I never saw my child for months – How do I Obtain Urgent Access to Your Children Without the Services of a Lawyer?

Are you a father or mother whose ex-partner is refusing you access or contact with your child? If so, you have the right to seek relief from the Court for urgent access. When a couple has a child, they often agree on what is best for their child, actively contributing to the child’s life even if they are no longer together. The father typically maintains regular contact and bonds with the child. However, once the relationship ends, disagreements may arise over what constitutes the best interests of the child, particularly regarding the father’s access. In such cases, the mother might deny access outright or impose strict conditions that limit the father’s visitation. If the mother refuses access or imposes conditions that are not in the child’s best interest, the father has grounds to urgently approach the Court for relief. The same applies if the role were reversed. Navigating court procedures can be quite complicated. Therefore, it is strongly recommended that you consult an attorney experienced in urgent applications. If possible, the attorney should have an advocate available to assist you with the application in court, whether or not there is opposition. However, if you choose to represent yourself, please continue reading for guidance on making an application in the High Court.

The Court Procedure

Since your Court application is urgent, it should be made via affidavit rather than orally in court. However, you may still be required to provide oral evidence at the Judge’s discretion to clarify certain issues. This requirement can usually be avoided if your documents are well-prepared. To start, you need to draft two documents: a Notice of Motion and a founding affidavit. Although the text below references an attorney or advocate, you can complete this process on your own. For simplicity, the terms “contact” and “access” are used instead of “care” and “contact.”

What is the Notice of Motion?

In the Notice of Motion, you clearly state what you want the Judge to grant you, similar to the prayers included in a summons. Your main request is for urgent access to your child. Because you are making an urgent application, you will be bypassing certain court rules regarding timeframes and procedures. Therefore, your first request to the Court should be for it to condone your non-compliance with its rules. Next, specify the relief you are seeking, generally in the form of an interim order that can be finalized later. Typically, you will request a rule nisi. An example of the prayers in an urgent access application in the High Court are as follows:
  • Condoning the Applicant’s non-compliance with forms and service and time periods provided in the Uniform Rules of this Honourable Court and permitting this Application to be entertained as a matter of urgency in terms of Rule 6(12) of the Rules of Court;
  • That a Rule Nisi be issued, calling upon the Respondent to appear before Court on ____________________ 2026 at 10:00, in order to show cause why an Interim Order should not be confirmed in the following terms:-
    • That the Applicant shall have unsupervised contact to the minor child as follows:
    • Every alternative weekend commencing from Friday 18:00 to Sunday at 18:00.
  • That the provisions above shall operate as an Interim Order, with immediate effect, pending the return date of the Rule Nisi;
This document is signed by your attorney, or by you if, you are acting in person.

What is the Founding Affidavit?

In your Founding Affidavit, you must provide relevant information under oath. This includes details about yourself, the mother of the child, and the child. You will also need to provide information on several or more of the following matters: – Background information about your relationship with the child’s mother – Your past access to the child – Past involvement in the child’s life – When access to the child ceased or lessened, along with the circumstances surrounding this – Past maintenance or attempts to support the child – Why the application is urgent and why substantive relief cannot be afforded to you in due course – Any other relevant information

How do I Issue and serve the Urgent Application on the other side?

Once the Notice of Motion and Founding Affidavit are complete, your attorney will make the necessary copies. They will then have the application issued in court, which will provide a case number. If possible, you should have the application served on the child’s mother in a timely manner. You should also serve the Office of the Family Advocate. You can utilize the office of the Sheriff, or your attorney may serve the papers directly to the mother.

What happens if there is Opposition?

If the mother opposes the relief sought after being served with the application, she should file an opposing affidavit, to which you will need to reply. Both parties will then argue the matter before the Judge.

What happens at teh Urgent Hearing at the High Court?

If your matter is set down on the Court Roll, the Judge will have already reviewed the papers filed. You will wait for your matter to be called. If your case is to be heard before the Urgent Judge on duty that day, you or your Advocate must present the file to the Judge in advance for review. If the mother or her Advocate is present in court and the parties cannot reach a settlement, they will argue the matter before the Judge. However, if the mother has been duly served but does not appear in court, the process may proceed more quickly. After the Judge has made a decision on the matter, the following may occur: – The Judge may grant the urgent access requested – Grant you urgent access, but not under the terms you requested – Refuse to grant any relief without a family advocate report – Dismiss your application for lack of merits and/or urgency. We are certain that you found the above article useful and interesting. Please consider sharing it on the share buttons below. They include Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, WhatsApp, Gmail and more. Someone may find it useful as well.  
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I never saw my child for months – How do I Obtain Urgent Access to Your Children Without the Services of a Lawyer?

Are you a father or mother whose ex-partner is refusing you access or contact with your child? If so, you have the right to seek relief from the Court for urgent access.

When a couple has a child, they often agree on what is best for their child, actively contributing to the child’s life even if they are no longer together. The father typically maintains regular contact and bonds with the child. However, once the relationship ends, disagreements may arise over what constitutes the best interests of the child, particularly regarding the father’s access. In such cases, the mother might deny access outright or impose strict conditions that limit the father’s visitation. If the mother refuses access or imposes conditions that are not in the child’s best interest, the father has grounds to urgently approach the Court for relief. The same applies if the role were reversed.

Navigating court procedures can be quite complicated. Therefore, it is strongly recommended that you consult an attorney experienced in urgent applications. If possible, the attorney should have an advocate available to assist you with the application in court, whether or not there is opposition. However, if you choose to represent yourself, please continue reading for guidance on making an application in the High Court.

The Court Procedure

Since your Court application is urgent, it should be made via affidavit rather than orally in court. However, you may still be required to provide oral evidence at the Judge’s discretion to clarify certain issues. This requirement can usually be avoided if your documents are well-prepared.

To start, you need to draft two documents: a Notice of Motion and a founding affidavit. Although the text below references an attorney or advocate, you can complete this process on your own. For simplicity, the terms “contact” and “access” are used instead of “care” and “contact.”

What is the Notice of Motion?

In the Notice of Motion, you clearly state what you want the Judge to grant you, similar to the prayers included in a summons. Your main request is for urgent access to your child. Because you are making an urgent application, you will be bypassing certain court rules regarding timeframes and procedures. Therefore, your first request to the Court should be for it to condone your non-compliance with its rules. Next, specify the relief you are seeking, generally in the form of an interim order that can be finalized later. Typically, you will request a rule nisi.

An example of the prayers in an urgent access application in the High Court are as follows:

  • Condoning the Applicant’s non-compliance with forms and service and time periods provided in the Uniform Rules of this Honourable Court and permitting this Application to be entertained as a matter of urgency in terms of Rule 6(12) of the Rules of Court;
  • That a Rule Nisi be issued, calling upon the Respondent to appear before Court on ____________________ 2026 at 10:00, in order to show cause why an Interim Order should not be confirmed in the following terms:-
    • That the Applicant shall have unsupervised contact to the minor child as follows:
    • Every alternative weekend commencing from Friday 18:00 to Sunday at 18:00.
  • That the provisions above shall operate as an Interim Order, with immediate effect, pending the return date of the Rule Nisi;

This document is signed by your attorney, or by you if, you are acting in person.

What is the Founding Affidavit?

In your Founding Affidavit, you must provide relevant information under oath. This includes details about yourself, the mother of the child, and the child. You will also need to provide information on several or more of the following matters:

– Background information about your relationship with the child’s mother
– Your past access to the child
– Past involvement in the child’s life
– When access to the child ceased or lessened, along with the circumstances surrounding this
– Past maintenance or attempts to support the child
– Why the application is urgent and why substantive relief cannot be afforded to you in due course
– Any other relevant information

How do I Issue and serve the Urgent Application on the other side?

Once the Notice of Motion and Founding Affidavit are complete, your attorney will make the necessary copies. They will then have the application issued in court, which will provide a case number. If possible, you should have the application served on the child’s mother in a timely manner. You should also serve the Office of the Family Advocate. You can utilize the office of the Sheriff, or your attorney may serve the papers directly to the mother.

What happens if there is Opposition?

If the mother opposes the relief sought after being served with the application, she should file an opposing affidavit, to which you will need to reply. Both parties will then argue the matter before the Judge.

What happens at teh Urgent Hearing at the High Court?

If your matter is set down on the Court Roll, the Judge will have already reviewed the papers filed. You will wait for your matter to be called. If your case is to be heard before the Urgent Judge on duty that day, you or your Advocate must present the file to the Judge in advance for review. If the mother or her Advocate is present in court and the parties cannot reach a settlement, they will argue the matter before the Judge. However, if the mother has been duly served but does not appear in court, the process may proceed more quickly.

After the Judge has made a decision on the matter, the following may occur:

– The Judge may grant the urgent access requested
– Grant you urgent access, but not under the terms you requested
– Refuse to grant any relief without a family advocate report
– Dismiss your application for lack of merits and/or urgency.

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I am father of a baby girl. I want to confirm my parental rights. How do I do it?

When it comes to children, the law mandates that we always prioritise the child’s best interests. It is  beneficial for a child to maintain a healthy and loving relationship with both parents. Concurrently, a parent has the right to be involved in their child’s life, provided that such involvement aligns with the child’s best interests. This article addresses the process by which a father can establish his parental responsibilities and rights concerning his child.

Confirming a father’s Parental Responsibilities and Rights to his Child

In the past, terms like Custody and Access were used for parental rights. Now, the terms Care and Contact are used. The Children’s Act of 2005 states that both parents have full parental responsibilities and rights, with some exceptions. If there is a dispute, the father may need to apply to the High Court to confirm his rights, which can be costly. It is advised to consult an attorney or advocate.

The Court Application

A Notice of Motion must be drafted, supported by a Founding Affidavit, and sometimes confirmatory affidavits. These documents are filed with the Family Advocate’s Office. Once served, the mother can file opposing papers, and the father can reply. A court date will be set, and a Judge will decide the matter, possibly with a Family Advocate’s Report. Urgent applications require experienced legal counsel.

The father would essentially be requesting the following:

An Order directing that both parties (mother and father) share parental responsibilities and rights regarding the minor child, in accordance with the Children’s Act, 38 of 2005 (“the Children’s Act”), as follows:
  • Both parties are co-holders of guardianship over the minor child as stipulated in Section 18(2(c); 18(3); 18(4) and 18(5) of the Children’s Act.
  • Both parties shall share parental responsibilities and rights of care and contact concerning the minor child, as outlined in Section 18(2)(a) and (b) of the Children’s Act.
  • The implementation of these rights of care and contact.
The Court will consider the matter and render a decision. If the outcome is favorable, the Court would issue an Order affirming the father’s parental responsibilities and rights.

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Relocation with my minor child to Germany, Berlin (Consent and Refusal) – Advocate Muhammad Abduroaf

The world is becoming a much smaller place, and technology plays a huge role. People are moving across the world for employment, love and happiness, something that was not the norm a few decades ago. There is no reason why you should remain in South Africa if you can find a better life for yourself and your family overseas. Moving overseas may provide you with the quality of life you want or the possibility of experiencing things you always wanted. The same applies to your child or children relocating with you.

Relocation of your minor child to Berlin, Germany

If you are single and do not have any minor children, then moving around the world would not be too complicated. All you need to do is ensure that you have the necessary travel documentation and travel ticket (and spending money), and off you go. However, if you want to travel with your minor children (for example, ages one or two) or relocate to another country, things may not be that simple. Firstly, if there is another parent, and he or she has parental responsibilities and rights, then his or her consent is required. For example, let us say you live in Simon’s Town or Phalaborwa, South Africa, and you want to relocate to Berlin, Germany, you would require the other parent’s consent to leave South Africa with your minor child. This can cause challenges, especially if the staying parent (in South Africa) does not agree to the relocation.

What about Passport Consent to travel or relocate to Berlin, Germany?

The same applies when it comes to your minor child applying for a South African passport to relocate to Germany, or any country. Both parents who have parental responsibilities and rights of guardianship will have to consent to the minor child’s passport application as well. In this regard, both parents have to be at the Department of Home Affairs (or the relevant bank that also assists with passport application) when making the Application with the minor child. This can be challenging if you have a disinterested parent who does not want to cooperate with the passport application. As you will see later, legal action would need to be taken.

What are the steps to follow when I want to relocate to Berlin, Germany with my minor child? There is there another parent.

To simplify the process for relocation, the first step would be to receive the other parent’s consent in principle for the relocation and that he or she will co-operate in this regard. Once that has been resolved, the parent relocating would need to make the appointment for the minor child’s passport application as well as the application for the relevant VISA. Each country has different requirements; however, seeing that it is a relocation, you need to apply for the correct VISA. For that, you need the Passport. Once the visa and travel arrangements have been finalised, the parent remaining behind will sign a parental consent letter for the international travel. That letter can be found on the Department of Home Affairs website. Basically, the parent remaining behind would state that he or she gives consent for the minor child to leave the Republic of South Africa and travel and/or relocate to Berlin, Germany.

What can I do if the other parent does not want to consent to the minor child’s relocation to Berlin, Germany?

If the parent remaining in South Africa does not want to consent to the minor child’s passport application and/or his or her relocation to Berlin, Germany, then you would need to approach the Court. The Court, as upper guardian of the minor child, may order that the parent’s consent for the passport application and relocation be dispensed with. What this entails is submitting Court documents explaining why you want to relocate to Berlin, Germany. The other parent would also have an opportunity to give reasons why he or she objects. At the end of the process, the Court would determine what is in the minor child’s best interests. If it is in the minor child’s best interests to relocate to Berlin, Germany, the Court would make it possible despite the issue of consent or refusal.

What is the first step I should take if the other parent does not want to consent to the minor child’s passport application and/or relocation to Berlin, Germany?

If the other parent does not want to consent to the passport application and/or the relocation of the minor child to Berlin, Germany – in that case, we suggest you approach an attorney or advocate (trust account) to assist you with the legal process. He or she would then contact the other parent explaining the reasons for the relocation and request the necessary consent. If the parent remaining in South Africa does still not agree to the passport application and/or to the relocation to Berlin, Germany, then the attorney or advocate will proceed to take the matter to court. The legal route can be expensive. However, it is necessary to make the relocation of the minor child possible. You may also attend to the legal process yourself.

Getting legal assistance or help with your relocation application to Berlin, Germany

If you require legal assistance or representation with relocating to Berlin, Germany due to the other parent not cooperating or providing consent, then feel free to contact us for assistance. The Firm Advocate, Muhammad Abduroaf, deals with these types of matters.

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