Top tips from a Senior Family Law Advocate on how to deal with your Child Custody matter in the Virginia Children’s Court

 

Family law legal matters can be very stressful. This is so whether you live in Virginia or any other city in South Africa. Especially so if you have no idea how the legal processes work. It is one thing to know that you are entitled to child support, but it is a totally different matter to know the law and procedure on how to claim child support. Luckily in child maintenance matters, the maintenance court is there to assist you in completing the application form. However, many times that is not enough. Especially so if the other parent has a lawyer and knows how to present the case for his or her client.

This article, however, deals with some top tips in care and contact or custody matters in the Children’s Court in Virginia. It would explain the processes involved and advise on how to be best prepared for your matter. This advice is applicable whether you live in Virginia or any other city in South Africa.

What to do before visiting the Virginia Children’s Court

Before you approach the Children’s Court in Virginia, first try to resolve the issues with the other parent. Therefore, if you want more contact with your child and the other parent is refusing, try to resolve the matter first with that parent. If that does not work, try mediation. The mediator can be anyone, from a trusted mutual friend, priest, or other religious leaders, or a professional like an attorney, psychologist, or the office of the Family Advocate. Virginia has many professionals that can assist you in this regard. If resolving the matter by yourselves is not possible, or mediation fails, then we suggest you approach the Virginia Children’s Court for assistance.

TIP: Focus on getting someone neutral to assist in mediating your matter. Organisations like FAMSA and FAMAC can be of assistance. Google them.

Approaching the Virginia Children’s Court

The Virginia Children’s Court should be approached if it is the closest Children’s Court to you. You need to verify with the Virginia Children’s Court that you fall under their area of jurisdiction. If not, they would direct you to which Children’s Court is applicable to you.

Once you arrive at the Virginia Children’s Court, they will provide you with a form headed “Bringing Matter to Court in Terms of Section 53 Children’s Act, 2005 (Act no. 38 of 2005) Regulation Relating to Children’s Court and International Child Abduction, 2008 [Regulation 6]. This form is also called Form 2.

In this form, you will provide all your particulars and that of the child or children and the other parent. The sections in the form are as follows:

  • PART A: PARTICULARS OF CHILD(REN)
  • PART B: PARTICULARS OF *CHILD WHO IS AFFECTED BY OR INVOLVED IN THE MATTER/PERSON *ACTING IN THE INTEREST OF THE CHILD/*ON BEHALF OF THE CHILD WHO CANNOT ACT IN HIS/HER OWN NAME/ *MEMBER OF A GROUP OF CLASS OF CHILDREN/*IN THE PUBLIC INTEREST (SECTION 53(2)
  • PART C: PARTICULARS OF PERSONS HAVING AN INTEREST IN THE MATTER
  • PART D: PARTICULARS OF MATTER

In part D, the following is stated which you need to provide in the form:

  • Nature of matter brought to Court: (Please give full details of the matter e.g., registration/amendment of parenting plans, removal of child to safe care, children in need of care and protection, placement in youth care centers, adoption etc.
  • Documents: Are there any documents relating to the matter? (If so please attach)

Once you have completed the form and attached the relevant documents to it, you must take it to a commissioner of Oaths to have it commissioned. It does not have to be in Virginia.

TIP: Draft a separate affidavit explaining your case. Outline some background information and reasons why the Court should give you what you request. Attach it to Form 2.

Processing your Application at the Virginia Children’s Court

Once you complete the Form A and submit it to the Clerk of the Virginia Children’s Court, they will process it and allocate it a case number or reference number. The Clerk of the Court would then allocate a date to the matter and advise the parties accordingly when the court date is. Please note that some courts follow a different process for processing the application and informing the parties of the court date. Please enquire from the Court when making the application what process they follow.

TIP: Obtain the contact details of the Court for you to contact them to obtain the Court date or other information. Ask for their contact number and email address.

Appearing in the Virginia Children’s Court

When notified of the Court date, both you and the other parent should attend. If you are making use of a lawyer (Advocate or Attorney), inform them timeously of the date. Depending on the Court, you may first see the Clerk or go directly to the Magistrate. The Children’s Court would do its best to try to resolve the matter. If the parents cannot come to an agreement, the Children’s Court may postpone the matter for either of the following:

  • Get a social worker involved in the matter;
  • Appoint a legal representative for the minor child;
  • Implement interim care and contact arrangements;
  • Having the parties attempt to agree on a parenting plan;
  •  

In serious matters, the Court may remove the minor child from both parents and place the child in foster care. The powers of the Children’s Court are extensive. It will, however, focus on what is in the child’s best interests.

TIP: Be as vocal as possible. Do not expect the Court to be understanding of your case or be on your side. It is your duty to explain your case and provide the Court with all the relevant information they require for them to make a fair decision.

Finalising the matter in the Virginia Children’s Court

Once the Virginia Children’s Court has enough information to make a final decision, it will do so. Depending on the facts of the matter, that could either be making a Parenting Plan, an Order of the Court or a final care and contact Order. The Court may even make further interim orders, where the parties are to return to Court after a few months, or a year later.

TIP: Do not agree to something just because the social worker, a lawyer, or the Court suggest it. You need to be happy with what is decided.

The above Virginia Children’s Court Application tips should apply to the following provinces and cities:

Eastern Cape:

Alice, Butterworth, East London, Graaff-Reinet, Grahamstown, King William’s Town, Mthatha

Port Elizabeth, Queenstown, Uitenhage, Zwelitsha

Free State:

Bethlehem. Bloemfontein, Jagersfontein, Kroonstad, Odendaalsrus, Parys, Phuthaditjhaba, Sasolburg, Virginia, Welkom

Gauteng:

Benoni, Boksburg, Brakpan, Carletonville, Germiston, Johannesburg, Krugersdorp, Pretoria, Randburg, Randfontein, Roodepoort, Soweto, Springs, Vanderbijlpark, Vereeniging

KwaZulu-Natal:

Durban, Empangeni, Ladysmith, Newcastle, Pietermaritzburg, Pinetown, Ulundi, Umlazi

Limpopo:

Giyani, Lebowakgomo, Musina, Phalaborwa, Polokwane, Seshego, Sibasa, Thabazimbi

Mpumalanga:

Emalahleni, Nelspruit, Secunda, North West, Klerksdorp, Mahikeng, Mmabatho, Potchefstroom, Rustenburg, Northern Cape, Kimberley, Kuruman, Port Nolloth

Western Cape:

Bellville, Virginia, Constantia, George, Hopefield, Oudtshoorn, Paarl, Simon’s Town, Stellenbosch, Swellendam, Worcester

Top tips from a Senior Family Law Advocate on how to deal with your Child Custody matter in the Virginia Children’s Court

 

Family law legal matters can be very stressful. This is so whether you live in Virginia or any other city in South Africa. Especially so if you have no idea how the legal processes work. It is one thing to know that you are entitled to child support, but it is a totally different matter to know the law and procedure on how to claim child support. Luckily in child maintenance matters, the maintenance court is there to assist you in completing the application form. However, many times that is not enough. Especially so if the other parent has a lawyer and knows how to present the case for his or her client.

This article, however, deals with some top tips in care and contact or custody matters in the Children’s Court in Virginia. It would explain the processes involved and advise on how to be best prepared for your matter. This advice is applicable whether you live in Virginia or any other city in South Africa.

What to do before visiting the Virginia Children’s Court

Before you approach the Children’s Court in Virginia, first try to resolve the issues with the other parent. Therefore, if you want more contact with your child and the other parent is refusing, try to resolve the matter first with that parent. If that does not work, try mediation. The mediator can be anyone, from a trusted mutual friend, priest, or other religious leaders, or a professional like an attorney, psychologist, or the office of the Family Advocate. Virginia has many professionals that can assist you in this regard. If resolving the matter by yourselves is not possible, or mediation fails, then we suggest you approach the Virginia Children’s Court for assistance.

TIP: Focus on getting someone neutral to assist in mediating your matter. Organisations like FAMSA and FAMAC can be of assistance. Google them.

Approaching the Virginia Children’s Court

The Virginia Children’s Court should be approached if it is the closest Children’s Court to you. You need to verify with the Virginia Children’s Court that you fall under their area of jurisdiction. If not, they would direct you to which Children’s Court is applicable to you.

Once you arrive at the Virginia Children’s Court, they will provide you with a form headed “Bringing Matter to Court in Terms of Section 53 Children’s Act, 2005 (Act no. 38 of 2005) Regulation Relating to Children’s Court and International Child Abduction, 2008 [Regulation 6]. This form is also called Form 2.

In this form, you will provide all your particulars and that of the child or children and the other parent. The sections in the form are as follows:

  • PART A: PARTICULARS OF CHILD(REN)
  • PART B: PARTICULARS OF *CHILD WHO IS AFFECTED BY OR INVOLVED IN THE MATTER/PERSON *ACTING IN THE INTEREST OF THE CHILD/*ON BEHALF OF THE CHILD WHO CANNOT ACT IN HIS/HER OWN NAME/ *MEMBER OF A GROUP OF CLASS OF CHILDREN/*IN THE PUBLIC INTEREST (SECTION 53(2)
  • PART C: PARTICULARS OF PERSONS HAVING AN INTEREST IN THE MATTER
  • PART D: PARTICULARS OF MATTER

In part D, the following is stated which you need to provide in the form:

  • Nature of matter brought to Court: (Please give full details of the matter e.g., registration/amendment of parenting plans, removal of child to safe care, children in need of care and protection, placement in youth care centers, adoption etc.
  • Documents: Are there any documents relating to the matter? (If so please attach)

Once you have completed the form and attached the relevant documents to it, you must take it to a commissioner of Oaths to have it commissioned. It does not have to be in Virginia.

TIP: Draft a separate affidavit explaining your case. Outline some background information and reasons why the Court should give you what you request. Attach it to Form 2.

Processing your Application at the Virginia Children’s Court

Once you complete the Form A and submit it to the Clerk of the Virginia Children’s Court, they will process it and allocate it a case number or reference number. The Clerk of the Court would then allocate a date to the matter and advise the parties accordingly when the court date is. Please note that some courts follow a different process for processing the application and informing the parties of the court date. Please enquire from the Court when making the application what process they follow.

TIP: Obtain the contact details of the Court for you to contact them to obtain the Court date or other information. Ask for their contact number and email address.

Appearing in the Virginia Children’s Court

When notified of the Court date, both you and the other parent should attend. If you are making use of a lawyer (Advocate or Attorney), inform them timeously of the date. Depending on the Court, you may first see the Clerk or go directly to the Magistrate. The Children’s Court would do its best to try to resolve the matter. If the parents cannot come to an agreement, the Children’s Court may postpone the matter for either of the following:

  • Get a social worker involved in the matter;
  • Appoint a legal representative for the minor child;
  • Implement interim care and contact arrangements;
  • Having the parties attempt to agree on a parenting plan;
  •  

In serious matters, the Court may remove the minor child from both parents and place the child in foster care. The powers of the Children’s Court are extensive. It will, however, focus on what is in the child’s best interests.

TIP: Be as vocal as possible. Do not expect the Court to be understanding of your case or be on your side. It is your duty to explain your case and provide the Court with all the relevant information they require for them to make a fair decision.

Finalising the matter in the Virginia Children’s Court

Once the Virginia Children’s Court has enough information to make a final decision, it will do so. Depending on the facts of the matter, that could either be making a Parenting Plan, an Order of the Court or a final care and contact Order. The Court may even make further interim orders, where the parties are to return to Court after a few months, or a year later.

TIP: Do not agree to something just because the social worker, a lawyer, or the Court suggest it. You need to be happy with what is decided.

The above Virginia Children’s Court Application tips should apply to the following provinces and cities:

Eastern Cape:

Alice, Butterworth, East London, Graaff-Reinet, Grahamstown, King William’s Town, Mthatha

Port Elizabeth, Queenstown, Uitenhage, Zwelitsha

Free State:

Bethlehem. Bloemfontein, Jagersfontein, Kroonstad, Odendaalsrus, Parys, Phuthaditjhaba, Sasolburg, Virginia, Welkom

Gauteng:

Benoni, Boksburg, Brakpan, Carletonville, Germiston, Johannesburg, Krugersdorp, Pretoria, Randburg, Randfontein, Roodepoort, Soweto, Springs, Vanderbijlpark, Vereeniging

KwaZulu-Natal:

Durban, Empangeni, Ladysmith, Newcastle, Pietermaritzburg, Pinetown, Ulundi, Umlazi

Limpopo:

Giyani, Lebowakgomo, Musina, Phalaborwa, Polokwane, Seshego, Sibasa, Thabazimbi

Mpumalanga:

Emalahleni, Nelspruit, Secunda, North West, Klerksdorp, Mahikeng, Mmabatho, Potchefstroom, Rustenburg, Northern Cape, Kimberley, Kuruman, Port Nolloth

Western Cape:

Bellville, Virginia, Constantia, George, Hopefield, Oudtshoorn, Paarl, Simon’s Town, Stellenbosch, Swellendam, Worcester

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I Appealed my divorce court’s decision regarding care and contact for my two minor children to the High Court. I was successful.

After a 12-year marriage, which was in community of property, and raising two minor children, I was compelled to initiate divorce proceedings due to severe issues, including gambling, alcohol abuse, and infidelity on my husband’s part. This caused me to leave the marital home with my minor children three years ago. Since our separation, I have been the sole caregiver for our two minor children, ages 10 and 11. My primary concern is their well-being, and I have dedicated myself to their care and upbringing.

Initiating the divorce proceedings

Instituting divorce proceedings against him was the best thing I could have done for myself. He did not take this lightly and immediately defended the divorce proceedings. This was unfortunate, as I believed we could have amicably resolved the divorce. The divorce, in my view, should have been a simple one. Although we were married in a community of property, we did not have many assets. An immovable property involved a house that needed to be sold, and the bond would have to be paid so that we could have shared the sale proceeds. None of us have pension funds, and there is little debt in the joint estate. The only issue was what type of contact my husband would have with the minor children after the divorce.

The primary caregiver of the minor children

There was no dispute regarding the minor children remaining in my primary care. At the same time, I do not believe it will benefit the minor children if the father has limited contact with them. Despite our marriage problems, my husband has always been an excellent father to my minor children. They are very fond of him and him of them. Furthermore, I have spoken to the minor children regarding the divorce, and they agree that they would want to remain in my primary care.

My husband fighting for shared care of the minor children

After instituting divorce proceedings, my husband decided that he wants to have shared care over the minor children. This never made sense to me. Firstly, although he was always in their lives, he was not their primary caregiver or cared for them like a primary caregiver would. I was the one who attended to them from birth, fed them when they were babies, took them to school, assisted them with their homework, and so on. My husband was always there, playing with them and communicating with them. He would take us as a family out on the weekend to the beach for entertainment, and it was always around. However, should the minor children fall ill, I attended to them. They will come to me first if they require any assistance with schoolwork, homework, extramural activities, etc. Therefore, it would not have benefited the minor children to be in my husband’s care for half the month. At the same time, my husband, due to infidelity, was involved with other people, and therefore, I do not believe it would benefit the minor children to be exposed to his lifestyle and, at the same time, be cared for by him. However, I accept that the minor children would have to meet his new partner as she would form part of their lives. Therefore, I had no problem with him having contact with the minor children every second weekend and half of the school holidays.

Presenting my husband with a parenting plan

My attorney at the time presented my husband with a parenting plan. The parenting plan, in my view, was fair. It allowed my husband to have contact with the minor children every day of the week after school for about an hour or two. It also allowed him to have contact with the minor children every second weekend from after school on a Friday until 5 pm on Sunday. He also would have contact with the minor children for half of the long and short school holidays. He would also see the minor children on Father’s Day, Christmas Day, and other special days. On his birthday, he would also have contact with the minor children.

My husband refuses to accept my parenting plan

Unfortunately, my husband disagreed with my attorney’s parenting plan and said he would not move away for shared care of the minor children. What this meant was that the minor children would live with me for one week and with him the following week, and this would alternate until the school holidays when we would share the school holidays 50-50. It has never made sense to me because during our marriage, my husband was never available to care for the minor children, and he did not know how to assist with the homework. On top of that, the minor children did not want to be in his primary care during the week.

Seeking assistance from experts

To resolve this issue, my attorney enlisted the assistance of a childcare expert. The expert assessed what would be in the minor children’s best interest regarding care and contact after the divorce. The expert recommended that care and contact be as outlined in my attorney’s parenting plan, as outlined above. The minor children would see the father every day of the week, half the school holidays, special days, and every second weekend.

Father being unhappy with the expert’s recommendations – Approaching the Office of the Family Advocate

The father of the minor children was still unhappy with the expert recommendation. We then approached the Office of the Family Advocate for assistance office. They conducted an investigation and concluded that it would not be in the minor children’s best interest for the father to have primary care over them or for us to have shared care of them as he proposed.

The matter proceeded to Trial

Following the trial in the magistrate’s court, where I presented evidence supporting my position, the judgement was for a shared care regime, a decision I respectfully disagree with. This went against both experts and would not be in the minor children’s best interest.

Appealing the divorce court’s decision to the High Court

My attorney then appealed the decision to the High Court. On appeal, the court followed the recommendations of the childcare expert at the office of all the family advocates. The High Court was not convinced that the magistrate made a fair decision, as clearly, based on the facts I presented, the experts said it would not be in the minor children’s best interest for a shared care regime.

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