I would love to have contact with my child on Father’s Day. Her mother is refusing me contact. What does the law say when it comes to the rights of a father?

Every year, the World celebrates Father’s Day. In 2019, it was celebrated on 16 June, coinciding with Youth Day in South Africa. It is a very special day not only for fathers but for the children concerned. When we refer to children, we are not only referring to kids or toddlers. Even grown-up children celebrate Father’s Day with their respective fathers. In some families, Father’s Day is being celebrated by three generations of offspring. This article, however, relates to Father’s Day in the context of minor children spending time with their fathers on that special day.

The Father

We will not go into the technical legality of what makes you a father. A child who has been adopted is for all intents and purposes the child of the adoptive parent. Even if the child was not adopted, or you are not the biological father of the child, if the child refers to you as a father, then the celebration of Father’s Day would apply to you. Here a specific example would be step-parents. Now let’s move on to the issue of what rights does a father have to have contact with his child on Father’s Day. But before we can do that, we need to have a look at the Children’s Act 38 of 2005. Let us start off by looking at what the law says regarding parental responsibilities and rights of fathers. You will note that the law applies differently when it comes to married and unmarried fathers. However, the principles are the same.

Unpacking the law

The purpose of this article is to correctly outline the law applicable to the rights of fathers in relation to their children. In this case, we shall make extensive reference to the Children’s Act. A father can, therefore, have a look at the various sections of the Children’s Act, unpacked below and apply it to himself. Let us start off with a concept of parental responsibilities and rights.

Parental responsibilities and rights of married fathers

Section 20 of the Children’s Act deals with the parental responsibilities and rights of married fathers. It states: The biological father of a child has full parental responsibilities and rights in respect of the child— (a) if he is married to the child’s mother; or (b) if he was married to the child’s mother at— (i) the time of the child’s conception; (ii) the time of the child’s birth; or (iii) any time between the child’s conception and birth. This section is straight forward. If you were married to the child’s mother, you automatically have full parental responsibilities and rights in respect of the child. In short, you do not have to be married to the mother at conception. Parental responsibilities and rights of unmarried fathers Section 21 of the Children’s Act deals with parental responsibilities and rights of unmarried fathers. It states: (1) The biological father of a child who does not have parental responsibilities and rights in respect of the child in terms of section 20, acquires full parental responsibilities and rights in respect of the child— (a) if at the time of the child’s birth he is living with the mother in a permanent life-partnership; or (b) if he, regardless of whether he has lived or is living with the mother— (i) consents to be identified or successfully applies in terms of section 26 to be identified as the child’s father or pays damages in terms of customary law; (ii) contributes or has attempted in good faith to contribute to the child’s upbringing for a reasonable period; and (iii) contributes or has attempted in good faith to contribute towards expenses in connection with the maintenance of the child for a reasonable period. (2) This section does not affect the duty of a father to contribute towards the maintenance of the child. (3) (a) If there is a dispute between the biological father referred to in subsection (1) and the biological mother of a child with regard to the fulfilment by that father of the conditions set out in subsection (1) (a) or (b), the matter must be referred for mediation to a family advocate, social worker, social service professional or other suitably qualified person. (b) Any party to the mediation may have the outcome of the mediation reviewed by a court. (4) This section applies regardless of whether the child was born before or after the commencement of this Act. The application of this section can be a bit technical. However, it seems that if a father was involved in a child’s life, he acquires parental responsibilities and rights. Now let us move on to what is meant by the term “parental responsibilities and rights”. Parental responsibilities and rights Section 18 of the Children’s Act deals with parental responsibilities and rights. It states the following: (1) A person may have either full or specific parental responsibilities and rights in respect of a child. (2) The parental responsibilities and rights that a person may have in respect of a child, include the responsibility and the right— (a) to care for the child; (b) to maintain contact with the child; (c) to act as guardian of the child; and (d) to contribute to the maintenance of the child. (3) Subject to subsections (4) and (5), a parent or other person who acts as guardian of a child must— (a) administer and safeguard the child’s property and property interests; (b) assist or represent the child in administrative, contractual and other legal matters; or (c) give or refuse any consent required by law in respect of the child, including— (i) consent to the child’s marriage; (ii) consent to the child’s adoption; (iii) consent to the child’s departure or removal from the Republic; (iv) consent to the child’s application for a passport; and (v) consent to the alienation or encumbrance of any immovable property of the child. (4) Whenever more than one person has guardianship of a child, each one of them is competent, subject to subsection (5), any other law or any order of a competent court to the contrary, to exercise independently and without the consent of the other any right or responsibility arising from such guardianship. (5) Unless a competent court orders otherwise, the consent of all the persons that have guardianship of a child is necessary in respect of matters set out in subsection (3) (c). This section is extensive. However, it is clear that if you have parental responsibilities and rights in relation to a child, you would form part of the child’s life. Moreover, you would be part and parcel of important decision-making in the child’s life. With regard to Father’s Day, a father having parental responsibilities and rights in relation to a child should have contact on that special day. As it is clear from the above, the law looks at what is best for the child. And it would be best for the child to celebrate Father’s Day with his or her father. Now let’s move on to the best interests of the child principle.

Best interests of the child

Section 9 of the Children’s Act states the following: Best interests of child paramount.—In all matters concerning the care, protection, and well-being of a child the standard that the child’s best interest is of paramount importance, must be applied. There you have it. The law does not look at the interest of the parents or other third parties. The law looks at what is best for the child. Now let us move on to the best interests of the child standard.

Best interests of the child standard

With regard to the best interests of the child standard, section 7 of the Children’s Act states the following: (1) Whenever a provision of this Act requires the best interests of the child standard to be applied, the following factors must be taken into consideration where relevant, namely— (a) the nature of the personal relationship between— (i) the child and the parents, or any specific parent; and (ii) the child and any other care-giver or person relevant in those circumstances; (b) the attitude of the parents, or any specific parent, towards— (i) the child; and (ii) the exercise of parental responsibilities and rights in respect of the child; (c) the capacity of the parents, or any specific parent, or of any other caregiver or person, to provide for the needs of the child, including emotional and intellectual needs; (d) the likely effect on the child of any change in the child’s circumstances, including the likely effect on the child of any separation from— (i) both or either of the parents; or (ii) any brother or sister or other child, or any other care-giver or person, with whom the child has been living; (e) the practical difficulty and expense of a child having contact with the parents, or any specific parent, and whether that difficulty or expense will substantially affect the child’s right to maintain personal relations and direct contact with the parents, or any specific parent, on a regular basis; (f) the need for the child— (i) to remain in the care of his or her parent, family and extended family; and (ii) to maintain a connection with his or her family, extended family, culture or tradition; (g) the child’s— (i) age, maturity and stage of development; (ii) gender; (iii) background; and (iv) any other relevant characteristics of the child; (h) the child’s physical and emotional security and his or her intellectual, emotional, social and cultural development; (i) any disability that a child may have; (j) any chronic illness from which a child may suffer; (k) the need for a child to be brought up within a stable family environment and, where this is not possible, in an environment resembling as closely as possible a caring family environment; (l) the need to protect the child from any physical or psychological harm that may be caused by— (i) subjecting the child to maltreatment, abuse, neglect, exploitation or degradation or exposing the child to violence or exploitation or other harmful behaviour; or (ii) exposing the child to maltreatment, abuse, degradation, ill-treatment, violence or harmful behaviour towards another person; (m) any family violence involving the child or a family member of the child; and (n) which action or decision would avoid or minimise further legal or administrative proceedings in relation to the child. (2) In this section “parent” includes any person who has parental responsibilities and rights in respect of a child. The Children’s Act refers to a variety of factors above. At the end of the day, what is best for the child is looked at.

Definition of “Care”

Before we end this article, we feel that it is important to deal with the aspect of care in the Children’s Act. What is meant by care? The Children’s Act defines “care” as follows: “care”, in relation to a child, includes, where appropriate— (a) within available means, providing the child with— (i) a suitable place to live; (ii) living conditions that are conducive to the child’s health, well-being and development; and (iii) the necessary financial support; (b) safeguarding and promoting the well-being of the child; (c) protecting the child from maltreatment, abuse, neglect, degradation, discrimination, exploitation and any other physical, emotional or moral harm or hazards; (d) respecting, protecting, promoting and securing the fulfilment of, and guarding against any infringement of, the child’s rights set out in the Bill of Rights and the principles set out in Chapter 2 of this Act; (e) guiding, directing and securing the child’s education and upbringing, including religious and cultural education and upbringing, in a manner appropriate to the child’s age, maturity and stage of development; (f) guiding, advising and assisting the child in decisions to be taken by the child in a manner appropriate to the child’s age, maturity and stage of development; (g) guiding the behaviour of the child in a humane manner; (h) maintaining a sound relationship with the child; (i) accommodating any special needs that the child may have; and (j) generally, ensuring that the best interests of the child is the paramount concern in all matters affecting the child;

Conclusion on the rights of a father on Father’s Day

From the above, it is clear that the law does not discriminate between fathers that were married to the mother and those who were not. What the law is only concerned with is what is best for the child. Various factors are looked at and those are outlined above. At the end of the day if it is in the child’s best interests to have contact with the father on Father’s Day; the law would enforce it.

Posted on 11 February 2025 by Telelaw

I would love to have contact with my child on Father’s Day. Her mother is refusing me contact. What does the law say when it comes to the rights of a father?

The Father

Now let’s move on to the issue of what rights does a father have to have contact with his child on Father’s Day. But before we can do that, we need to have a look at the Children’s Act 38 of 2005. Let us start off by looking at what the law says regarding parental responsibilities and rights of fathers. You will note that the law applies differently when it comes to married and unmarried fathers. However, the principles are the same.

Unpacking the law

Parental responsibilities and rights of married fathers

Section 20 of the Children’s Act deals with the parental responsibilities and rights of married fathers. It states:

The biological father of a child has full parental responsibilities and rights in respect of the child—

(a) if he is married to the child’s mother; or

(b) if he was married to the child’s mother at—

(i) the time of the child’s conception;

(ii) the time of the child’s birth; or

(iii) any time between the child’s conception and birth.

This section is straight forward. If you were married to the child’s mother, you automatically have full parental responsibilities and rights in respect of the child. In short, you do not have to be married to the mother at conception.

Parental responsibilities and rights of unmarried fathers

Section 21 of the Children’s Act deals with parental responsibilities and rights of unmarried fathers. It states:

(1) The biological father of a child who does not have parental responsibilities and rights in respect of the child in terms of section 20, acquires full parental responsibilities and rights in respect of the child—

(a) if at the time of the child’s birth he is living with the mother in a permanent life-partnership; or

(b) if he, regardless of whether he has lived or is living with the mother—

(i) consents to be identified or successfully applies in terms of section 26 to be identified as the child’s father or pays damages in terms of customary law;

(ii) contributes or has attempted in good faith to contribute to the child’s upbringing for a reasonable period; and

(iii) contributes or has attempted in good faith to contribute towards expenses in connection with the maintenance of the child for a reasonable period.

(2) This section does not affect the duty of a father to contribute towards the maintenance of the child.

(3) (a) If there is a dispute between the biological father referred to in subsection (1) and the biological mother of a child with regard to the fulfilment by that father of the conditions set out in subsection (1) (a) or (b), the matter must be referred for mediation to a family advocate, social worker, social service professional or other suitably qualified person.

(b) Any party to the mediation may have the outcome of the mediation reviewed by a court.

(4) This section applies regardless of whether the child was born before or after the commencement of this Act.

The application of this section can be a bit technical. However, it seems that if a father was involved in a child’s life, he acquires parental responsibilities and rights.

Now let us move on to what is meant by the term “parental responsibilities and rights”.

Parental responsibilities and rights

Section 18 of the Children’s Act deals with parental responsibilities and rights.

It states the following:

(1) A person may have either full or specific parental responsibilities and rights in respect of a child.

(2) The parental responsibilities and rights that a person may have in respect of a child, include the responsibility and the right—

(a) to care for the child;

(b) to maintain contact with the child;

(c) to act as guardian of the child; and

(d) to contribute to the maintenance of the child.

(3) Subject to subsections (4) and (5), a parent or other person who acts as guardian of a child must—

(a) administer and safeguard the child’s property and property interests;

(b) assist or represent the child in administrative, contractual and other legal matters; or (c) give or refuse any consent required by law in respect of the child, including—

(i) consent to the child’s marriage;

(ii) consent to the child’s adoption;

(iii) consent to the child’s departure or removal from the Republic;

(iv) consent to the child’s application for a passport; and

(v) consent to the alienation or encumbrance of any immovable property of the child.

(4) Whenever more than one person has guardianship of a child, each one of them is competent, subject to subsection (5), any other law or any order of a competent court to the contrary, to exercise independently and without the consent of the other any right or responsibility arising from such guardianship.

(5) Unless a competent court orders otherwise, the consent of all the persons that have guardianship of a child is necessary in respect of matters set out in subsection (3) (c).

This section is extensive. However, it is clear that if you have parental responsibilities and rights in relation to a child, you would form part of the child’s life. Moreover, you would be part and parcel of important decision-making in the child’s life. With regard to Father’s Day, a father having parental responsibilities and rights in relation to a child should have contact on that special day.

As it is clear from the above, the law looks at what is best for the child. And it would be best for the child to celebrate Father’s Day with his or her father. Now let’s move on to the best interests of the child principle.

Best interests of the child

Section 9 of the Children’s Act states the following:

Best interests of child paramount.—In all matters concerning the care, protection, and well-being of a child the standard that the child’s best interest is of paramount importance, must be applied.

There you have it. The law does not look at the interest of the parents or other third parties. The law looks at what is best for the child. Now let us move on to the best interests of the child standard.

Best interests of the child standard

With regard to the best interests of the child standard, section 7 of the Children’s Act states the following:

(1) Whenever a provision of this Act requires the best interests of the child standard to be applied, the following factors must be taken into consideration where relevant, namely—

(a) the nature of the personal relationship between—

(i) the child and the parents, or any specific parent; and

(ii) the child and any other care-giver or person relevant in those circumstances;

(b) the attitude of the parents, or any specific parent, towards—

(i) the child; and

(ii) the exercise of parental responsibilities and rights in respect of the child;

(c) the capacity of the parents, or any specific parent, or of any other caregiver or person, to provide for the needs of the child, including emotional and intellectual needs;

(d) the likely effect on the child of any change in the child’s circumstances, including the likely effect on the child of any separation from—

(i) both or either of the parents; or

(ii) any brother or sister or other child, or any other care-giver or person, with whom the child has been living;

(e) the practical difficulty and expense of a child having contact with the parents, or any specific parent, and whether that difficulty or expense will substantially affect the child’s right to maintain personal relations and direct contact with the parents, or any specific parent, on a regular basis; (f) the need for the child—

(i) to remain in the care of his or her parent, family and extended family; and

(ii) to maintain a connection with his or her family, extended family, culture or tradition;

(g) the child’s—

(i) age, maturity and stage of development;

(ii) gender; (iii) background; and (iv) any other relevant characteristics of the child;

(h) the child’s physical and emotional security and his or her intellectual, emotional, social and cultural development;

(i) any disability that a child may have;

(j) any chronic illness from which a child may suffer;

(k) the need for a child to be brought up within a stable family environment and, where this is not possible, in an environment resembling as closely as possible a caring family environment;

(l) the need to protect the child from any physical or psychological harm that may be caused by—

(i) subjecting the child to maltreatment, abuse, neglect, exploitation or degradation or exposing the child to violence or exploitation or other harmful behaviour; or

(ii) exposing the child to maltreatment, abuse, degradation, ill-treatment, violence or harmful behaviour towards another person;

(m) any family violence involving the child or a family member of the child; and

(n) which action or decision would avoid or minimise further legal or administrative proceedings in relation to the child.

(2) In this section “parent” includes any person who has parental responsibilities and rights in respect of a child.

The Children’s Act refers to a variety of factors above. At the end of the day, what is best for the child is looked at.

Definition of “Care”

Before we end this article, we feel that it is important to deal with the aspect of care in the Children’s Act. What is meant by care?

The Children’s Act defines “care” as follows:

“care”, in relation to a child, includes, where appropriate—

(a) within available means, providing the child with—

(i) a suitable place to live;

(ii) living conditions that are conducive to the child’s health, well-being and development; and (iii) the necessary financial support;

(b) safeguarding and promoting the well-being of the child;

(c) protecting the child from maltreatment, abuse, neglect, degradation, discrimination, exploitation and any other physical, emotional or moral harm or hazards;

(d) respecting, protecting, promoting and securing the fulfilment of, and guarding against any infringement of, the child’s rights set out in the Bill of Rights and the principles set out in Chapter 2 of this Act;

(e) guiding, directing and securing the child’s education and upbringing, including religious and cultural education and upbringing, in a manner appropriate to the child’s age, maturity and stage of development;

(f) guiding, advising and assisting the child in decisions to be taken by the child in a manner appropriate to the child’s age, maturity and stage of development;

(g) guiding the behaviour of the child in a humane manner;

(h) maintaining a sound relationship with the child;

(i) accommodating any special needs that the child may have; and

(j) generally, ensuring that the best interests of the child is the paramount concern in all matters affecting the child;

Conclusion on the rights of a father on Father’s Day

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Posted on 11 February 2025 by Telelaw

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How should divorce lawyers deal with divorce matters?

Not all divorces are the same. But the reality is, not all divorces need to be a fight. The only persons that benefit from a long drawn out divorce are lawyers. And once the funds dry out, so too does the divorce lawyer’s energy for your case. In our view, the first thing the divorce lawyers should do when approached by a client for a divorce is to resolve it expeditiously. This can be done by trying to call both parties into a round table meeting. This is where all issues are unpacked. If that is not possible, send the other side a reasonable settlement agreement. In that way, before huge sums of money are wasted on legal costs; matters can be resolved in a cost effective manner. Have a look at the Settlement Agreement below which should be part of any good divorce lawyer’s templates. It is reasonable an one that should be accepted by the other side with due amendments. [caption id="attachment_6682" align="alignleft" width="300"]

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EXAMPLE OF A CONSENT PAPER

IN THE HIGH COURT OF SOUTH AFRICA (WESTERN CAPE DIVISION, CAPE TOWN) CASE NO: /18 In the matter between: JOHN SMITH PLAINTIFF and JANE SMITH DEFENDANT CONSENT PAPER INTRODUCTION THE PARTIES, as described above, were married to each other on XXX, at XXX, Cape Town, Western Cape, and the marriage still so subsists; THREE (3) MINOR CHILDREN, namely, XXX (hereafter together referred to as “the minor children”), were born from the marriage; THE PARTIES find it unfortunate, and are in agreement that the marriage has broken down irretrievably and that there is no reasonable prospect of the restoration of a normal relationship between them; AND THEREFORE, the Parties both wish for a divorce, dissolving the marriage between them, which divorce both parties would co-operate in finalising as friendly and as speedily as possible; AND WHEREAS the Parties have arrived at an Agreement relating, inter alia, to parental responsibilities and rights, proprietary rights and costs of suit, which agreement the Parties desire to record in writing and have incorporated in the Final Order of Divorce in the event of the above Honourable Court seeing it fit to grant a Final Decree of Divorce dissolving the marriage between the Parties. NOW THEREFORE THESE SAID PARTIES AGREES AS FOLLOWS:

PERSONAL MAINTENANCE
- Each Party hereby waives his or her claim to personal maintenance, past, present and future from the other Party, if any;
PARENTAL RESPONSIBILITIES AND RIGHTS
- The Parties are to remain co-holders of parental responsibilities and rights in respect of the minor children in terms of the Children’s Act, 38 of 2005 (“the Children’s Act”) as follows:
  - The Parties are to remain co-holders of guardianship over the minor children as provided for in Section 18(2(c), 18(3), 18(4) and 18(5) of the Children’s Act; and
  - The Parties are to remain co-holders of parental responsibilities and rights of care and contact in respect of the minor children as provided for in Section 18(2)(a) and (b) of the Children’s Act.
- The Parties’ rights of care and contact shall be implemented as follows:
  - The minor children shall reside primarily with Plaintiff who shall be their primary care-giver; and
  - Defendant shall have reasonable contact with the minor children as follows unless agreed to otherwise between the Parties:
    - Every alternative weekend, commencing from Friday 15:00 until 17:00 on the Sunday;
    - Every Tuesday preceding his weekend of contact from 17:00 to 20:00; and
    - Every Thursday succeeding his weekend of contact from 17:00 to 20:00.
  - School Holidays
    - Equal sharing of long and short school holidays, in that the minor children shall reside one half with Plaintiff and the other with Defendant which shall alternate each year.
  - Special Days Contact
  - The Plaintiff and/or the Defendant, as the case may be, shall further have contact with the minor children on the following days for 3 (three) hours notwithstanding in whose care the minor children are in on those days:
    - Christmas Day;
    - The minor children’s birthday;
    - Father’s Day and Mother’s Day; and
    - The Parties’ birthday.
  - The Parties shall have telephonic contact with the minor children on a regular basis whilst the minor children are in the other’s care;
  - Notwithstanding the above, the Parties shall have reasonable contact with the minor children at all times, provided that any additional contact shall be arranged telephonically and shall only take place by prior arrangement and consensus between the Parties; and
  - The Parties shall respect each other’s privacy and shall not enter each other’s homes at any time without prior invitation, whether for the purpose of fetching or returning the minor children or any other reason whatsoever.
- JOINT DECISION MAKING
  - The Parties shall make joint decisions about the following aspects of the minor children’s life:
    - Major decisions about the minor children’s schooling and tertiary education;
    - Major decisions about the minor children’s physical care, mental health care and medical care;
    - Major decisions about the minor children’s religious and spiritual upbringing;
    - Decisions about the minor children’s residence both within and outside the Cape Peninsula;
    - Decisions which are likely to significantly change the minor children’s living conditions or to have an adverse effect on their well-being; and
    - Decisions which affect the minor children’s everyday care and daily routine shall be made by the party in whose care the minor children are in at the relevant time.

FACILITATION
- A facilitator shall be appointed by the parties jointly to facilitate and assist in resolving disputes between the parties relating to the minor children;
- These disputes shall include contact disputes should one party feel that contact should be increased or decreased, or varied for either party;
- In the event of the facilitator being unable to continue as facilitator, then he/she shall appoint a facilitator in his/her place, alternatively, or should the parties be unable to agree on the appointment of a facilitator or replacement facilitator, such facilitator or replacement facilitator as the case may be shall be appointed by the chairperson for the time being of FAMAC (Western Cape);
- In the event of the parties being unable to reach agreement in respect of a dispute, with the assistance of the facilitator, then the facilitator shall be entitled to issue a directive in respect of such dispute which shall be valid of full legal force and effect and binding upon the parties until a court of competent jurisdiction Orders differently;
- The facilitator shall be entitled in his/her sole discretion to appoint such other person as may be necessary in order to make a decision in respect of the issue in dispute, including the right to co-opt a facilitator or the assistance of an appropriate expert if he/she deems it appropriate or necessary; and
- The cost of sessions with the facilitator and the services of the expert shall be shared equally between the parties unless otherwise directed by the facilitator. Each Party shall, however, be liable for the facilitator’s costs incurred attendant upon such party’s written and telephonic communications with the facilitator.
CHILD MAINTENANCE
- Defendant shall pay an amount of R XXX – 00 (XXX Rand) per month per child, in respect of child maintenance;
- The aforementioned amounts are payable on or before the 1st day of each and every succeeding month from the date of the Divorce. The said sum shall be paid into such bank account as Plaintiff may nominate from time to time;
- The child maintenance payable shall increase annually on the 1st day of January each year, in accordance with the rise that has taken place in the preceding 12 (Twelve) months in the Consumer Price Index (CPI) for the Republic of South Africa, as determined by the Director of Statistics or its equivalent for persons in the middle-income group;
- Plaintiff shall retain Alyssa Skye Abrahams, on her current medical aid scheme, or a similar scheme with similar benefits;
- Defendant shall retain Joel Malcolm Abrahams, on his current medical aid scheme, or similar scheme with similar benefits;
- Both Parties would be responsible, in equal shares in respect of the minor children for all reasonable medical, psychological, physiotherapy, dental, ophthalmic, pharmaceutical, hospitalization and prescribed medication costs, incurred, and not covered by the latter medical aid schemes.
- If the minor children display aptitudes and qualify for tertiary education, then both Parties shall be responsible in equal shares for all the costs associated with such tertiary education, which shall include, but not limited to, tuition, textbooks, transport, and boarding if necessary. In this regard, if one Party paid for an educational expense in full, he or she shall accordingly be reimbursed with half the expense within 7 (seven) days of being showed proof of such expense.
THE JOINT ESTATE OF THE PARTIES SHALL BE DIVIDED AS FOLLOWS:
- Defendant’s Investment Policy
  - XXX
- MOTOR VEHICLES
  - XXX

BALANCE OF THE JOINT ESTATE
- The balance of the Joint Estate shall equally be divided between the Parties.
OBLIGATIONS BINDING ON ESTATE
- The obligations in terms of this Consent Paper shall be binding on the parties’ respective estates, heirs, administrators and/or assigns.
FULL AND FINAL SETTLEMENT
- This Agreement is a full and final settlement of all outstanding differences between them, and save as herein provided, neither party shall enjoy any personal claim against the other.
COSTS
- Each party shall pay their own legal costs associated with the divorce.