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Divorce – Questions and Answers on the Process and Procedure

advice-child-maintenance-child-custody-divorceDivorces signify the end of marriages. However, it can also be seen as a beginning of a new life. Once a couple has tried everything to save their marriage, to no avail, a divorce is an inevitable consequence. With divorces, comes the law. Only a court can legally divorce you. And because of this, people have many questions on the divorce procedure and process. This post is intended to assist parties whose marriage had irretrievably broken down by answering frequently asked questions on divorces. Due to the nature of legal matters, it is best to make use of an attorney or get the advice of a legal professional when dealing with a divorce. However, we intend giving you a general overview of the divorce process below with the assistance of Adv. Muhammad Abduroaf.

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Divorce – Things to Consider

There are a few things to consider when proceeding with a divorce. Depending on the issues involved, it would determine how quick or how complicated your divorce could be. They are as follows:

Minor Children in divorces

As a consequence of marriage, are children. If your children are 18 years or older at the time of the divorce, they would not be a factor, as they are adults. However, if they are younger than 18 years old, their interests are affected in the divorce process. The Court won’t divorce you unless it is satisfied that their best interests are taken care of. When a divorce settlement is reached, the settlement should be taken to the Office of the Family Advocate. The Family Advocate would then study the document, and, if they are satisfied with it, enforce it. If they are not happy with it or have any issues, they will usually provide it in a cover letter. Factors to consider are the following:
  • Child Maintenance
  • Primary Residence
  • Parental Responsibilities and Rights of Care and Contact
  • Guardianship
  • Facilitation or Dispute Resolution
The Court is however not bound by the views of the Family Advocate. The Court would consider it, however, if the Court feels that the settlement agreement or recommendations of the Family Advocate is not in the child’s best interests, it would then make the appropriate order. In our view, if the parents came to an agreement, and they believe it is workable, it would most of the time be in the children’s best interests for the agreement to be made an Order of Court. Purchase our Unopposed Divorce Package, click here.

Matrimonial Property Regime

The Matrimonial Property Regime the Parties are married in is an important aspect to consider when getting divorced. This we unpack next.

In Community of Property

The default Matrimonial Property Regime is that of “In Community of Property”. What this basically means is that there is one joint estate. In other words, there are no longer two separate estates. By way of example, if the husband takes out a loan, the wife is also responsible to repay it. This is so as the Joint Estate incurred the debt. The husband could not have incurred the debt solely as he does not have a separate estate.

Out of Community of Property

It has become the trend for people to get married “Out of Community of Property”. What this means is that there are two separate estates. It is as if you are not married. The wife can enter into loans and agreements without the consent of her husband, and his estate would not be affected by that. There are however two variables to being married Out of Community of Property. That is married Out of Community of Property with the inclusion of the accrual regime, and the other without.

Accrual Regime Included in Your Marriage

If the accrual regime is not specifically excluded in the Ante-nuptial Contract, then it is by default included. What this means, is that during the marriage, there are two separate estates. You can do what you please without the consent or consideration of the other party’s estate. However, at divorce, or death of one of the parties, you must share in half the difference of the accruals of each estate. So, for example, if the accrual regime applies, and at divorce, the husband’s estate is worth R 10 000 – 00 and the wife’s estate is worth R 5 000 – 00; then he should pay her R 2500 – 00 in cash. The same would apply at death. Both parties would, therefore, leave the marriage with the sum of R 7 500 – 00. This regime would be beneficial where the wife or husband stays at home, looking after the household and children. The other spouse would be working on building an empire.

Accrual Regime Expressly Excluded in your marriage

Let’s say the parties got married Out of Community of Property. However, in their Ante-nuptial contract, they specifically excluded the accrual regime. In that case, there would be two separate estates during the marriage. And at divorce or death, there would still be two separate estates and neither spouse would have to pay the other spouse any amount. If both spouses are working during the marriage, building their own empires, then this regime would be a better option.

Pension Funds in Divorces

Pension funds would apply to marriages in Community of Property, and where the accrual regime applies, to marriages out of Community of Property. When the parties divorce, in the case of a marriage in Community of Property, a spouse has a claim to half the Pension Fund of the other spouse. If they are married Out of Community of Property with the accrual regime, then the value of the pension fund is taken into consideration when determining the accrual. Therefore, if both the pension funds are the same in value, and both parties have the same amount of assets; there would be no accrual. This would be so if all else is equal. Next, we move to the divorce process and procedure, written by Adv. Muhammad Abduroaf. Pictures are provided for some assistance.

The Divorce Process

Some advice from Adv. Muhammad Abduroaf

First, some Legal Advice

If you want to get divorced from your spouse, I strongly advise that your approach a legal practitioner, or an attorney to attend to it on your behalf. This I would implore even more under the following circumstances:
  • There will be a dispute over care and visitation rights over the child/children;
  • One of the parties shall be applying for forfeiture of patrimonial benefits from a marriage in community of property;
  • The joint estate is huge or complicated; or
  • The other party shall be making use of legal representation.

General Divorce Process and Procedure

If, however, you would like to know the general procedures on how to go about in obtaining a divorce decree; they are listed summarily below. There are many rules that regulate divorce processes and the summary below does exclude some of them. These include exceptions, strikeouts, compelling compliance, service addresses etc. Other matters incidental to divorce proceedings, e.g. interim arrangements, pending the divorce regarding maintenance for you or your children and care and contact regarding children are not dealt with. Therefore, please consult a legal practitioner or the divorce court throughout your divorce process should you decide to do the divorce yourself. Purchase our Unopposed Divorce Package, click here.

Summons and Particulars of Claim

A summons needs to be drafted which should be issued by the divorce court to commence the divorce process. It should have on it the details of the court you will be issuing the divorce from, details of the parties, e.g. names, occupation and address etc. Every High Court in the area where you live has the authority to attend to a divorce. You should then draft a particulars of claim outlining relevant matters concerning the marriage, children, reasons for wanting a divorce and what do you want the court to grant you in a divorce order. These particulars of claim you attach to the summons. [caption id="attachment_6734" align="alignleft" width="800"]Divorce Process Summons - Divorce Lawyer Example of a Divorce Summons[/caption] https://www.ourlawyer.co.za/wp-content/uploads/Divorce-Summons-Divorce-Lawyer-Process-217×300.jpg

Divorce Particulars of Claim

Once you have your summons and particulars of claim in order, you have to have the summons issued. To do this, make three (3) copies of your set of documents (Summons and Particulars of Claim) and have it issued at court. [caption id="attachment_6731" align="alignleft" width="800"]Divorce Process - Divorce Atorney Example of A Particulars of Claim in a Divorce Action[/caption]

Issuing and Service of Divorce Summons and Particulars of Claim

advice-child-maintenance-child-custody-divorceOnce you are at the court, go to the clerk/registrar of the court and have your documents issued. The clerk/registrar will sign the summons and provide a case number by writing it on the summons. You should then take the original and a copy (both must be signed and stamped by the clerk/registrar of the court) and take it to the sheriff which serves documents where your spouse work, of lives. You can ask the clerk/registrar of the court for that details. The extra—copy of the summons and particulars of claim you keep for your file and records.

Notice of intention to defend

Once the sheriff served the documents, your spouse has two weeks to inform you of whether he or she shall be defending the divorce. This information is outlined in the summons. If your spouse decided not to defend the divorce action, then after a period of two weeks has elapsed, you may set the matter down as an undefended divorce. If your spouse intends to defend the divorce, he or she would then have to file the notice of intention to defend. In this notice, you would advise the Court and the Plaintiff that you are defending the divorce, and also, provide a service address. The Service Address is the address at which the Plaintiff would send notices in the court case to you. Below, kindly find an example of a Notice of Intention to Defend. [caption id="attachment_6743" align="alignleft" width="800"]Divorce Lawyer Cape Town Notice of Intention to Defend[/caption]

Divorce Plea to particulars of claim

Once you received notice of your spouse’s intention to defend the divorce, about a month later, your spouse or his or attorney should serve and file a plea. The plea should outline which parts of your particulars of claim your spouse agrees (or disagree) with which would give a direction of what to prove at court. Purchase our Unopposed Divorce Package, click here. [caption id="attachment_6740" align="alignleft" width="800"]Plea - Divorce Process - Lawyer Plea in a Divorce Action[/caption]  

[caption id="attachment_6739" align="alignleft" width="903"] Plea in a Divorce Action[/caption]

Divorce Counterclaim or Claim in Reconvention

Your spouse might want to file a counterclaim or claim in reconvention. In the same way which you outlined your case as to what you want from the court and the reasons therefore in your particulars of claim; your spouse can file on you a counterclaim. A counterclaim might still be filed if your spouse agrees to a divorce, but maybe wants primary care of the children, but in your particulars of claim, you asked for primary care. You should then within 10 (ten) days plead to the counterclaim in the same manner which your spouse pleaded to your particulars of claim [caption id="attachment_6738" align="alignleft" width="789"]Divorce Counter Claim - Divorce Process Divorce Counter Claim[/caption]  

advice-child-maintenance-child-custody-divorceDiscovery

When you present evidence at Court, you want to be fully prepared. Therefore, all documents your spouse will be making use of at Court should be presented to you beforehand. And you should do the same. This is where discovery comes into play. You may ask or may be asked to provide under oath a schedule of books and documents in your possession and under your control relating to the divorce. This could be policy documents, deeds etc, and which you or your spouse might want to make use of at trial. Once you received the schedules you may inspect and request copies of the documents. [caption id="attachment_6727" align="alignleft" width="800"]Divorce Lawyer - Process Request for Discover Notice[/caption]  

[caption id="attachment_6726" align="alignleft" width="800"]Divorce Lawyer - Process Discovery Notice[/caption]

Discovery Affidavit

After receiving a notice requesting a spouse to discover, an affidavit should be provided. The wording of the Affidavit can be seen in the pictures below. [caption id="attachment_6723" align="alignleft" width="800"]Divorce Law - Process Example of a Discovery Affidavit[/caption]

[caption id="attachment_6725" align="alignleft" width="800"]Divorce Process - Lawyer Discovery Affidavit[/caption]

[caption id="attachment_6724" align="alignleft" width="800"]Divorce Lawyer Discovery Affidavit[/caption]

Obtaining a Trial date for the Divorce

Once you received the plea, with or without a counterclaim, or have pleaded to your spouse’s counterclaim, and discovery is done, one should then approach the clerk/registrar of the court for a trial date. This you or your spouse may do. This process is a bit complicated, so it’s best to do it with the guidance of a lawyer or the clerk/registrar of the court. Purchase our Unopposed Divorce Package, click here.

Pr-Trial Procedure

Before a date gets allocated to you for the divorce, the Court would want to ensure that your matter is trial ready. What this basically means, is that all that needs to be done, has been attended to and the trial will run. Many months are spent waiting for a court date, and it would be unfair to the court if a judge and other litigants are appointed to a matter, and the matter does not proceed. A judge will meet with the parties in chambers, and once the matter is trial ready, he or she will endorse the file in that regard.

Divorce day / Trial / Unopposed hearing date

If your spouse does not defend the divorce within the time period, go back to court and ask for an unopposed divorce date and attend to your divorce on that date. If, however, your divorce is defended, a trial should ensure. During the trial, each party should prove his or her case. Witnesses should be called and at the end, the Magistrate or Judge shall deliver the verdict. Best of luck, and please, don’t take my word, contact a legal practitioner should you decide to get divorced. Advocate Muhammad Abduroaf advice-child-maintenance-child-custody-divorce [caption id="attachment_6758" align="alignleft" width="300"]Divorce Lawyer and Process Divorce Lawyer and Process[/caption]

Top tips from a Senior Family Law Advocate on how to deal with your Child Custody matter in the Giyani Children’s Court

 

Family law legal matters can be very stressful. This is so whether you live in Giyani or any other city in South Africa. Especially so if you have no idea how the legal processes work. It is one thing to know that you are entitled to child support, but it is a totally different matter to know the law and procedure on how to claim child support. Luckily in child maintenance matters, the maintenance court is there to assist you in completing the application form. However, many times that is not enough. Especially so if the other parent has a lawyer and knows how to present the case for his or her client.

This article, however, deals with some top tips in care and contact or custody matters in the Children’s Court in Giyani. It would explain the processes involved and advise on how to be best prepared for your matter. This advice is applicable whether you live in Giyani or any other city in South Africa.

What to do before visiting the Giyani Children’s Court

Before you approach the Children’s Court in Giyani, first try to resolve the issues with the other parent. Therefore, if you want more contact with your child and the other parent is refusing, try to resolve the matter first with that parent. If that does not work, try mediation. The mediator can be anyone, from a trusted mutual friend, priest, or other religious leaders, or a professional like an attorney, psychologist, or the office of the Family Advocate. Giyani has many professionals that can assist you in this regard. If resolving the matter by yourselves is not possible, or mediation fails, then we suggest you approach the Giyani Children’s Court for assistance.

TIP: Focus on getting someone neutral to assist in mediating your matter. Organisations like FAMSA and FAMAC can be of assistance. Google them.

Approaching the Giyani Children’s Court

The Giyani Children’s Court should be approached if it is the closest Children’s Court to you. You need to verify with the Giyani Children’s Court that you fall under their area of jurisdiction. If not, they would direct you to which Children’s Court is applicable to you.

Once you arrive at the Giyani Children’s Court, they will provide you with a form headed “Bringing Matter to Court in Terms of Section 53 Children’s Act, 2005 (Act no. 38 of 2005) Regulation Relating to Children’s Court and International Child Abduction, 2008 [Regulation 6]. This form is also called Form 2.

In this form, you will provide all your particulars and that of the child or children and the other parent. The sections in the form are as follows:

  • PART A: PARTICULARS OF CHILD(REN)
  • PART B: PARTICULARS OF *CHILD WHO IS AFFECTED BY OR INVOLVED IN THE MATTER/PERSON *ACTING IN THE INTEREST OF THE CHILD/*ON BEHALF OF THE CHILD WHO CANNOT ACT IN HIS/HER OWN NAME/ *MEMBER OF A GROUP OF CLASS OF CHILDREN/*IN THE PUBLIC INTEREST (SECTION 53(2)
  • PART C: PARTICULARS OF PERSONS HAVING AN INTEREST IN THE MATTER
  • PART D: PARTICULARS OF MATTER

In part D, the following is stated which you need to provide in the form:

  • Nature of matter brought to Court: (Please give full details of the matter e.g., registration/amendment of parenting plans, removal of child to safe care, children in need of care and protection, placement in youth care centers, adoption etc.
  • Documents: Are there any documents relating to the matter? (If so please attach)

Once you have completed the form and attached the relevant documents to it, you must take it to a commissioner of Oaths to have it commissioned. It does not have to be in Giyani.

TIP: Draft a separate affidavit explaining your case. Outline some background information and reasons why the Court should give you what you request. Attach it to Form 2.

Processing your Application at the Giyani Children’s Court

Once you complete the Form A and submit it to the Clerk of the Giyani Children’s Court, they will process it and allocate it a case number or reference number. The Clerk of the Court would then allocate a date to the matter and advise the parties accordingly when the court date is. Please note that some courts follow a different process for processing the application and informing the parties of the court date. Please enquire from the Court when making the application what process they follow.

TIP: Obtain the contact details of the Court for you to contact them to obtain the Court date or other information. Ask for their contact number and email address.

Appearing in the Giyani Children’s Court

When notified of the Court date, both you and the other parent should attend. If you are making use of a lawyer (Advocate or Attorney), inform them timeously of the date. Depending on the Court, you may first see the Clerk or go directly to the Magistrate. The Children’s Court would do its best to try to resolve the matter. If the parents cannot come to an agreement, the Children’s Court may postpone the matter for either of the following:

  • Get a social worker involved in the matter;
  • Appoint a legal representative for the minor child;
  • Implement interim care and contact arrangements;
  • Having the parties attempt to agree on a parenting plan;
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In serious matters, the Court may remove the minor child from both parents and place the child in foster care. The powers of the Children’s Court are extensive. It will, however, focus on what is in the child’s best interests.

TIP: Be as vocal as possible. Do not expect the Court to be understanding of your case or be on your side. It is your duty to explain your case and provide the Court with all the relevant information they require for them to make a fair decision.

Finalising the matter in the Giyani Children’s Court

Once the Giyani Children’s Court has enough information to make a final decision, it will do so. Depending on the facts of the matter, that could either be making a Parenting Plan, an Order of the Court or a final care and contact Order. The Court may even make further interim orders, where the parties are to return to Court after a few months, or a year later.

TIP: Do not agree to something just because the social worker, a lawyer, or the Court suggest it. You need to be happy with what is decided.

The above Giyani Children’s Court Application tips should apply to the following provinces and cities:

Eastern Cape:

Alice, Butterworth, East London, Graaff-Reinet, Grahamstown, King William’s Town, Mthatha

Port Elizabeth, Queenstown, Uitenhage, Zwelitsha

Free State:

Bethlehem. Bloemfontein, Jagersfontein, Kroonstad, Odendaalsrus, Parys, Phuthaditjhaba, Sasolburg, Virginia, Welkom

Gauteng:

Benoni, Boksburg, Brakpan, Carletonville, Germiston, Johannesburg, Krugersdorp, Pretoria, Randburg, Randfontein, Roodepoort, Soweto, Springs, Vanderbijlpark, Vereeniging

KwaZulu-Natal:

Durban, Empangeni, Ladysmith, Newcastle, Pietermaritzburg, Pinetown, Ulundi, Umlazi

Limpopo:

Giyani, Lebowakgomo, Musina, Phalaborwa, Polokwane, Seshego, Sibasa, Thabazimbi

Mpumalanga:

Emalahleni, Nelspruit, Secunda, North West, Klerksdorp, Mahikeng, Mmabatho, Potchefstroom, Rustenburg, Northern Cape, Kimberley, Kuruman, Port Nolloth

Western Cape:

Bellville, Giyani, Constantia, George, Hopefield, Oudtshoorn, Paarl, Simon’s Town, Stellenbosch, Swellendam, Worcester

Frequently asked Child Custody and Guardianship Questions, answered by Adv. Muhammad Abduroaf, Advocate of the High Court of South Africa

Parents who are separated or having difficulties in their marriage or relationship often have questions regarding issues regarding child custody, care, visitation, and guardianship. Below are a few questions that Adv. Muhammad Abduroaf attempt to answer.

What is the most common child custody agreement?

The most common child custody agreement is for one parent to have primary care and for the other to have reasonable contact. That basically means the child would be cared for by one parent during the school week, and the other parent would have visitation rights every other weekend. Sometimes visitation would be during the week as well. Regarding school holidays, each parent would care for the child equally if possible. That would mean that the school holidays would be split in half. There are many variations to the above. However, the idea is that one parent would care for the child’s day-to-day needs and would be the first point of call for the child. For example, should the child fall ill at school, then the primary caregiver would be first contacted. That parent would also ensure that the child does their homework, attend sport, etc. The other parent may assist with schoolwork and assignments while caring for the child.

At what age can a child refuse visitation in South Africa?

Children need to listen to their parents. The opposite also applies. However, the difference is that parents know what is best for their children. Once the child turns 18 and is an adult, they can decide when and with whom they want to have contact. If, however, a child is afraid to have contact with a parent, then in such a case, the matter needs to be looked into. It may be best that the child sees a social worker or psychologist to determine the root of the problem and work from there.

How does guardianship work in South Africa?

Guardianship refers to legal matters concerning a child’s life. For example, a child’s legal guardian would consent to a child obtaining a passport or buying a house. Consent is also required for a child to undergo specific medical procedures and international travel. As you can see, guardianship has nothing to do with the visitation of a child. Therefore, a parent can have visitation rights but no guardianship rights.

What do judges look for in child custody cases in South Africa?

In all matters concerning children, the court or the judge is only concerned with what is in the child’s best interest, and not what is in the parent’s best interest. Therefore, whenever a judge has to decide regarding care, contact or anything related to the well-being of the minor child, it needs to make it based on what it believes is in the child’s best interests.

Are fathers entitled to 50/50 custody?

Fathers and mothers are entitled to 50/50 custody if the facts allow it. 50/50 is also sometimes referred to as shared care. If 50/50 is in the child’s best interests, the court will make such an order. If, for example, a parent lives far away from the child’s school, and that parent also needs to be at work very early, it would not make sense for that parent to have shared care over the minor child.

What is a realistic custody agreement?

A realistic custody agreement is one that would work for your specific family. Each family is different; therefore, what would work for one family would not necessarily work for another. Some parents work from home, and others work abroad. Furthermore, some parents are unable to assist children with schoolwork. Therefore, whatever custody agreement would work and be in the child’s best interests is best.

At what age will a judge listen to a child in South Africa?

If the child is mature enough, and there is a need for it, the court would listen to the child. However, usually, it depends on other experts’ interactions with the child—for example, the Office of the Family Advocate or a social worker who would provide a report.

How can a mother lose custody in South Africa?

If the mother has custody or primary care over the minor child, she can lose custody if she cannot be the primary caregiver. She may also lose custody if the other parent is better equipped to care for the minor child. For example, the mother now must work long hours and is away at work more often. The court may decide that it is best for the father to care for the minor child if he can do so.

Is South Africa a 50/50 custody State?

South Africa does not follow the 50/50 custody principle, and it makes a custody order based on all the information before it and on what is in the child’s best interests.

What is considered an unfit parent in South Africa?

An unfit parent neglects a child. Not everyone has the same income or wealth, so a parent who cannot purchase everything the child wants is not seen as unfit. However, if that parent puts the child in harm’s way or neglects the child, that parent would be seen as an unfit parent.

How do you win a custody battle with a narcissist?

Whether or not the other parent is a narcissist, the principles applicable to winning a child custody case would remain the same. It would help if you focused on the child’s best interests and nothing else. The court would pick up that the other parent is a narcissist. However, that does not mean you will win your case. A narcissist that can care well for the child should care for the child. Therefore, focus on aspects showing that you can care better for the child.

What access do fathers usually get?

Historically, the father usually received reasonable contact, which usually entailed contact every second weekend, on special days and half the holidays. The law and society have evolved so that many fathers are primary caregivers, and the mothers are the ones who receive reasonable contact. No matter what the gender of the parent is, the law looks at what is best for the child concerned.

How do you calculate child custody?

You would calculate child custody by the amount of time a parent would spend with a child during the month. For example, if a parent has contact with a child every second weekend, that would mean that the parent cares for the child 4 to 5 days a month.

How can I gain full custody of my child?

Any parent can gain full custody of their child if they can prove it would be in their best interests. No court would give full custody to a parent who cannot care well for the child. The law does not look at the amount of money you have as the court can always order the other parent to pay more child support. [caption id="attachment_10745" align="alignnone" width="300"]Best Attorneys, Advocates, lawyers to assist you in your Court Custody matter. When is the best time to get them involved in your case? Adv. Muhammad Abduroaf[/caption]

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