Top tips from a Senior Family Law Advocate on how to deal with your Child Custody matter in the Parys Children’s Court

 

Family law legal matters can be very stressful. This is so whether you live in Parys or any other city in South Africa. Especially so if you have no idea how the legal processes work. It is one thing to know that you are entitled to child support, but it is a totally different matter to know the law and procedure on how to claim child support. Luckily in child maintenance matters, the maintenance court is there to assist you in completing the application form. However, many times that is not enough. Especially so if the other parent has a lawyer and knows how to present the case for his or her client.

This article, however, deals with some top tips in care and contact or custody matters in the Children’s Court in Parys. It would explain the processes involved and advise on how to be best prepared for your matter. This advice is applicable whether you live in Parys or any other city in South Africa.

What to do before visiting the Parys Children’s Court

Before you approach the Children’s Court in Parys, first try to resolve the issues with the other parent. Therefore, if you want more contact with your child and the other parent is refusing, try to resolve the matter first with that parent. If that does not work, try mediation. The mediator can be anyone, from a trusted mutual friend, priest, or other religious leaders, or a professional like an attorney, psychologist, or the office of the Family Advocate. Parys has many professionals that can assist you in this regard. If resolving the matter by yourselves is not possible, or mediation fails, then we suggest you approach the Parys Children’s Court for assistance.

TIP: Focus on getting someone neutral to assist in mediating your matter. Organisations like FAMSA and FAMAC can be of assistance. Google them.

Approaching the Parys Children’s Court

The Parys Children’s Court should be approached if it is the closest Children’s Court to you. You need to verify with the Parys Children’s Court that you fall under their area of jurisdiction. If not, they would direct you to which Children’s Court is applicable to you.

Once you arrive at the Parys Children’s Court, they will provide you with a form headed “Bringing Matter to Court in Terms of Section 53 Children’s Act, 2005 (Act no. 38 of 2005) Regulation Relating to Children’s Court and International Child Abduction, 2008 [Regulation 6]. This form is also called Form 2.

In this form, you will provide all your particulars and that of the child or children and the other parent. The sections in the form are as follows:

  • PART A: PARTICULARS OF CHILD(REN)
  • PART B: PARTICULARS OF *CHILD WHO IS AFFECTED BY OR INVOLVED IN THE MATTER/PERSON *ACTING IN THE INTEREST OF THE CHILD/*ON BEHALF OF THE CHILD WHO CANNOT ACT IN HIS/HER OWN NAME/ *MEMBER OF A GROUP OF CLASS OF CHILDREN/*IN THE PUBLIC INTEREST (SECTION 53(2)
  • PART C: PARTICULARS OF PERSONS HAVING AN INTEREST IN THE MATTER
  • PART D: PARTICULARS OF MATTER

In part D, the following is stated which you need to provide in the form:

  • Nature of matter brought to Court: (Please give full details of the matter e.g., registration/amendment of parenting plans, removal of child to safe care, children in need of care and protection, placement in youth care centers, adoption etc.
  • Documents: Are there any documents relating to the matter? (If so please attach)

Once you have completed the form and attached the relevant documents to it, you must take it to a commissioner of Oaths to have it commissioned. It does not have to be in Parys.

TIP: Draft a separate affidavit explaining your case. Outline some background information and reasons why the Court should give you what you request. Attach it to Form 2.

Processing your Application at the Parys Children’s Court

Once you complete the Form A and submit it to the Clerk of the Parys Children’s Court, they will process it and allocate it a case number or reference number. The Clerk of the Court would then allocate a date to the matter and advise the parties accordingly when the court date is. Please note that some courts follow a different process for processing the application and informing the parties of the court date. Please enquire from the Court when making the application what process they follow.

TIP: Obtain the contact details of the Court for you to contact them to obtain the Court date or other information. Ask for their contact number and email address.

Appearing in the Parys Children’s Court

When notified of the Court date, both you and the other parent should attend. If you are making use of a lawyer (Advocate or Attorney), inform them timeously of the date. Depending on the Court, you may first see the Clerk or go directly to the Magistrate. The Children’s Court would do its best to try to resolve the matter. If the parents cannot come to an agreement, the Children’s Court may postpone the matter for either of the following:

  • Get a social worker involved in the matter;
  • Appoint a legal representative for the minor child;
  • Implement interim care and contact arrangements;
  • Having the parties attempt to agree on a parenting plan;
  •  

In serious matters, the Court may remove the minor child from both parents and place the child in foster care. The powers of the Children’s Court are extensive. It will, however, focus on what is in the child’s best interests.

TIP: Be as vocal as possible. Do not expect the Court to be understanding of your case or be on your side. It is your duty to explain your case and provide the Court with all the relevant information they require for them to make a fair decision.

Finalising the matter in the Parys Children’s Court

Once the Parys Children’s Court has enough information to make a final decision, it will do so. Depending on the facts of the matter, that could either be making a Parenting Plan, an Order of the Court or a final care and contact Order. The Court may even make further interim orders, where the parties are to return to Court after a few months, or a year later.

TIP: Do not agree to something just because the social worker, a lawyer, or the Court suggest it. You need to be happy with what is decided.

The above Parys Children’s Court Application tips should apply to the following provinces and cities:

Eastern Cape:

Alice, Butterworth, East London, Graaff-Reinet, Grahamstown, King William’s Town, Mthatha

Port Elizabeth, Queenstown, Uitenhage, Zwelitsha

Free State:

Bethlehem. Bloemfontein, Jagersfontein, Kroonstad, Odendaalsrus, Parys, Phuthaditjhaba, Sasolburg, Virginia, Welkom

Gauteng:

Benoni, Boksburg, Brakpan, Carletonville, Germiston, Johannesburg, Krugersdorp, Pretoria, Randburg, Randfontein, Roodepoort, Soweto, Springs, Vanderbijlpark, Vereeniging

KwaZulu-Natal:

Durban, Empangeni, Ladysmith, Newcastle, Pietermaritzburg, Pinetown, Ulundi, Umlazi

Limpopo:

Giyani, Lebowakgomo, Musina, Phalaborwa, Polokwane, Seshego, Sibasa, Thabazimbi

Mpumalanga:

Emalahleni, Nelspruit, Secunda, North West, Klerksdorp, Mahikeng, Mmabatho, Potchefstroom, Rustenburg, Northern Cape, Kimberley, Kuruman, Port Nolloth

Western Cape:

Bellville, Parys, Constantia, George, Hopefield, Oudtshoorn, Paarl, Simon’s Town, Stellenbosch, Swellendam, Worcester

Top tips from a Senior Family Law Advocate on how to deal with your Child Custody matter in the Parys Children’s Court

 

Family law legal matters can be very stressful. This is so whether you live in Parys or any other city in South Africa. Especially so if you have no idea how the legal processes work. It is one thing to know that you are entitled to child support, but it is a totally different matter to know the law and procedure on how to claim child support. Luckily in child maintenance matters, the maintenance court is there to assist you in completing the application form. However, many times that is not enough. Especially so if the other parent has a lawyer and knows how to present the case for his or her client.

This article, however, deals with some top tips in care and contact or custody matters in the Children’s Court in Parys. It would explain the processes involved and advise on how to be best prepared for your matter. This advice is applicable whether you live in Parys or any other city in South Africa.

What to do before visiting the Parys Children’s Court

Before you approach the Children’s Court in Parys, first try to resolve the issues with the other parent. Therefore, if you want more contact with your child and the other parent is refusing, try to resolve the matter first with that parent. If that does not work, try mediation. The mediator can be anyone, from a trusted mutual friend, priest, or other religious leaders, or a professional like an attorney, psychologist, or the office of the Family Advocate. Parys has many professionals that can assist you in this regard. If resolving the matter by yourselves is not possible, or mediation fails, then we suggest you approach the Parys Children’s Court for assistance.

TIP: Focus on getting someone neutral to assist in mediating your matter. Organisations like FAMSA and FAMAC can be of assistance. Google them.

Approaching the Parys Children’s Court

The Parys Children’s Court should be approached if it is the closest Children’s Court to you. You need to verify with the Parys Children’s Court that you fall under their area of jurisdiction. If not, they would direct you to which Children’s Court is applicable to you.

Once you arrive at the Parys Children’s Court, they will provide you with a form headed “Bringing Matter to Court in Terms of Section 53 Children’s Act, 2005 (Act no. 38 of 2005) Regulation Relating to Children’s Court and International Child Abduction, 2008 [Regulation 6]. This form is also called Form 2.

In this form, you will provide all your particulars and that of the child or children and the other parent. The sections in the form are as follows:

  • PART A: PARTICULARS OF CHILD(REN)
  • PART B: PARTICULARS OF *CHILD WHO IS AFFECTED BY OR INVOLVED IN THE MATTER/PERSON *ACTING IN THE INTEREST OF THE CHILD/*ON BEHALF OF THE CHILD WHO CANNOT ACT IN HIS/HER OWN NAME/ *MEMBER OF A GROUP OF CLASS OF CHILDREN/*IN THE PUBLIC INTEREST (SECTION 53(2)
  • PART C: PARTICULARS OF PERSONS HAVING AN INTEREST IN THE MATTER
  • PART D: PARTICULARS OF MATTER

In part D, the following is stated which you need to provide in the form:

  • Nature of matter brought to Court: (Please give full details of the matter e.g., registration/amendment of parenting plans, removal of child to safe care, children in need of care and protection, placement in youth care centers, adoption etc.
  • Documents: Are there any documents relating to the matter? (If so please attach)

Once you have completed the form and attached the relevant documents to it, you must take it to a commissioner of Oaths to have it commissioned. It does not have to be in Parys.

TIP: Draft a separate affidavit explaining your case. Outline some background information and reasons why the Court should give you what you request. Attach it to Form 2.

Processing your Application at the Parys Children’s Court

Once you complete the Form A and submit it to the Clerk of the Parys Children’s Court, they will process it and allocate it a case number or reference number. The Clerk of the Court would then allocate a date to the matter and advise the parties accordingly when the court date is. Please note that some courts follow a different process for processing the application and informing the parties of the court date. Please enquire from the Court when making the application what process they follow.

TIP: Obtain the contact details of the Court for you to contact them to obtain the Court date or other information. Ask for their contact number and email address.

Appearing in the Parys Children’s Court

When notified of the Court date, both you and the other parent should attend. If you are making use of a lawyer (Advocate or Attorney), inform them timeously of the date. Depending on the Court, you may first see the Clerk or go directly to the Magistrate. The Children’s Court would do its best to try to resolve the matter. If the parents cannot come to an agreement, the Children’s Court may postpone the matter for either of the following:

  • Get a social worker involved in the matter;
  • Appoint a legal representative for the minor child;
  • Implement interim care and contact arrangements;
  • Having the parties attempt to agree on a parenting plan;
  •  

In serious matters, the Court may remove the minor child from both parents and place the child in foster care. The powers of the Children’s Court are extensive. It will, however, focus on what is in the child’s best interests.

TIP: Be as vocal as possible. Do not expect the Court to be understanding of your case or be on your side. It is your duty to explain your case and provide the Court with all the relevant information they require for them to make a fair decision.

Finalising the matter in the Parys Children’s Court

Once the Parys Children’s Court has enough information to make a final decision, it will do so. Depending on the facts of the matter, that could either be making a Parenting Plan, an Order of the Court or a final care and contact Order. The Court may even make further interim orders, where the parties are to return to Court after a few months, or a year later.

TIP: Do not agree to something just because the social worker, a lawyer, or the Court suggest it. You need to be happy with what is decided.

The above Parys Children’s Court Application tips should apply to the following provinces and cities:

Eastern Cape:

Alice, Butterworth, East London, Graaff-Reinet, Grahamstown, King William’s Town, Mthatha

Port Elizabeth, Queenstown, Uitenhage, Zwelitsha

Free State:

Bethlehem. Bloemfontein, Jagersfontein, Kroonstad, Odendaalsrus, Parys, Phuthaditjhaba, Sasolburg, Virginia, Welkom

Gauteng:

Benoni, Boksburg, Brakpan, Carletonville, Germiston, Johannesburg, Krugersdorp, Pretoria, Randburg, Randfontein, Roodepoort, Soweto, Springs, Vanderbijlpark, Vereeniging

KwaZulu-Natal:

Durban, Empangeni, Ladysmith, Newcastle, Pietermaritzburg, Pinetown, Ulundi, Umlazi

Limpopo:

Giyani, Lebowakgomo, Musina, Phalaborwa, Polokwane, Seshego, Sibasa, Thabazimbi

Mpumalanga:

Emalahleni, Nelspruit, Secunda, North West, Klerksdorp, Mahikeng, Mmabatho, Potchefstroom, Rustenburg, Northern Cape, Kimberley, Kuruman, Port Nolloth

Western Cape:

Bellville, Parys, Constantia, George, Hopefield, Oudtshoorn, Paarl, Simon’s Town, Stellenbosch, Swellendam, Worcester

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Advocate of the High Court of South Africa – The Advocate’s Profession in South Africa

 

Let us ask advocate Muhammad Abduroaf a few questions

[caption id="attachment_8831" align="alignleft" width="243"]Advocate High Court - Gauteng Johannesburg Eastern Cape High Court (Bhisho)
Free State High Court (Bloemfontein)
Western Cape High Court (Cape Town)
KwaZulu-Natal High Court (Durban)
Eastern Cape High Court (Grahamstown)
South Gauteng High Court (Johannesburg)
Northern Cape High Court (Kimberley)
KwaZulu-Natal High Court (Pietermaritzburg)
Eastern Cape High Court (Port Elizabeth)
North Gauteng High Court (Pretoria)
Limpopo High Court (Thohoyandou)
Eastern Cape High Court (Mthatha)
North West High Court, Mafikeng (Mmabatho) and
Polokwane Circuit Court of the North Gauteng High Court, Pretoria[/caption] South African law has recently changed when it comes to advocates. Now it is possible for advocates to obtain trust accounts which were impossible in the past. By doing so, they would be allowed to take instructions directly from the public. In other words, the client does not first need to see an attorney. Here the Legal Practice Act No. 28 of 2014 comes into play. More than a year has elapsed since the Act has been operating in full swing.   Further below, we tapped into the experience of Advocate Muhammad Abduroaf, a practising advocate of the High Court of South Africa. He gives us some insight into the advocate profession. Although his office is located in Cape Town, he appeared and represented clients in other towns and provinces as well.  

What is the difference between an advocate and an attorney?

Both advocates and attorneys are lawyers or legal practitioners. In simple terms, the attorney is seen as a general practitioner, and an advocate is a specialist. This is however not always the case. Many attorneys now appear in the High Court, and as stated, advocates may obtain trust accounts. The development where an attorney can now appear in the High Court came into existence some years ago. Usually, on TV, you would see the advocate wearing the black robe and the attorney in the smart suit next to him or her.  

What type of work do advocates do?

  Generally, advocates practice in the Higher Courts of South Africa. Here we refer to the High Courts, Supreme Court of Appeal, and the main one, the Constitutional Court. The Attorney would be the one who would do the groundwork, and if need be, instruct the advocate to attend to the more complicated aspects of the case. For example, the advocate would be drafting pleadings, or affidavits, and attending to arguing the matter before a judge and so on. Not to say the other aspects of litigation are not difficult; the latter items are however best suited for advocates to attend to.  

Do advocates give legal opinions on legal matters?

  Advocates would furthermore also be asked to give their legal opinion on a legal matter. An attorney would usually meet with his or her client and discuss the problem at hand, and thereafter instruct an advocate to give his view on the matter. For example, if a client wants to know the prospects of success in a given legal case. The advocate would then spend time researching the law and finding answers to the legal issue at hand. Here again, this type of work would be best suited for an advocate. [caption id="attachment_8825" align="alignleft" width="159"]Advocate High Court - Gauteng Johannesburg Eastern Cape High Court (Bhisho)
Free State High Court (Bloemfontein)
Western Cape High Court (Cape Town)
KwaZulu-Natal High Court (Durban)
Eastern Cape High Court (Grahamstown)
South Gauteng High Court (Johannesburg)
Northern Cape High Court (Kimberley)
KwaZulu-Natal High Court (Pietermaritzburg)
Eastern Cape High Court (Port Elizabeth)
North Gauteng High Court (Pretoria)
Limpopo High Court (Thohoyandou)
Eastern Cape High Court (Mthatha)
North West High Court, Mafikeng (Mmabatho) and
Polokwane Circuit Court of the North Gauteng High Court, Pretoria[/caption]

Where are the High Courts in South Africa?

  In South Africa, we have 14 (fourteen) divisions of the High Court. They are as follows  

Eastern Cape High Court (Bhisho)

Free State High Court (Bloemfontein)

Western Cape High Court (Cape Town)

KwaZulu-Natal High Court (Durban)

Eastern Cape High Court (Grahamstown)

South Gauteng High Court (Johannesburg)

Northern Cape High Court (Kimberley)

KwaZulu-Natal High Court (Pietermaritzburg)

Eastern Cape High Court (Port Elizabeth)

North Gauteng High Court (Pretoria)

Limpopo High Court (Thohoyandou)

Eastern Cape High Court (Mthatha)

North West High Court, Mafikeng (Mmabatho) and

Polokwane Circuit Court of the North Gauteng High Court, Pretoria

There is also circuit court.

 

Do advocates appear in the Magistrate’s Court?

Furthermore, advocates also appear in the lower courts. For example, the Magistrates’ Court, Maintenance Court, Children’s Court and so on. Many times, complicated issues arise in matters that are adjudicated in the Magistrate’s Court. For example, big corporates fighting over an issue that is best suited for the Magistrate’s Court. In those cases, it would be prudent to instruct and advocate with the necessary experience and skills. [caption id="attachment_8830" align="alignleft" width="130"]Advocate High Court - Gauteng Johannesburg Eastern Cape High Court (Bhisho)
Free State High Court (Bloemfontein)
Western Cape High Court (Cape Town)
KwaZulu-Natal High Court (Durban)
Eastern Cape High Court (Grahamstown)
South Gauteng High Court (Johannesburg)
Northern Cape High Court (Kimberley)
KwaZulu-Natal High Court (Pietermaritzburg)
Eastern Cape High Court (Port Elizabeth)
North Gauteng High Court (Pretoria)
Limpopo High Court (Thohoyandou)
Eastern Cape High Court (Mthatha)
North West High Court, Mafikeng (Mmabatho) and
Polokwane Circuit Court of the North Gauteng High Court, Pretoria[/caption]

Do advocates do criminal work?

If there is a criminal matter pending in the High Court, usually an advocate would be briefed to attend to it. However, as stated, some attorneys have rights of appearance in the High Court. Advocates would usually attend to criminal matters in the Magistrates’ Court as well. This would either be District Court matters, or Regional Court matters. As you would have guessed, the High Court would deal with more serious offences.  

We would like to hear from Advocate Muhammad Abduroaf

  We asked advocate Muhammad Abduroaf, a practising advocate of the High Court of South Africa some questions regarding the advocate’s profession. He has over a decade and a half of litigation experience.  

Legal Experience:

Our Lawyer: When were you admitted as an advocate of the High Court of South Africa? Advocate Abduroaf: I was admitted as an advocate of the High Court of South Africa in 2003. It feels like yesterday when the Judge President and Deputy Judge President of the Western Cape High Court admitted me. That time, it was still called the Cape of Good Hope Provincial Division of the High Court. [caption id="attachment_8828" align="alignleft" width="140"]Advocate High Court - Gauteng Johannesburg Eastern Cape High Court (Bhisho)
Free State High Court (Bloemfontein)
Western Cape High Court (Cape Town)
KwaZulu-Natal High Court (Durban)
Eastern Cape High Court (Grahamstown)
South Gauteng High Court (Johannesburg)
Northern Cape High Court (Kimberley)
KwaZulu-Natal High Court (Pietermaritzburg)
Eastern Cape High Court (Port Elizabeth)
North Gauteng High Court (Pretoria)
Limpopo High Court (Thohoyandou)
Eastern Cape High Court (Mthatha)
North West High Court, Mafikeng (Mmabatho) and
Polokwane Circuit Court of the North Gauteng High Court, Pretoria[/caption]

Our Lawyer: What are your academic qualifications

Advocate Abduroaf: I hold an LL.B and an LL.M (Master of Laws), both from the University of the Western Cape. However, to become an advocate, you only require an LL.B.  

Our Lawyer: What do you believe are the qualities required to become an advocate?

Advocate Abduroaf: I think hard work and dedication is the key recipe to be a good advocate. One thing for sure, you cannot be lazy. You will not make it out there if you are.  

Our Lawyer: Is it hard practising as an advocate?

Advocate Abduroaf? Initially, it was very challenging. As you gain more experience, it becomes easier. It’s like anything in life, the more you focus on perfecting it, the easier it gets. There are still times when I am faced with a challenging case. I then dig deep and do my best.   Our Lawyer: How do you cope with being an advocate? Advocate Abduroaf. Firstly, I try to live a balanced life. Focusing on various aspects of life, and not only work. As an advocate, your most valued tool is your mind. If your mind is not sharp, you would be disadvantaged. I, therefore, try to keep fit and live a healthy balanced lifestyle.  

Our Lawyer: Are there cases you do not like to do?

Advocate Abduroaf: I love the law and enjoy practising it. However, there are times when you are faced with challenges. For example, the case that comes to you is in a mess, or your client has a week case, but still wishes to proceed. In such a case, things become challenging as you will most of the time be on the back-foot. [caption id="attachment_8827" align="alignleft" width="121"]Advocate High Court - Gauteng Johannesburg Advocate High Court – Gauteng JohannesburgEastern Cape High Court (Bhisho)
Free State High Court (Bloemfontein)
Western Cape High Court (Cape Town)
KwaZulu-Natal High Court (Durban)
Eastern Cape High Court (Grahamstown)
South Gauteng High Court (Johannesburg)
Northern Cape High Court (Kimberley)
KwaZulu-Natal High Court (Pietermaritzburg)
Eastern Cape High Court (Port Elizabeth)
North Gauteng High Court (Pretoria)
Limpopo High Court (Thohoyandou)
Eastern Cape High Court (Mthatha)
North West High Court, Mafikeng (Mmabatho) and
Polokwane Circuit Court of the North Gauteng High Court, Pretoria
clients in other cities or provinces?[/caption] Advocate Abduroaf: If the need arises and the client is willing to pay for the additional costs, then I would be happy to attend to matters in courts outside of Cape Town. Depending on where the court is situated, I would either fly down the morning or fly the night before.  

Our Lawyer: Any last words for aspiring advocates out there?

Advocate Abduroaf: Work hard, focus, and keep your head down and don’t look around. The next thing you know, you will be the best out there. Eastern Cape High Court (Bhisho) Free State High Court (Bloemfontein) Western Cape High Court (Cape Town) KwaZulu-Natal High Court (Durban) Eastern Cape High Court (Grahamstown) South Gauteng High Court (Johannesburg) Northern Cape High Court (Kimberley) KwaZulu-Natal High Court (Pietermaritzburg) Eastern Cape High Court (Port Elizabeth) North Gauteng High Court (Pretoria) Limpopo High Court (Thohoyandou) Eastern Cape High Court (Mthatha) North West High Court, Mafikeng (Mmabatho) and Polokwane Circuit Court of the North Gauteng High Court, Pretoria  

Contact and care disputes regarding your minor children for the school holidays

Holidays are approaching. It is that time of the year again where parents and children want to spend time together, relax, and have fun. This is usually easy to implement when parents and children live together. However, if that is not the case, it can become somewhat challenging for some and more for others. What can one do if the issue of holiday contact cannot be resolved where the parents are not living together? Read on for ways to avoid legal problems on the eve of Christmas.

The right of the child to spend time with both parents

Before dealing with the issue of the law and how it can be used to resolve issues, let us first look at the rights of a child. When dealing with any child matter, the law focuses on what is best for the child. The child’s best interest principle is stated in our Constitution and the Children’s Act in terms of legislation.  Section 28 (2) of our Constitution states that “[a] child’s best interests are of paramount importance in every matter concerning the child.” Furthermore, section 9 of the Children’s Act 38 of 2005 states that “[i]n all matters concerning the care, protection, and well-being of a child the standard that the child’s best interest is of paramount importance, must be applied.” Therefore, in resolving any care and contact disputes regarding holiday contact, the focus must be on what is best for the minor child involved. And not the parents.

Resolving care and contact issues out of Court

At a very last resort, parties may approach the Court to resolve their care and contact issues. It can be a very challenging and tedious process, which outcome may not always be what you want it to be. That may apply to both parents. However, once the ruling has been made, the parties are bound by it. If the process was acrimonious, it could mean that neither party would be willing to negotiate a temporary change to contact should the need arise—for example, swopping days when there is a family wedding or birthday celebration. The ideal is for the parents to be the architects of their parenting arrangement, not lawyers, social workers, or the courts. They know their lives and the child much better than anyone else and are best suited to find a workable solution. Each family is different. What would work for one family will not work for another. The children’s ages, the location of schools, parents’ homes, and jobs would differ vastly from that of other families. No one glove fits all when it comes to care and contact arrangements for minor children.

Parents sitting down with a view of resolving care and contact arrangements before the school holidays

The first advice we have to parents who are having challenges in resolving issues regarding holiday contact is to set up a meeting with each other. This is very important as it would give both parents a chance to hear the other parent’s view. Parents should try their best to avoid third parties getting involved. And when we say third parties, we include lawyers, social workers, magistrates, judges, etc. Once others get involved, the lines of communication may not be that easy. And many times, it is distorted. Sitting on the same table provides the other parent with immediate suggestions and information needed to resolve the issue, not through a lawyer or a court. Only you and the other parent know what is workable. You know your schedule, your budget, the needs of the children and how far you can compromise. Not the attorney, advocate, or presiding officer. Their knowledge would be limited to the few pages presented or the few hours of consultation.

What is the disadvantage of seeking outside help?

If you and the other parent met and things were still not resolved, outside help would inevitably be needed. That same applies if a meeting is not possible due to the issue of domestic violence or an unwillingness of a parent to meet face to face. Outside help can be a mutual family friend, a family member both parents trust, or a trained mediator. A trained mediator could be a social worker, psychologist, attorney, or advocate. The Office of the Family Advocate can also assist. However, remember, some mediation services can be costly, and if there is a budget, you would have to do with only a few hours being spent on critical decisions. Even if the services are free, remember, in that case, limited time would still be spent on your issues. If issues cannot be resolved within a few hours, more than likely, the mediator would advise that your either take their ad hoc recommendations or take the matter to Court. We are not discrediting mediation or litigation. However, we want the parents to try their utmost to resolve the issues they have before looking for outside assistance. But let us presume outside help is needed. In that case, let us properly look at mediation.

Having your care and contact issues formally mediated

Mediation is an excellent tool to resolve care and contact disputes between parents. This is especially so when a trained and experienced mediator is involved. However, it is not always necessary to have a professional mediator on board. For example, an attorney, advocate, social worker and so on. As previously stated, it can also be your priest, your neighbour, or a trusted family member. All parents and family dynamics are different. It would be unfair to state that expert mediators can only resolve all parental issues. That is illogical and has no factual basis, therefore. However, should it be decided that a trained professional mediator is appropriate, then consider the following:
  • Are both you and the other parent comfortable with the proposed mediator? It is very important that both parties are happy and comfortable with the mediator you will be approaching to assist in resolving your issues;
  • Are the fees the mediator charges reasonable and sustainable according to your pockets? Not all mediators charge the same rate. Rates are, of course, based on experience, qualification, location and so on. However, it would not make sense to enlist the services of a mediator where you can only afford a single session. Some issues require two or three sessions, depending on the issues involved. If we are dealing with swopping a weekend, a single session may be appropriate. However, when dealing with something like relocation, maybe three different sittings would be appropriate; and
  • Are you happy with the location of the mediator’s office or the use of virtual sessions (e.g. Zoom or Microsoft Teams)? For some, face to face mediation will yield the best results. The parties would be able to meaningfully engage with each other in the same room instead of using phone or computer monitors. However, virtual mediation sessions would be best for some, and they prefer it. They save time on travelling and do not have to take time off work.
Once you agree on the mediator, attend sessions with an open mind. Remember, you are in control and can decide your own destiny. Not your lawyers or a court of law. However, if mediation is unsuccessful, one would need to consider taking the matter to Court.

Taking your care and contact matters to Court

Going to Court on your care and contact matters has advantages and disadvantages. The one advantage is that it would bring whatever issue you have to finality. The disadvantage is that you may be unsuccessful and spend a fortune on your legal fees and potentially the other sides. Nonetheless, if mediation fails, or it is necessary to go to Court, here are some tips to consider when taking that route:
  • First, receive proper advice on the legal issue you have at hand. It is important that you understand the issues involved and your legal recourse. It would be unfortunate if you take your matter to Court but do not understand what you are getting yourself into;
  • Know exactly what you want. In other words, what Order do you want the Court to grant you? Is it primary care, shared care or reasonable contact?
  • Ensure that you provide your legal representative with all the relevant facts to fight for your case. This would only be possible if the first two points above have been complied with; and
  • Make sure that you are always kept abreast of your matter.

How will the Court decide the matter?

As always, the Court would decide your matter based on what is best for the minor child involved. As stated, section 9 of the Children’s Act states that “[i]n all matters concerning the care, protection, and well-being of a child the standard that the child’s best interest is of paramount importance, must be applied.” And section 28 (2) of our Constitution states that “[a] child’s best interests are of paramount importance in every matter concerning the child.” Furthermore, the Children’s Act 38 of 2005 places great emphasis on the child’s voice being heard in matters concerning that child.  The Children’s Act states the following in this regard: 6 General principles … (5) A child, having regard to his or her age, maturity and stage of development, and a person who has parental responsibilities and rights in respect of that child, where appropriate, must be informed of any action or decision taken in a matter concerning the child which significantly affects the child. … 10 Child participation Every child that is of such an age, maturity and stage of development as to be able to participate in any matter concerning that child has the right to participate in an appropriate way and views expressed by the child must be given due consideration. … 31 Major decisions involving child (1) (a) Before a person holding parental responsibilities and rights in respect of a child takes any decision contemplated in paragraph (b) involving the child, that person must give due consideration to any views and wishes expressed by the child, bearing in mind the child’s age, maturity and stage of development. In conclusion, should you take your matter to Court or be brought to Court by the other parent, you need to focus on what is best for the minor child. That can sometimes be very hard because in doing so, you must consider factors that do not support your case. For example, if the minor child has always been cared for by the other parent. The bottom line is, focus on what is best for the minor child involved. And if speaking face to face and mediation does not work, then only then approach the Courts. You may, however, seek legal advice beforehand.

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Child Custody, Maintenance, Divorce, Relocations, and other Questions and Answers

   

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advice-child-maintenance-child-custody-divorceIf however, you have a quick and simple family law advice question you wish to ask, feel free to post it below. There would, therefore, be no need to set-up a consultation and pay a fee.  

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Useful family law Articles

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Child Relocation, Passports, Custody, Surname Change, and the High Courts – Simplified

advice-child-maintenance-child-custody-divorceWhat does Child Relocation, Passport disputes, Custody issues, and surname changes have in common? They are all matters which a court of law resolves if the parties cannot do so. Other than child custody issues that can be resolved by the Children’s Court, disputes in relation to Child Relocation, Passport Disputes and Surname changes for minor children are dealt with in the various Provincial High Courts in South Africa where the child ore parties reside. Click here to read more…

Amendments to the Maintenance Act – Final Changes that took place in 2018 – Know your rights

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Parents have a legal obligation to maintain their children. The same applies to spouses who have to maintain each other, and so on. This obligation should be exercised naturally. In other words, even if a parent did not know of the law enforcing child support, he or she should have a natural inclination to do so. Unfortunately, the true reality is that it is not the case. Countless parents are taken to the maintenance court every year due to not supporting, or inadequately supporting their children. And to be fair, there are parents who abuse the maintenance process who takes the parent to court who is already adequately contributing. Now, for the maintenance enforcement process to function, working mechanisms need to be in place. This is where the Maintenance Act 99 of 1998, and the Maintenance Amendment Act, 9 of 2015 come into play. Read on to learn more. Click here to read more…

Child Maintenance Saga: How a mother forced the father of her child to pay child maintenance after battling for 5 years

advice-child-maintenance-child-custody-divorceMaintenance Saga: When Jill was 17 years old, she met Jack. He was much older than her, working, and very charming. Jill was in her final year of high school and in love with Jack. One thing led to another, and Jill fell pregnant with his child. When she told Jack the good news, he asked her to have an abortion. She refused. Jack was then out of the picture and nowhere to be found. She did not know where he stayed, nor did she have his work details. All she had was his mobile number. This number was useless as he blocked her. The furthest thing from her mind at the time was the issue of child maintenance. Click here to read more…

Paternity disputes and Scientific DNA Testing in Child Legal Matters

Paternity disputes are not uncommon in our courts of law. What sparks them varies, however, all disputes are messy. For one, the mere allegation that he is not the father of the child may directly or indirectly affect the dignity of the mother, and that of the child. In other words, it is suggested that she had more than one sexual partner at the time, and the child was born from such a relationship. Nonetheless, the issue can speedily be resolved through scientific DNA testing. Click here to read more…

Victory for Muslim Marriages in South Africa – Court gives the State 2 (two) years to enact legislation

On 31 August 2018, the Western Cape High Court handed down a ground-breaking judgment. In effect, it Orders the State to prepare, initiate, introduce, enact, and bring into operation, diligently, and without delay, legislation to recognise Muslim marriages. The High Court gave the State exactly two (2) years to attend to the latter process. This two (2) years would only be suspended if the matter is taken to the Constitutional Court. However, should the matter not be taken to the Constitutional Court for final determination, and the State does not enact the legislation, then by default, Muslim marriages may be dissolved in accordance with the Divorce Act 70 of 1979. Therefore, it is up to the State to action matters urgently. Click here to read more…

Passport Applications for minor children: What you need to know – Department of Home Affairs – Questions  and Answers

Should you require any advice on an application for a passport of a minor, where the co-parent refuses to consent or co-operate;  feel free to set up a consultation with us. You may call 0211110090 or click here to do it online.
advice-child-maintenance-child-custody-divorceLeaving South Africa, and visiting another country is something many people do on a daily basis. The reason, therefore, could either be for a holiday, business, a death in the family, and so on. Or it might be to relocate to another country to start a new life, either alone, or with your spouse or children. Whatever the reason is, you require a passport when leaving South Africa. For an adult, all you need to do is visit your nearest Department of Home Affairs Offices, with proof of identity, and the prescribed fees, and take your picture, fingerprints, etc. However, if you are a minor child, under the age of 18, it is not that simple. You would need to go with both your parents, and they need to provide their consent. Click here to read more…

Father battles for 3 years to finally see his child. This he did with the help of a social worker, lawyer and the court. He now has regular contact with his child.

advice-child-maintenance-child-custody-divorceCustody, Contact, and Guardianship are parental responsibilities of all parents. Once the child is born, both parents not only have a right but a duty to form part of a child’s life. This is also the right of the child. Therefore, a parent cannot deny the other parent from exercising his or her parental responsibilities and rights. The Courts have a duty to ensure that a child’s best interests are met when approached. It is therefore of paramount importance that parents ensure that parental responsibilities and rights are exercise and enforced where necessary. This includes the responsibility of paying child maintenance. Click here to read more…
   

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