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Dear Advocate Abduroaf. My child custody case is very complicated. How do I find the best child custody lawyer, attorney or advocate for my case in Johannesburg?
A great child custody lawyer (attorney or advocate) is a legal practitioner who specializes in family law and has expertise in handling cases related to child custody and visitation rights. Family law matters can be very emotionally challenging for both parents. The same applies to the child concerned. Whether you live in Durban or in Johannesburg, the law applicable would be the same throughout South Africa.Here are some qualities and characteristics that can define a great child custody lawyer, or the best one for your case:
Experience and Expertise:
- Specialization in family law, particularly child custody cases.
- Proven track record of successfully handling similar cases.
Knowledge of Family Law:
- In-depth understanding of family law.
- Awareness of recent legal developments and changes in family law.
Communication Skills:
- Effective communication skills to clearly articulate your case in court.
- Ability to negotiate and mediate to reach favourable settlements.
Compassion and Empathy:
- Understanding and empathy towards the emotional challenges involved in child custody disputes.
- Ability to provide emotional support to clients during a difficult time.
Strategic Thinking:
- Ability to devise a strategic legal approach tailored to the unique aspects of your case.
- Forethought and anticipation of potential challenges.
Availability and Responsiveness:
- Prompt responses to client inquiries and concerns.
- Availability for meetings, court appearances, and consultations.
Client Reviews and References:
- Positive reviews from previous clients.
- Recommendations from colleagues or other legal professionals.
Ethical Conduct:
- Adherence to professional and ethical standards.
- Transparent and fair billing practices.
Courtroom Experience:
- Comfort and confidence in a courtroom setting.
- Skillful presentation of arguments and evidence.
Resourcefulness:
- Resourcefulness in finding legal precedents and utilizing available resources to strengthen the case.
Problem-Solving Skills:
- Creative problem-solving skills to navigate complex family dynamics and legal issues.
Custody and Visitation Knowledge:
- In-depth knowledge of various custody arrangements and visitation schedules.
- Ability to advocate for the best interests of the child.
What should you consider when meeting with a family law attorney or advocate?
When looking for a great child custody lawyer, it’s essential to schedule consultations, discuss your case, and assess whether the lawyer, attorney, or advocate possesses the qualities and skills that align with your needs and goals. Additionally, consider seeking recommendations from trusted friends, family members, or other legal professionals. Finding the best child custody lawyer involves thorough research, careful consideration of your specific needs, and evaluation of the lawyer’s qualifications. Here are some steps you can take to find the right child custody lawyer for your situation:Define Your Goals and Needs:
- Clearly identify your goals and priorities in the child custody case.
- Determine the specific services you need from a lawyer, such as legal representation, mediation, or collaborative law.
Research Local Family Law Attorneys:
- Use online legal directories and referral services to identify family law attorneys or Trust Account Advocate in your area.
- Seek recommendations from friends, family, or colleagues who have gone through similar situations.
Check Credentials and Specialization:
- Look for lawyers who specialize in family law and, more specifically, child custody cases.
- Check their credentials, education, and any certifications related to family law.
Read Reviews and Testimonials:
- Read online reviews on legal review websites, social media, or the lawyer’s own website.
- Consider testimonials from previous clients to gauge the lawyer’s reputation and success rate.
Consult with Multiple Lawyers:
- Schedule consultations with several child custody lawyers to discuss your case.
- Prepare a list of questions to ask during the consultation, covering topics such as experience, approach to cases, and expected outcomes.
Evaluate Communication Skills:
- Assess the lawyer’s communication style and whether you feel comfortable discussing your case with them.
- Ensure that the lawyer listens actively and provides clear explanations of legal processes.
Consider Experience:
- Inquire about the lawyer’s experience in handling child custody cases similar to yours.
- Ask about their success rate and outcomes in past cases.
Review Legal Fees:
- Discuss the lawyer’s fee structure during the consultation.
- Clarify billing practices, retainer fees, and any additional costs associated with your case.
Check Disciplinary Records:
- Verify the lawyer’s standing with the Legal Practice Council of South Africa.
- Check for any disciplinary actions or complaints against the lawyer.
Seek Second Opinions:
- If you have initial concerns or uncertainties, consider seeking a second opinion from another attorney or advocate.
- Compare advice and recommendations from multiple sources.
Trust Your Instincts:
- Pay attention to your instincts and gut feelings about the lawyer.
- Choose a lawyer you feel comfortable working with and who understands your unique situation.
Negotiation and Mediation Skills:
Assess the lawyer’s ability to negotiate and mediate, especially if you prefer an amicable resolution.- Remember that finding the best child custody lawyer is a personalized process, and the right fit for one person may not be the best for another. Take the time to thoroughly research and evaluate potential lawyers to make an informed decision based on your specific needs and circumstances.
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Child Maintenance and Support
https://www.ourlawyer.co.za/wp-content/uploads/Our-Lawyer-Consultation.gifEvery Child is entitled to have adequate child maintenance from his parents. This includes the provision of food, clothing, shelter, education and healthcare. These provisions are to be provided by both his or her mother and father. If one parent cannot afford any support, then other the parent would be responsible for the time being. However, support can still be claimed from the child’s maternal and paternal grandparents. What follows are some answers to a few questions on child maintenance.How much is the basic rate or amount of child maintenance?
There is no basic rate for child maintenance. The amount depends on various factors, which includes the needs of the child, the income of the parents, as well as their personal expenses. There are many other factors as well. The law expects parents to contribute based on their means. Therefore, in principle, but not easily applied in practice, if a mother earns double of that the father, and has the same monthly expenses, she would pay double in child support. What is best is for parents to sit down and work out what is fair.What is covered by child maintenance?
A vast amount of provisions is included in the concept of child support. These are not only necessities, it can be luxuries as well. This all depends on the standard of living of the parents, and what the child was accustomed to. This would even more apply if the parents were married to each other, had the child, and then separated. The law would want the child to continue with the standard of living he or she had before the separation, or divorce.How do you determine the amount of child support?
Determining the amount to pay for child support is not an easy one. If things were simple, both parties would earn the same and have the same expenses. However, this is seldom the case. Furthermore, one should also look at the means of the parents, assets and liabilities. Therefore, if a parent does not earn much, but own an expensive piece of real estate, that would be taken into account when determining the amount, he or she should contribute. Once all the figures are on the table, a fair amount should be allocated.When do I stop paying maintenance?
Child maintenance should be paid until the child is self-supporting or sufficient. Although the child becomes an adult at the age of eighteen, many at time, the child is still at school, studying, or trying to find a job. He or she may still claim maintenance from his or her parents. However, once the child becomes self-supporting, maintenance should stop. if there is a child maintenance order in place, such order should be set aside should the child be self-supporting.
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Divorce Lawyers – Make sure your Attorney or Advocate is on your side
Divorce Lawyer – Divorces need not be difficult. With a large number of marriages ending up in divorce; surely the process should be simple. When a marriage has broken down irretrievably, life needs to go on. It is senseless to make up for your unsuccessful marriage, by trying to have a successful divorce. If there are children involved, there is even more reason not to fight. And if there are no children involved, the only outstanding issues would be property. But if you were married out of Community of Property, there is no need to fight at all. This is where a good divorce lawyer comes in.Family Law Questions and Answers
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Divorces – Questions and Answers
Child Custody – Questions and Answers
Child Maintenance – Question and Answers
Domestic Violence – Questions and Answers
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This article does not deal with the procedural aspects of a divorce. Other articles on this website deal with that. The aim of this article is for you to search and find a good divorce lawyer, attorney, or advocate that has your best interests at heard. In other words, not there to make a small fortune off you, at the expense of your well being and that of your family. Below you would find a consent paper, with reasonable terms, that can be customised accordingly.How should divorce lawyers deal with divorce matters?
Not all divorces are the same. But the reality is, not all divorces need to be a fight. The only persons that benefit from a long drawn out divorce are lawyers. And once the funds dry out, so too does the divorce lawyer’s energy for your case. In our view, the first thing the divorce lawyers should do when approached by a client for a divorce is to resolve it expeditiously. This can be done by trying to call both parties into a round table meeting. This is where all issues are unpacked. If that is not possible, send the other side a reasonable settlement agreement. In that way, before huge sums of money are wasted on legal costs; matters can be resolved in a cost effective manner. Have a look at the Settlement Agreement below which should be part of any good divorce lawyer’s templates. It is reasonable an one that should be accepted by the other side with due amendments. [caption id="attachment_6682" align="alignleft" width="300"]
Divorce Attorney Cape Town[/caption]EXAMPLE OF A CONSENT PAPER
IN THE HIGH COURT OF SOUTH AFRICA (WESTERN CAPE DIVISION, CAPE TOWN) CASE NO: /18 In the matter between: JOHN SMITH PLAINTIFF and JANE SMITH DEFENDANT CONSENT PAPER INTRODUCTION THE PARTIES, as described above, were married to each other on XXX, at XXX, Cape Town, Western Cape, and the marriage still so subsists; THREE (3) MINOR CHILDREN, namely, XXX (hereafter together referred to as “the minor children”), were born from the marriage; THE PARTIES find it unfortunate, and are in agreement that the marriage has broken down irretrievably and that there is no reasonable prospect of the restoration of a normal relationship between them; AND THEREFORE, the Parties both wish for a divorce, dissolving the marriage between them, which divorce both parties would co-operate in finalising as friendly and as speedily as possible; AND WHEREAS the Parties have arrived at an Agreement relating, inter alia, to parental responsibilities and rights, proprietary rights and costs of suit, which agreement the Parties desire to record in writing and have incorporated in the Final Order of Divorce in the event of the above Honourable Court seeing it fit to grant a Final Decree of Divorce dissolving the marriage between the Parties. NOW THEREFORE THESE SAID PARTIES AGREES AS FOLLOWS:- PERSONAL MAINTENANCE
- Each Party hereby waives his or her claim to personal maintenance, past, present and future from the other Party, if any;
- PARENTAL RESPONSIBILITIES AND RIGHTS
- The Parties are to remain co-holders of parental responsibilities and rights in respect of the minor children in terms of the Children’s Act, 38 of 2005 (“the Children’s Act”) as follows:
- The Parties are to remain co-holders of guardianship over the minor children as provided for in Section 18(2(c), 18(3), 18(4) and 18(5) of the Children’s Act; and
- The Parties are to remain co-holders of parental responsibilities and rights of care and contact in respect of the minor children as provided for in Section 18(2)(a) and (b) of the Children’s Act.
- The Parties’ rights of care and contact shall be implemented as follows:
- The minor children shall reside primarily with Plaintiff who shall be their primary care-giver; and
- Defendant shall have reasonable contact with the minor children as follows unless agreed to otherwise between the Parties:
- Every alternative weekend, commencing from Friday 15:00 until 17:00 on the Sunday;
- Every Tuesday preceding his weekend of contact from 17:00 to 20:00; and
- Every Thursday succeeding his weekend of contact from 17:00 to 20:00.
- School Holidays
- Equal sharing of long and short school holidays, in that the minor children shall reside one half with Plaintiff and the other with Defendant which shall alternate each year.
- Special Days Contact
- The Plaintiff and/or the Defendant, as the case may be, shall further have contact with the minor children on the following days for 3 (three) hours notwithstanding in whose care the minor children are in on those days:
- Christmas Day;
- The minor children’s birthday;
- Father’s Day and Mother’s Day; and
- The Parties’ birthday.
- The Parties shall have telephonic contact with the minor children on a regular basis whilst the minor children are in the other’s care;
- Notwithstanding the above, the Parties shall have reasonable contact with the minor children at all times, provided that any additional contact shall be arranged telephonically and shall only take place by prior arrangement and consensus between the Parties; and
- The Parties shall respect each other’s privacy and shall not enter each other’s homes at any time without prior invitation, whether for the purpose of fetching or returning the minor children or any other reason whatsoever.
- JOINT DECISION MAKING
- The Parties shall make joint decisions about the following aspects of the minor children’s life:
- Major decisions about the minor children’s schooling and tertiary education;
- Major decisions about the minor children’s physical care, mental health care and medical care;
- Major decisions about the minor children’s religious and spiritual upbringing;
- Decisions about the minor children’s residence both within and outside the Cape Peninsula;
- Decisions which are likely to significantly change the minor children’s living conditions or to have an adverse effect on their well-being; and
- Decisions which affect the minor children’s everyday care and daily routine shall be made by the party in whose care the minor children are in at the relevant time.
- FACILITATION
- A facilitator shall be appointed by the parties jointly to facilitate and assist in resolving disputes between the parties relating to the minor children;
- These disputes shall include contact disputes should one party feel that contact should be increased or decreased, or varied for either party;
- In the event of the facilitator being unable to continue as facilitator, then he/she shall appoint a facilitator in his/her place, alternatively, or should the parties be unable to agree on the appointment of a facilitator or replacement facilitator, such facilitator or replacement facilitator as the case may be shall be appointed by the chairperson for the time being of FAMAC (Western Cape);
- In the event of the parties being unable to reach agreement in respect of a dispute, with the assistance of the facilitator, then the facilitator shall be entitled to issue a directive in respect of such dispute which shall be valid of full legal force and effect and binding upon the parties until a court of competent jurisdiction Orders differently;
- The facilitator shall be entitled in his/her sole discretion to appoint such other person as may be necessary in order to make a decision in respect of the issue in dispute, including the right to co-opt a facilitator or the assistance of an appropriate expert if he/she deems it appropriate or necessary; and
- The cost of sessions with the facilitator and the services of the expert shall be shared equally between the parties unless otherwise directed by the facilitator. Each Party shall, however, be liable for the facilitator’s costs incurred attendant upon such party’s written and telephonic communications with the facilitator.
- CHILD MAINTENANCE
- Defendant shall pay an amount of R XXX – 00 (XXX Rand) per month per child, in respect of child maintenance;
- The aforementioned amounts are payable on or before the 1st day of each and every succeeding month from the date of the Divorce. The said sum shall be paid into such bank account as Plaintiff may nominate from time to time;
- The child maintenance payable shall increase annually on the 1st day of January each year, in accordance with the rise that has taken place in the preceding 12 (Twelve) months in the Consumer Price Index (CPI) for the Republic of South Africa, as determined by the Director of Statistics or its equivalent for persons in the middle-income group;
- Plaintiff shall retain Alyssa Skye Abrahams, on her current medical aid scheme, or a similar scheme with similar benefits;
- Defendant shall retain Joel Malcolm Abrahams, on his current medical aid scheme, or similar scheme with similar benefits;
- Both Parties would be responsible, in equal shares in respect of the minor children for all reasonable medical, psychological, physiotherapy, dental, ophthalmic, pharmaceutical, hospitalization and prescribed medication costs, incurred, and not covered by the latter medical aid schemes.
- If the minor children display aptitudes and qualify for tertiary education, then both Parties shall be responsible in equal shares for all the costs associated with such tertiary education, which shall include, but not limited to, tuition, textbooks, transport, and boarding if necessary. In this regard, if one Party paid for an educational expense in full, he or she shall accordingly be reimbursed with half the expense within 7 (seven) days of being showed proof of such expense.
- THE JOINT ESTATE OF THE PARTIES SHALL BE DIVIDED AS FOLLOWS:
- Defendant’s Investment Policy
- XXX
- MOTOR VEHICLES
- XXX
- BALANCE OF THE JOINT ESTATE
- The balance of the Joint Estate shall equally be divided between the Parties.
- OBLIGATIONS BINDING ON ESTATE
- The obligations in terms of this Consent Paper shall be binding on the parties’ respective estates, heirs, administrators and/or assigns.
- FULL AND FINAL SETTLEMENT
- This Agreement is a full and final settlement of all outstanding differences between them, and save as herein provided, neither party shall enjoy any personal claim against the other.
- COSTS
- Each party shall pay their own legal costs associated with the divorce.
- Each Party hereby waives his or her claim to personal maintenance, past, present and future from the other Party, if any;
- The Parties are to remain co-holders of parental responsibilities and rights in respect of the minor children in terms of the Children’s Act, 38 of 2005 (“the Children’s Act”) as follows:
- The Parties are to remain co-holders of guardianship over the minor children as provided for in Section 18(2(c), 18(3), 18(4) and 18(5) of the Children’s Act; and
- The Parties are to remain co-holders of parental responsibilities and rights of care and contact in respect of the minor children as provided for in Section 18(2)(a) and (b) of the Children’s Act.
- The Parties’ rights of care and contact shall be implemented as follows:
- The minor children shall reside primarily with Plaintiff who shall be their primary care-giver; and
- Defendant shall have reasonable contact with the minor children as follows unless agreed to otherwise between the Parties:
- Every alternative weekend, commencing from Friday 15:00 until 17:00 on the Sunday;
- Every Tuesday preceding his weekend of contact from 17:00 to 20:00; and
- Every Thursday succeeding his weekend of contact from 17:00 to 20:00.
- School Holidays
- Equal sharing of long and short school holidays, in that the minor children shall reside one half with Plaintiff and the other with Defendant which shall alternate each year.
- Special Days Contact
- The Plaintiff and/or the Defendant, as the case may be, shall further have contact with the minor children on the following days for 3 (three) hours notwithstanding in whose care the minor children are in on those days:
- Christmas Day;
- The minor children’s birthday;
- Father’s Day and Mother’s Day; and
- The Parties’ birthday.
- The Parties shall have telephonic contact with the minor children on a regular basis whilst the minor children are in the other’s care;
- Notwithstanding the above, the Parties shall have reasonable contact with the minor children at all times, provided that any additional contact shall be arranged telephonically and shall only take place by prior arrangement and consensus between the Parties; and
- The Parties shall respect each other’s privacy and shall not enter each other’s homes at any time without prior invitation, whether for the purpose of fetching or returning the minor children or any other reason whatsoever.
- JOINT DECISION MAKING
- The Parties shall make joint decisions about the following aspects of the minor children’s life:
- Major decisions about the minor children’s schooling and tertiary education;
- Major decisions about the minor children’s physical care, mental health care and medical care;
- Major decisions about the minor children’s religious and spiritual upbringing;
- Decisions about the minor children’s residence both within and outside the Cape Peninsula;
- Decisions which are likely to significantly change the minor children’s living conditions or to have an adverse effect on their well-being; and
- Decisions which affect the minor children’s everyday care and daily routine shall be made by the party in whose care the minor children are in at the relevant time.
- The Parties shall make joint decisions about the following aspects of the minor children’s life:
- A facilitator shall be appointed by the parties jointly to facilitate and assist in resolving disputes between the parties relating to the minor children;
- These disputes shall include contact disputes should one party feel that contact should be increased or decreased, or varied for either party;
- In the event of the facilitator being unable to continue as facilitator, then he/she shall appoint a facilitator in his/her place, alternatively, or should the parties be unable to agree on the appointment of a facilitator or replacement facilitator, such facilitator or replacement facilitator as the case may be shall be appointed by the chairperson for the time being of FAMAC (Western Cape);
- In the event of the parties being unable to reach agreement in respect of a dispute, with the assistance of the facilitator, then the facilitator shall be entitled to issue a directive in respect of such dispute which shall be valid of full legal force and effect and binding upon the parties until a court of competent jurisdiction Orders differently;
- The facilitator shall be entitled in his/her sole discretion to appoint such other person as may be necessary in order to make a decision in respect of the issue in dispute, including the right to co-opt a facilitator or the assistance of an appropriate expert if he/she deems it appropriate or necessary; and
- The cost of sessions with the facilitator and the services of the expert shall be shared equally between the parties unless otherwise directed by the facilitator. Each Party shall, however, be liable for the facilitator’s costs incurred attendant upon such party’s written and telephonic communications with the facilitator.
- Defendant shall pay an amount of R XXX – 00 (XXX Rand) per month per child, in respect of child maintenance;
- The aforementioned amounts are payable on or before the 1st day of each and every succeeding month from the date of the Divorce. The said sum shall be paid into such bank account as Plaintiff may nominate from time to time;
- The child maintenance payable shall increase annually on the 1st day of January each year, in accordance with the rise that has taken place in the preceding 12 (Twelve) months in the Consumer Price Index (CPI) for the Republic of South Africa, as determined by the Director of Statistics or its equivalent for persons in the middle-income group;
- Plaintiff shall retain Alyssa Skye Abrahams, on her current medical aid scheme, or a similar scheme with similar benefits;
- Defendant shall retain Joel Malcolm Abrahams, on his current medical aid scheme, or similar scheme with similar benefits;
- Both Parties would be responsible, in equal shares in respect of the minor children for all reasonable medical, psychological, physiotherapy, dental, ophthalmic, pharmaceutical, hospitalization and prescribed medication costs, incurred, and not covered by the latter medical aid schemes.
- If the minor children display aptitudes and qualify for tertiary education, then both Parties shall be responsible in equal shares for all the costs associated with such tertiary education, which shall include, but not limited to, tuition, textbooks, transport, and boarding if necessary. In this regard, if one Party paid for an educational expense in full, he or she shall accordingly be reimbursed with half the expense within 7 (seven) days of being showed proof of such expense.
- Defendant’s Investment Policy
- XXX
- MOTOR VEHICLES
- XXX
- The balance of the Joint Estate shall equally be divided between the Parties.
- The obligations in terms of this Consent Paper shall be binding on the parties’ respective estates, heirs, administrators and/or assigns.
- This Agreement is a full and final settlement of all outstanding differences between them, and save as herein provided, neither party shall enjoy any personal claim against the other.
- Each party shall pay their own legal costs associated with the divorce.
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