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Dear Advocate Abduroaf. My child custody case is very complicated. How do I find the best child custody lawyer, attorney or advocate for my case in Cape Town?

A great child custody lawyer (attorney or advocate) is a legal practitioner who specializes in family law and has expertise in handling cases related to child custody and visitation rights. Family law matters can be very emotionally challenging for both parents. The same applies to the child concerned. Whether you live in Cape Town or in Plettenberg Bay, the law applicable would be the same throughout South Africa.

Here are some qualities and characteristics that can define a great child custody lawyer, or the best one for your case:

Experience and Expertise:

  • Specialization in family law, particularly child custody cases.
  • Proven track record of successfully handling similar cases.

Knowledge of Family Law:

  • In-depth understanding of family law.
  • Awareness of recent legal developments and changes in family law.

Communication Skills:

  • Effective communication skills to clearly articulate your case in court.
  • Ability to negotiate and mediate to reach favourable settlements.

Compassion and Empathy:

  • Understanding and empathy towards the emotional challenges involved in child custody disputes.
  • Ability to provide emotional support to clients during a difficult time.

Strategic Thinking:

  • Ability to devise a strategic legal approach tailored to the unique aspects of your case.
  • Forethought and anticipation of potential challenges.

Availability and Responsiveness:

  • Prompt responses to client inquiries and concerns.
  • Availability for meetings, court appearances, and consultations.

Client Reviews and References:

  • Positive reviews from previous clients.
  • Recommendations from colleagues or other legal professionals.

Ethical Conduct:

  • Adherence to professional and ethical standards.
  • Transparent and fair billing practices.

Courtroom Experience:

  • Comfort and confidence in a courtroom setting.
  • Skillful presentation of arguments and evidence.

Resourcefulness:

  • Resourcefulness in finding legal precedents and utilizing available resources to strengthen the case.

Problem-Solving Skills:

  • Creative problem-solving skills to navigate complex family dynamics and legal issues.

Custody and Visitation Knowledge:

  • In-depth knowledge of various custody arrangements and visitation schedules.
  • Ability to advocate for the best interests of the child.

What should you consider when meeting with a family law attorney or advocate?

When looking for a great child custody lawyer, it’s essential to schedule consultations, discuss your case, and assess whether the lawyer, attorney, or advocate possesses the qualities and skills that align with your needs and goals. Additionally, consider seeking recommendations from trusted friends, family members, or other legal professionals. Finding the best child custody lawyer involves thorough research, careful consideration of your specific needs, and evaluation of the lawyer’s qualifications. Here are some steps you can take to find the right child custody lawyer for your situation:

Define Your Goals and Needs:

  • Clearly identify your goals and priorities in the child custody case.
  • Determine the specific services you need from a lawyer, such as legal representation, mediation, or collaborative law.

Research Local Family Law Attorneys:

  • Use online legal directories and referral services to identify family law attorneys or Trust Account Advocate in your area.
  • Seek recommendations from friends, family, or colleagues who have gone through similar situations.

Check Credentials and Specialization:

  • Look for lawyers who specialize in family law and, more specifically, child custody cases.
  • Check their credentials, education, and any certifications related to family law.

Read Reviews and Testimonials:

  • Read online reviews on legal review websites, social media, or the lawyer’s own website.
  • Consider testimonials from previous clients to gauge the lawyer’s reputation and success rate.

Consult with Multiple Lawyers:

  • Schedule consultations with several child custody lawyers to discuss your case.
  • Prepare a list of questions to ask during the consultation, covering topics such as experience, approach to cases, and expected outcomes.

Evaluate Communication Skills:

  • Assess the lawyer’s communication style and whether you feel comfortable discussing your case with them.
  • Ensure that the lawyer listens actively and provides clear explanations of legal processes.

Consider Experience:

  • Inquire about the lawyer’s experience in handling child custody cases similar to yours.
  • Ask about their success rate and outcomes in past cases.

Review Legal Fees:

  • Discuss the lawyer’s fee structure during the consultation.
  • Clarify billing practices, retainer fees, and any additional costs associated with your case.

Check Disciplinary Records:

  • Verify the lawyer’s standing with the Legal Practice Council of South Africa.
  • Check for any disciplinary actions or complaints against the lawyer.

Seek Second Opinions:

  • If you have initial concerns or uncertainties, consider seeking a second opinion from another attorney or advocate.
  • Compare advice and recommendations from multiple sources.

Trust Your Instincts:

  • Pay attention to your instincts and gut feelings about the lawyer.
  • Choose a lawyer you feel comfortable working with and who understands your unique situation.

Negotiation and Mediation Skills:

Assess the lawyer’s ability to negotiate and mediate, especially if you prefer an amicable resolution.
  • Remember that finding the best child custody lawyer is a personalized process, and the right fit for one person may not be the best for another. Take the time to thoroughly research and evaluate potential lawyers to make an informed decision based on your specific needs and circumstances.
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I Appealed my divorce court’s decision regarding care and contact for my two minor children to the High Court. I was successful.

After a 12-year marriage, which was in community of property, and raising two minor children, I was compelled to initiate divorce proceedings due to severe issues, including gambling, alcohol abuse, and infidelity on my husband’s part. This caused me to leave the marital home with my minor children three years ago. Since our separation, I have been the sole caregiver for our two minor children, ages 10 and 11. My primary concern is their well-being, and I have dedicated myself to their care and upbringing.

Initiating the divorce proceedings

Instituting divorce proceedings against him was the best thing I could have done for myself. He did not take this lightly and immediately defended the divorce proceedings. This was unfortunate, as I believed we could have amicably resolved the divorce. The divorce, in my view, should have been a simple one. Although we were married in a community of property, we did not have many assets. An immovable property involved a house that needed to be sold, and the bond would have to be paid so that we could have shared the sale proceeds. None of us have pension funds, and there is little debt in the joint estate. The only issue was what type of contact my husband would have with the minor children after the divorce.

The primary caregiver of the minor children

There was no dispute regarding the minor children remaining in my primary care. At the same time, I do not believe it will benefit the minor children if the father has limited contact with them. Despite our marriage problems, my husband has always been an excellent father to my minor children. They are very fond of him and him of them. Furthermore, I have spoken to the minor children regarding the divorce, and they agree that they would want to remain in my primary care.

My husband fighting for shared care of the minor children

After instituting divorce proceedings, my husband decided that he wants to have shared care over the minor children. This never made sense to me. Firstly, although he was always in their lives, he was not their primary caregiver or cared for them like a primary caregiver would. I was the one who attended to them from birth, fed them when they were babies, took them to school, assisted them with their homework, and so on. My husband was always there, playing with them and communicating with them. He would take us as a family out on the weekend to the beach for entertainment, and it was always around. However, should the minor children fall ill, I attended to them. They will come to me first if they require any assistance with schoolwork, homework, extramural activities, etc. Therefore, it would not have benefited the minor children to be in my husband’s care for half the month. At the same time, my husband, due to infidelity, was involved with other people, and therefore, I do not believe it would benefit the minor children to be exposed to his lifestyle and, at the same time, be cared for by him. However, I accept that the minor children would have to meet his new partner as she would form part of their lives. Therefore, I had no problem with him having contact with the minor children every second weekend and half of the school holidays.

Presenting my husband with a parenting plan

My attorney at the time presented my husband with a parenting plan. The parenting plan, in my view, was fair. It allowed my husband to have contact with the minor children every day of the week after school for about an hour or two. It also allowed him to have contact with the minor children every second weekend from after school on a Friday until 5 pm on Sunday. He also would have contact with the minor children for half of the long and short school holidays. He would also see the minor children on Father’s Day, Christmas Day, and other special days. On his birthday, he would also have contact with the minor children.

My husband refuses to accept my parenting plan

Unfortunately, my husband disagreed with my attorney’s parenting plan and said he would not move away for shared care of the minor children. What this meant was that the minor children would live with me for one week and with him the following week, and this would alternate until the school holidays when we would share the school holidays 50-50. It has never made sense to me because during our marriage, my husband was never available to care for the minor children, and he did not know how to assist with the homework. On top of that, the minor children did not want to be in his primary care during the week.

Seeking assistance from experts

To resolve this issue, my attorney enlisted the assistance of a childcare expert. The expert assessed what would be in the minor children’s best interest regarding care and contact after the divorce. The expert recommended that care and contact be as outlined in my attorney’s parenting plan, as outlined above. The minor children would see the father every day of the week, half the school holidays, special days, and every second weekend.

Father being unhappy with the expert’s recommendations – Approaching the Office of the Family Advocate

The father of the minor children was still unhappy with the expert recommendation. We then approached the Office of the Family Advocate for assistance office. They conducted an investigation and concluded that it would not be in the minor children’s best interest for the father to have primary care over them or for us to have shared care of them as he proposed.

The matter proceeded to Trial

Following the trial in the magistrate’s court, where I presented evidence supporting my position, the judgement was for a shared care regime, a decision I respectfully disagree with. This went against both experts and would not be in the minor children’s best interest.

Appealing the divorce court’s decision to the High Court

My attorney then appealed the decision to the High Court. On appeal, the court followed the recommendations of the childcare expert at the office of all the family advocates. The High Court was not convinced that the magistrate made a fair decision, as clearly, based on the facts I presented, the experts said it would not be in the minor children’s best interest for a shared care regime.

Assistance with an Appeal to the High Court, Supreme Court of Appeal or the Constitutional Court

Should you require assistance with an appeal to the high court, Supreme Court of Appeal, or constitutional court, feel free to contact the firm of Adv. Muhammad Abduroaf.                        

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