I never saw my child for months – How do I Obtain Urgent Access to Your Children Without the Services of a Lawyer?

Are you a father or mother whose ex-partner is refusing you access or contact with your child? If so, you have the right to seek relief from the Court for urgent access. When a couple has a child, they often agree on what is best for their child, actively contributing to the child’s life even if they are no longer together. The father typically maintains regular contact and bonds with the child. However, once the relationship ends, disagreements may arise over what constitutes the best interests of the child, particularly regarding the father’s access. In such cases, the mother might deny access outright or impose strict conditions that limit the father’s visitation. If the mother refuses access or imposes conditions that are not in the child’s best interest, the father has grounds to urgently approach the Court for relief. The same applies if the role were reversed. Navigating court procedures can be quite complicated. Therefore, it is strongly recommended that you consult an attorney experienced in urgent applications. If possible, the attorney should have an advocate available to assist you with the application in court, whether or not there is opposition. However, if you choose to represent yourself, please continue reading for guidance on making an application in the High Court.

The Court Procedure

Since your Court application is urgent, it should be made via affidavit rather than orally in court. However, you may still be required to provide oral evidence at the Judge’s discretion to clarify certain issues. This requirement can usually be avoided if your documents are well-prepared. To start, you need to draft two documents: a Notice of Motion and a founding affidavit. Although the text below references an attorney or advocate, you can complete this process on your own. For simplicity, the terms “contact” and “access” are used instead of “care” and “contact.”

What is the Notice of Motion?

In the Notice of Motion, you clearly state what you want the Judge to grant you, similar to the prayers included in a summons. Your main request is for urgent access to your child. Because you are making an urgent application, you will be bypassing certain court rules regarding timeframes and procedures. Therefore, your first request to the Court should be for it to condone your non-compliance with its rules. Next, specify the relief you are seeking, generally in the form of an interim order that can be finalized later. Typically, you will request a rule nisi. An example of the prayers in an urgent access application in the High Court are as follows:
  • Condoning the Applicant’s non-compliance with forms and service and time periods provided in the Uniform Rules of this Honourable Court and permitting this Application to be entertained as a matter of urgency in terms of Rule 6(12) of the Rules of Court;
  • That a Rule Nisi be issued, calling upon the Respondent to appear before Court on ____________________ 2026 at 10:00, in order to show cause why an Interim Order should not be confirmed in the following terms:-
    • That the Applicant shall have unsupervised contact to the minor child as follows:
    • Every alternative weekend commencing from Friday 18:00 to Sunday at 18:00.
  • That the provisions above shall operate as an Interim Order, with immediate effect, pending the return date of the Rule Nisi;
This document is signed by your attorney, or by you if, you are acting in person.

What is the Founding Affidavit?

In your Founding Affidavit, you must provide relevant information under oath. This includes details about yourself, the mother of the child, and the child. You will also need to provide information on several or more of the following matters: – Background information about your relationship with the child’s mother – Your past access to the child – Past involvement in the child’s life – When access to the child ceased or lessened, along with the circumstances surrounding this – Past maintenance or attempts to support the child – Why the application is urgent and why substantive relief cannot be afforded to you in due course – Any other relevant information

How do I Issue and serve the Urgent Application on the other side?

Once the Notice of Motion and Founding Affidavit are complete, your attorney will make the necessary copies. They will then have the application issued in court, which will provide a case number. If possible, you should have the application served on the child’s mother in a timely manner. You should also serve the Office of the Family Advocate. You can utilize the office of the Sheriff, or your attorney may serve the papers directly to the mother.

What happens if there is Opposition?

If the mother opposes the relief sought after being served with the application, she should file an opposing affidavit, to which you will need to reply. Both parties will then argue the matter before the Judge.

What happens at teh Urgent Hearing at the High Court?

If your matter is set down on the Court Roll, the Judge will have already reviewed the papers filed. You will wait for your matter to be called. If your case is to be heard before the Urgent Judge on duty that day, you or your Advocate must present the file to the Judge in advance for review. If the mother or her Advocate is present in court and the parties cannot reach a settlement, they will argue the matter before the Judge. However, if the mother has been duly served but does not appear in court, the process may proceed more quickly. After the Judge has made a decision on the matter, the following may occur: – The Judge may grant the urgent access requested – Grant you urgent access, but not under the terms you requested – Refuse to grant any relief without a family advocate report – Dismiss your application for lack of merits and/or urgency. We are certain that you found the above article useful and interesting. Please consider sharing it on the share buttons below. They include Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, WhatsApp, Gmail and more. Someone may find it useful as well.  
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I never saw my child for months – How do I Obtain Urgent Access to Your Children Without the Services of a Lawyer?

Are you a father or mother whose ex-partner is refusing you access or contact with your child? If so, you have the right to seek relief from the Court for urgent access.

When a couple has a child, they often agree on what is best for their child, actively contributing to the child’s life even if they are no longer together. The father typically maintains regular contact and bonds with the child. However, once the relationship ends, disagreements may arise over what constitutes the best interests of the child, particularly regarding the father’s access. In such cases, the mother might deny access outright or impose strict conditions that limit the father’s visitation. If the mother refuses access or imposes conditions that are not in the child’s best interest, the father has grounds to urgently approach the Court for relief. The same applies if the role were reversed.

Navigating court procedures can be quite complicated. Therefore, it is strongly recommended that you consult an attorney experienced in urgent applications. If possible, the attorney should have an advocate available to assist you with the application in court, whether or not there is opposition. However, if you choose to represent yourself, please continue reading for guidance on making an application in the High Court.

The Court Procedure

Since your Court application is urgent, it should be made via affidavit rather than orally in court. However, you may still be required to provide oral evidence at the Judge’s discretion to clarify certain issues. This requirement can usually be avoided if your documents are well-prepared.

To start, you need to draft two documents: a Notice of Motion and a founding affidavit. Although the text below references an attorney or advocate, you can complete this process on your own. For simplicity, the terms “contact” and “access” are used instead of “care” and “contact.”

What is the Notice of Motion?

In the Notice of Motion, you clearly state what you want the Judge to grant you, similar to the prayers included in a summons. Your main request is for urgent access to your child. Because you are making an urgent application, you will be bypassing certain court rules regarding timeframes and procedures. Therefore, your first request to the Court should be for it to condone your non-compliance with its rules. Next, specify the relief you are seeking, generally in the form of an interim order that can be finalized later. Typically, you will request a rule nisi.

An example of the prayers in an urgent access application in the High Court are as follows:

  • Condoning the Applicant’s non-compliance with forms and service and time periods provided in the Uniform Rules of this Honourable Court and permitting this Application to be entertained as a matter of urgency in terms of Rule 6(12) of the Rules of Court;
  • That a Rule Nisi be issued, calling upon the Respondent to appear before Court on ____________________ 2026 at 10:00, in order to show cause why an Interim Order should not be confirmed in the following terms:-
    • That the Applicant shall have unsupervised contact to the minor child as follows:
    • Every alternative weekend commencing from Friday 18:00 to Sunday at 18:00.
  • That the provisions above shall operate as an Interim Order, with immediate effect, pending the return date of the Rule Nisi;

This document is signed by your attorney, or by you if, you are acting in person.

What is the Founding Affidavit?

In your Founding Affidavit, you must provide relevant information under oath. This includes details about yourself, the mother of the child, and the child. You will also need to provide information on several or more of the following matters:

– Background information about your relationship with the child’s mother
– Your past access to the child
– Past involvement in the child’s life
– When access to the child ceased or lessened, along with the circumstances surrounding this
– Past maintenance or attempts to support the child
– Why the application is urgent and why substantive relief cannot be afforded to you in due course
– Any other relevant information

How do I Issue and serve the Urgent Application on the other side?

Once the Notice of Motion and Founding Affidavit are complete, your attorney will make the necessary copies. They will then have the application issued in court, which will provide a case number. If possible, you should have the application served on the child’s mother in a timely manner. You should also serve the Office of the Family Advocate. You can utilize the office of the Sheriff, or your attorney may serve the papers directly to the mother.

What happens if there is Opposition?

If the mother opposes the relief sought after being served with the application, she should file an opposing affidavit, to which you will need to reply. Both parties will then argue the matter before the Judge.

What happens at teh Urgent Hearing at the High Court?

If your matter is set down on the Court Roll, the Judge will have already reviewed the papers filed. You will wait for your matter to be called. If your case is to be heard before the Urgent Judge on duty that day, you or your Advocate must present the file to the Judge in advance for review. If the mother or her Advocate is present in court and the parties cannot reach a settlement, they will argue the matter before the Judge. However, if the mother has been duly served but does not appear in court, the process may proceed more quickly.

After the Judge has made a decision on the matter, the following may occur:

– The Judge may grant the urgent access requested
– Grant you urgent access, but not under the terms you requested
– Refuse to grant any relief without a family advocate report
– Dismiss your application for lack of merits and/or urgency.

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What are the legal implications of a step-parent adopting a child in South Africa? Is it possible and  what are the rights of the biological parents?

It often happens that a couple marries and there are step-children involved. A spouse would therefore have a child from a previous relationship. The previous relationship could either have been a marriage or just a romantic experience. Sometimes, the step-parent would want to adopt the child, affording him or her legal rights and responsibilities over the child. This is the case, even if the other parent is still alive and in the picture. It may happen that a parent is not much involved in a child’s life and would not mind that the other parent who cares for the child have his or her spouse adopt the child. By doing so, the child would have the step-parent’s surname. The responsibility towards the child would now also fall on the step-parent. Whatever the reason, this article deals with the legal aspects. As you would see further below, an adoption order has the following effect: (a) confers full parental responsibilities and rights in respect of the adopted child upon the adoptive parent; (b) confers the surname of the adoptive parent on the adopted child, except when otherwise provided in the order; (c) does not permit any marriage or sexual intercourse between the child and any other person which would have been prohibited had the child not been adopted; and (d) does not affect any rights to property the child acquired before the adoption. (3) An adopted child must for all purposes be regarded as the child of the adoptive parent and an adoptive parent must for all purposes be regarded as the parent of the adopted child. The law dealing with adoptions is the Children’s Act 38 of 2005 (the Act). Chapter 15 of the Act which deals with it is quite extensive. It starts at section 228 and ends at section 253. We will first deal with the issue as which child may be adopted. For a full view of the Act and the relevant sections, click here. Child who may be adopted 230.(1) Any child may be adopted if- (a) the adoption is in the best interests of the child; (b) the child is adoptable; and (c) the provisions of this Chapter are complied with. (2) An adoption social worker must make an assessment to determine whether a child (3) A child is adoptable if – (a) the child is an orphan and has no guardian or caregiver who is willing to adopt the child; (b) the whereabouts of the child’s parent or guardian cannot be established; (c) the child has been abandoned; (d) the child’s parent or guardian has abused or deliberately neglected the child, or has allowed the child to be abused or deliberately neglected; or (e) the child is in need of a permanent alternative placement. Next, we deal with who may adopt a child. Persons who may adopt child 231.(1) A child may be adopted- (a) jointly by- (i) a husband and wife; (ii) partners in a permanent domestic life-partnership; or (iii) other persons sharing a common household and forming a permanent family unit; (b) by a widower, widow, divorced or unmarried person; (c) by a married person whose spouse is the parent of the child or by a person whose permanent domestic life-partner is the parent of the child; (4 by the biological father of a child born out of wedlock; or (e) by the foster parent of the child. Lastly, should all go well, the court would make an adoption order. The next section of the Act deals with the effect of the adoption order. Effect of adoption order 242.(1) Except when provided otherwise in the order or in a post-adoption agreement confirmed by the court an adoption order terminates – (a) all parental responsibilities and rights any person, including a parent, step-parent or partner in a domestic life partnership, had in respect of the child immediately before the adoption; (b) all claims to contact with the child by any family member of a person referred to in paragraph (a); (c) all rights and responsibilities the child had in respect of a person referred to in paragraph (a) or (b) immediately before the adoption; and (d) any previous order made in respect of the placement of the child. (2) An adoption order – (a) confers full parental responsibilities and rights in respect of the adopted child upon the adoptive parent; (b) confers the surname of the adoptive parent on the adopted child, except when otherwise provided in the order; (c) does not permit any marriage or sexual intercourse between the child and any other person which would have been prohibited had the child not been adopted; and (d) does not affect any rights to property the child acquired before the adoption. (3) An adopted child must for all purposes be regarded as the child of the adoptive parent and an adoptive parent must for all purposes be regarded as the parent of the adopted child.

What are the rights of step-parents and his or her spouse after the step-parent adopted the child?

Once a child has been adopted by a step-parent, the court can order that both the step-parent and spouse (other biological parent) are the holders of parental responsibilities and rights. This issue was dealt with in the case of Centre for Child Law v Minister of Social Development (21122/13) [2013] ZAGPPHC 305; 2014 (1) SA 468 (GNP) (30 October 2013). The court stated the following: [14] The advice allegedly given by officials of the Children’s Court to prospective applicants for adoption that, in terms of s. 242 of the Act, the granting of an application for adoption by a step-parent will automatically terminate all rights and responsibilities of the parent in respect of the child, ignores the exception provided for in the preamble of s. 242. In terms thereof, an adoption order terminates those rights “except when provided otherwise in the order…………… The Children’s Court therefore has a discretion to order that the rights and responsibilities of a child’s parent or guardian will not terminate upon the grant of an adoption order in favour of the step-parent. It will, save in exceptional circumstances, clearly be in the best interests of the child that such an order be made. The Children’s Court is obliged to function in a manner which in each case promotes the best interests of the child and should, except where there are sound reasons not to do so, make an order that the granting of an adoption order in favour of a step-parent will not terminate the responsibilities and rights of the child’s parent or other guardian. In this case, the court made the following order: [17] In the result, I grant the following order: 1.It is declared that section 230(3) of the Children’s Act, 38 of 2005, does not preclude a child from being adoptable in instances where the child has a guardian and the person seeking to adopt the child is the spouse or permanent domestic life-partner of that guardian. 2.It is declared that section 242 of the Children’s Act, 38 of 2005, does not automatically terminate all the parental responsibilities and rights of the guardian of a child when an adoption order is granted in favour of the spouse or permanent domestic life-partner of that guardian, having regard to the discretion which section 242 affords the court to order otherwise. 3…

What are the rights of the step-parent and the biological parent’s post-adoption?

Once the step-parent adopts the child, he or she has full parental responsibilities and rights as outlined above., The court can also order that you retain your parental responsibilities and rights over your child. At the same time, unless there is a post-adoption agreement stating otherwise, the other parent loses all his or her rights over the child.
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