immensely impaired and that could have devastating repercussions for both the minor children and the Applicant especially as she is unemployed and fully dependent on the monthly maintenance that he pays. [31] The Family Advocate unequivocally recommends that the status quo be maintained because to move the minor children to Cape Town will reverse the stability that has prevailed since the introduction of the increased access by their father. The Applicant herself has agreed that all three minor children like their father and that they cannot wait to visit him. The Family Advocate also alludes to the fact that Gabriel, the eldest of the minor children appears settled with her friends at school. [32] Moving them to Cape Town under these circumstances could upset their routine and bring unnecessary shock to their lives at the time when they are beginning to settle. The Family Advocate is an expert in these kind of matters and he undoubtedly compiled the report with the best interest of the minor children in mind. This court has no reason to doubt the outcome and accordingly adopts it. [33] In the result, the following order is made:
  1. The application is dismissed;
  2. The Applicant is ordered to pay the costs as between attorney and client.
From the above it is clear that the Court looked at various factors, as well as the report of the Office of the Family Advocate.