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Top tips from a Senior Family Law Advocate on how to deal with your Child Custody matter in the Polokwane Children’s Court

 

Family law legal matters can be very stressful. This is so whether you live in Polokwane or any other city in South Africa. Especially so if you have no idea how the legal processes work. It is one thing to know that you are entitled to child support, but it is a totally different matter to know the law and procedure on how to claim child support. Luckily in child maintenance matters, the maintenance court is there to assist you in completing the application form. However, many times that is not enough. Especially so if the other parent has a lawyer and knows how to present the case for his or her client.

This article, however, deals with some top tips in care and contact or custody matters in the Children’s Court in Polokwane. It would explain the processes involved and advise on how to be best prepared for your matter. This advice is applicable whether you live in Polokwane or any other city in South Africa.

What to do before visiting the Polokwane Children’s Court

Before you approach the Children’s Court in Polokwane, first try to resolve the issues with the other parent. Therefore, if you want more contact with your child and the other parent is refusing, try to resolve the matter first with that parent. If that does not work, try mediation. The mediator can be anyone, from a trusted mutual friend, priest, or other religious leaders, or a professional like an attorney, psychologist, or the office of the Family Advocate. Polokwane has many professionals that can assist you in this regard. If resolving the matter by yourselves is not possible, or mediation fails, then we suggest you approach the Polokwane Children’s Court for assistance.

TIP: Focus on getting someone neutral to assist in mediating your matter. Organisations like FAMSA and FAMAC can be of assistance. Google them.

Approaching the Polokwane Children’s Court

The Polokwane Children’s Court should be approached if it is the closest Children’s Court to you. You need to verify with the Polokwane Children’s Court that you fall under their area of jurisdiction. If not, they would direct you to which Children’s Court is applicable to you.

Once you arrive at the Polokwane Children’s Court, they will provide you with a form headed “Bringing Matter to Court in Terms of Section 53 Children’s Act, 2005 (Act no. 38 of 2005) Regulation Relating to Children’s Court and International Child Abduction, 2008 [Regulation 6]. This form is also called Form 2.

In this form, you will provide all your particulars and that of the child or children and the other parent. The sections in the form are as follows:

  • PART A: PARTICULARS OF CHILD(REN)
  • PART B: PARTICULARS OF *CHILD WHO IS AFFECTED BY OR INVOLVED IN THE MATTER/PERSON *ACTING IN THE INTEREST OF THE CHILD/*ON BEHALF OF THE CHILD WHO CANNOT ACT IN HIS/HER OWN NAME/ *MEMBER OF A GROUP OF CLASS OF CHILDREN/*IN THE PUBLIC INTEREST (SECTION 53(2)
  • PART C: PARTICULARS OF PERSONS HAVING AN INTEREST IN THE MATTER
  • PART D: PARTICULARS OF MATTER

In part D, the following is stated which you need to provide in the form:

  • Nature of matter brought to Court: (Please give full details of the matter e.g., registration/amendment of parenting plans, removal of child to safe care, children in need of care and protection, placement in youth care centers, adoption etc.
  • Documents: Are there any documents relating to the matter? (If so please attach)

Once you have completed the form and attached the relevant documents to it, you must take it to a commissioner of Oaths to have it commissioned. It does not have to be in Polokwane.

TIP: Draft a separate affidavit explaining your case. Outline some background information and reasons why the Court should give you what you request. Attach it to Form 2.

Processing your Application at the Polokwane Children’s Court

Once you complete the Form A and submit it to the Clerk of the Polokwane Children’s Court, they will process it and allocate it a case number or reference number. The Clerk of the Court would then allocate a date to the matter and advise the parties accordingly when the court date is. Please note that some courts follow a different process for processing the application and informing the parties of the court date. Please enquire from the Court when making the application what process they follow.

TIP: Obtain the contact details of the Court for you to contact them to obtain the Court date or other information. Ask for their contact number and email address.

Appearing in the Polokwane Children’s Court

When notified of the Court date, both you and the other parent should attend. If you are making use of a lawyer (Advocate or Attorney), inform them timeously of the date. Depending on the Court, you may first see the Clerk or go directly to the Magistrate. The Children’s Court would do its best to try to resolve the matter. If the parents cannot come to an agreement, the Children’s Court may postpone the matter for either of the following:

  • Get a social worker involved in the matter;
  • Appoint a legal representative for the minor child;
  • Implement interim care and contact arrangements;
  • Having the parties attempt to agree on a parenting plan;
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In serious matters, the Court may remove the minor child from both parents and place the child in foster care. The powers of the Children’s Court are extensive. It will, however, focus on what is in the child’s best interests.

TIP: Be as vocal as possible. Do not expect the Court to be understanding of your case or be on your side. It is your duty to explain your case and provide the Court with all the relevant information they require for them to make a fair decision.

Finalising the matter in the Polokwane Children’s Court

Once the Polokwane Children’s Court has enough information to make a final decision, it will do so. Depending on the facts of the matter, that could either be making a Parenting Plan, an Order of the Court or a final care and contact Order. The Court may even make further interim orders, where the parties are to return to Court after a few months, or a year later.

TIP: Do not agree to something just because the social worker, a lawyer, or the Court suggest it. You need to be happy with what is decided.

The above Polokwane Children’s Court Application tips should apply to the following provinces and cities:

Eastern Cape:

Alice, Butterworth, East London, Graaff-Reinet, Grahamstown, King William’s Town, Mthatha

Port Elizabeth, Queenstown, Uitenhage, Zwelitsha

Free State:

Bethlehem. Bloemfontein, Jagersfontein, Kroonstad, Odendaalsrus, Parys, Phuthaditjhaba, Sasolburg, Virginia, Welkom

Gauteng:

Benoni, Boksburg, Brakpan, Carletonville, Germiston, Johannesburg, Krugersdorp, Pretoria, Randburg, Randfontein, Roodepoort, Soweto, Springs, Vanderbijlpark, Vereeniging

KwaZulu-Natal:

Durban, Empangeni, Ladysmith, Newcastle, Pietermaritzburg, Pinetown, Ulundi, Umlazi

Limpopo:

Giyani, Lebowakgomo, Musina, Phalaborwa, Polokwane, Seshego, Sibasa, Thabazimbi

Mpumalanga:

Emalahleni, Nelspruit, Secunda, North West, Klerksdorp, Mahikeng, Mmabatho, Potchefstroom, Rustenburg, Northern Cape, Kimberley, Kuruman, Port Nolloth

Western Cape:

Bellville, Polokwane, Constantia, George, Hopefield, Oudtshoorn, Paarl, Simon’s Town, Stellenbosch, Swellendam, Worcester

The rights of parents to have contact with their children during the holiday season

It is that time of the year where schools are closed and most parents can take off work. This is either due to being allowed to take some leave days or the business itself is closed during that period. Whatever the reason, parents wants to spend time with their children during the holidays. And rightfully so. If parents are children live in the same home, there would not be much of a problem regarding contact. Or no problem at all. Parents and children would see each other every moring and before going to sleep. The challenge arise when parents and children do not live in the same home.

Parenal Responsibilities and Rights of parents

Alot has been written on the top of parental responsiblities and rights on this website. Extensive reference is made to relevant sections of the Children’s Act. However, to simply things, parental responsiblities and rights refers to the parental responsiblities and rights a parent has to look after a child. That can be in the form of food, shelter, clothing, education, visitation and so on. Basically, to form part of the child’s life in a meaningful way. Parental responsiblities and rights refers to  responsiblities and rights. They go hand in hand. You cannot say you have a right to have contact with your child, but not interested in execising your responsibility of feeding and clothing the child. The law does not work that way.

What should parents do if they are not allowed contact during the holidays?

Firstly, it is the right of the child to have contact with both parents during their school holidays. It not not neccessary the right of the parents as the law focuses of what is best for the child. Seconldy, it is the duly and responsiblity of both parents to ensure that they make it possible for both parents to have contact with the minor child. This is so, despite the issues and differences the parents might have.

What do you do if contact is frutrated?

If they cannot come to an agreement, then it is stronly recommened that they have the issue mediated as soon as possible. There are many people that can assist in mediaton. That can be someone you both trust and respect or a professional personal trained in family mediation. With regard to someone you trust and respect, it could be your religious leader, family elder or a trusted friend. Regarding professionals, that can be a social worker, lawyer, pyschologist or someone with mediation training. It is best to make use of some who has family law experience. However, it is not always neccessary depending on the issues at hand.

What do I do if mediation is now possible or unsuccessful?

Mediation will not always be successful. Howewer, depite it now always being successful, many benefits comes from a mediation session. For one, the parents would be one step closer in understanding what the issues are, at least from the other side. That can be invaluable as it often happens, couples usually speak or argue past each other when they are alone. In a mediation setting, whether formal or informal, the are forced to listen to each other. However, if the mediation session is unsuccessful or not possible, then the the law comes into play. Before going to court, you may want to consider seeing an attorney or advocate if you can afford it. They may consider the option of sending the other parent letter and try to resolve the matter out of court. Often it works and it is something you may wish to consider. However, if it is something you cannot afford, or it does not yield any noteworthy results, then approaching the court is your next option. This we deal with next.

When to approach the Court when it comes to care and contact disputes?

It does not benefit the child nor you to execise contact or care which is not adequate. In other words, if you should have more contact to your child, you should fight for it. The same applies to a parent who is abusing his or her parental responsibilities and rights. If you feel that they are doing so, the situation must changes which is in the child’s best interest. This could mean affording him or her last contact and care. Therefore, if speaking to the other party, mediation, or lawyer’s letter does not work, then taking it to a court of law is the only viable option. The Court is the upper guardian of all minor children. Therefore, it overrides the rights of both parents. It can therefore limit, take it away or increase or assign parental rigths. Ultimatley, the Court would decide what is best for the minor child involved.

Can I urgently have contact to my child during the holiday season?

If you are denied adequate contact rights to your minor child, you have the right to urgenly approach the court to relief. The High Court would need to be approach for urgenly relief. The Children’s Court may be able to assist, but not as fast as the High Court would. However, the High Court can be expensive if you are making use of attorney and advocates. Therefore, to avoid approaching the High Court and have your matter heard in the Children’s Court, do not wait until the last minuite to enforce your rights. Especially when it comes to end of year holdiday contact.    

I am searching for the top divorce attorney or advocate in Cape Town, South Africa.

How do I find the best divorce lawyer in Cape Town?

There are a few ways to find the best divorce lawyer in Cape Town. One option is to ask for recommendations from friends or family members in Cape Town who have gone through a similar experience. Another option is to search online for divorce lawyers in Cape Town and read reviews from previous clients. You can also check with the law associations to find reputable lawyers in Cape Town. It’s essential to do your research and find a lawyer who has experience and expertise in divorce law to ensure that your case is handled correctly.

How do I find the best lawyer for my divorce in Cape Town?

Finding the best lawyer for your divorce in Cape Town can be a complex and overwhelming process, but there are a few steps you can take to help ensure that you find the right one. Here are some tips: 1. Do your research: Start by researching divorce lawyers in your area or in Cape Town. You can do this by looking online, asking for recommendations from friends or family, or checking with your local bar association. 2. Read reviews: Once you have a list of potential lawyers, read reviews from previous clients to get a sense of the lawyer’s track record and reputation. 3. Schedule consultations: Schedule consultations with a few different lawyers in Cape Town to discuss your case and get a sense of their experience and approach. Many lawyers offer free initial consultations. 4. Ask questions: During the consultation, ask the lawyer questions about their experience, track record, and approach to divorce cases. Be sure to ask about their fees and how they bill for their services. 5. Trust your instincts: Ultimately, the best divorce lawyer for you in Cape Town is someone you feel comfortable working with and who you trust to handle your case effectively. Trust your instincts and choose a lawyer who you feel has your best interests at heart. By following these tips, you can find a divorce lawyer in Cape Town with the experience, skills, and expertise necessary to help you navigate the divorce process and achieve a favourable outcome.

What makes a good divorce lawyer in Cape Town?

A good divorce lawyer in Cape Town should understand the law and legal procedures related to divorce cases. They should have experience handling cases similar to yours and be able to provide you with sound legal advice and guidance throughout the process. A good divorce lawyer should also be a good communicator and listener, as they will need to understand your unique situation and work with you to develop a strategy that meets your needs and goals. Additionally, a good divorce lawyer should be compassionate and empathetic, as divorce can be emotionally challenging for their clients. Finally, a good divorce lawyer should be able to work efficiently and effectively to ensure that your case is resolved as quickly and smoothly as possible.

Is the most expensive divorce lawyer in Cape Town better?

Not necessarily. The most expensive divorce lawyer in Cape Town may not necessarily be the best one for your specific case. Considering factors such as experience, track record, and reputation is essential when choosing a lawyer rather than just their fees. While it’s true that experienced and highly skilled lawyers may charge higher fees, this is not always the case. Finding a divorce lawyer in Cape Town who has the skills and expertise necessary to handle your case effectively and who you feel comfortable working with is essential. It’s also a good idea to discuss fees and costs upfront with any potential lawyer so that you can make an informed decision about whether or not their services are within your budget.

Is it better to contest a divorce in Cape Town?

It’s difficult to say whether it is better to contest a divorce, as every situation is different. Sometimes, contesting a divorce may be necessary if spouses have significant disagreements about child custody, property division, and spousal support. However, in many cases, it may be better to try to reach a settlement or agreement through negotiation or mediation to avoid the time, expense, and stress of a contested divorce. Contested divorces can be lengthy, expensive, and emotionally draining, mainly if the dispute involves children. It’s also important to remember that the court will decide in a contested divorce, which may not always align with what either spouse wants. In contrast, settling through negotiation or mediation can give both spouses more control over the outcome and may be less stressful and costly overall. Ultimately, the decision to contest a divorce should be made after careful consideration of the case’s specific circumstances and with the advice and guidance of an experienced divorce lawyer.

What is the fastest way to get divorced in Cape Town?

The fastest way to get divorced in Cape Town is through an uncontested divorce, which involves both spouses agreeing to the divorce terms, including issues such as child custody, property division, and spousal support. If both spouses agree on these issues, they can file for an uncontested divorce, which can be resolved relatively quickly and without a trial. An uncontested divorce can be filed with the court once the spouses have been separated for at least one year. Once the divorce papers are filed, the court will review the agreement and issue a final divorce decree if everything is in order. The entire process can take as little as a few months, depending on the court’s schedule and the case’s complexity. It’s important to note that if there are disputes or disagreements between spouses regarding the divorce terms, the process may take longer and be more complicated. In these cases, hiring a divorce lawyer in Cape Town may be necessary to help resolve the issues and negotiate a settlement.

How are children affected in a divorce matter?

Divorce can have a significant impact on children, both emotionally and psychologically. Children may feel confused, anxious, and uncertain about the future when their parents are going through a divorce. They may feel caught in their parent’s conflict, blame themselves for the divorce, or feel they have to choose sides. Children of divorce may also experience changes in their living arrangements, routines, and relationships with family members, which can be challenging to adjust to. Parents need to prioritise their children’s well-being during a divorce and minimise the divorce’s impact on their children. This can involve working together to create a parenting plan that considers the children’s needs and preferences and allows both parents to stay involved in their children’s lives. It can also involve seeking the help of a therapist or counsellor to support the children and help them cope with the changes that come with divorce.  

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